Self Coaching Questions
2:21PM Apr 28, 2020
few deep breaths
Hello, everybody. Over the next hour, I'm going to record myself self coaching myself. And that may sound a little bit odd but before I do that I'll explain why I'm doing this. As I have shared with you before there is a model used in coaching which can also be used for brainstorming called grow. And I'm going to run through a series of 21 questions based on the grow model. These questions will are the same, the same or similar type of questions that a coach would ask you when approaching a problem and challenge a goal with that coach? What I've done is find 21 specific questions which you can always use to coach yourself. So if you don't have access to a coach if you need to work on a problem and me Simply by taking yourself through these 21 questions, you can get a lot of the benefits of the coaching session. The reason I've decided to record this today is because I am using these questions on myself, I have a problem that I'm working on. And I decided to use the self coaching questions. And I thought I would make this recording so that at any point, any of you can run through these questions. Now, of course, you could just pull up the list of 21 questions, which is attached to the page where you found this recording, and you could just work through it yourself. What I found, however, is the stimulation of having somebody ask the question, and having a time limit imposed is really, really useful. So I'm going to stop Pretty soon, and we're going to take around about 45 minutes definitely less than an hour to run through the set of questions. You may hear some background noise, you may hear a little bit of typing. Feel free to you That as a cue that you should be doing the same thing, typing your questions. So let's get started. I'm starting the timer now. So before starting the work, try and pull to the forefront of your mind a problem or an issue you want to work on. Maybe you've come to this recording, and you've come to this page and the idea of doing this because you have something very pressing and you're very stressed about getting it done. In which case, try and take a few deep breaths to try and calm yourself down and really think about the important issue that you have to address, not just the things that are urgent. So with that in mind, I'm going to ask you a question number one, which is what would you like to work on? What is the issue that you're going to work on today?
Next question what would you like to have after answering all of these questions today? For example, the first step, a complete strategy or a solution.
Let me read that again in case the recording was interrupted. What would you like to have after answering the set of questions? For example, the first step the strategy or a complete solution
Next question what is your goal that's related to this issue? What is the goal? The Dream goal the process go What is it you're trying to achieve? We're late. To this issue
And when are you going to achieve that goal by if you set yourself a target already, write that down. If you have not now's a good time to set one.
Next question. What are the benefits for you in achieving this goal? What do you get out of it?
Next question, Who else would benefit and in what way will they benefit
Next question What will it be like when you achieve your goal
Next question What will you see, hear and feel when you have achieved your goal
Next question what actions have you taken so far to help you achieve this goal
Next question what are you doing today that is moving you towards your goal
Next question what is getting in the way of you achieving your goal today
Thanks what different kind of options do you have to achieve your goal?
Next question on top of all of those things you just brainstormed What else could you do
As you go through these questions like any brainstorm, it's fine to go back and answer previous questions. Sometimes you have an idea about what your goal is when you're quite you know quite through answering the questions, it's fine just to go back and add things to a bill.
Next question for each of the options that you've brainstormed, what are the main advantages and disadvantages?
I've now gone all the way back up to my goal and I'm really refining my goal. I've realised that I understand my goal a lot better now.
Next question of all of the things you brainstorm so far, and all the ideas if you did that to have had, which options are you going to act on? What are you going to really go for?
Next question for each of the actions you've just brainstormed when you're going to start each one.
Next question, what could anyone else do to give you support and when you're going to ask them for it
So you've now generated a list of actions in my brainstorm doing here have generated five actions. I'm going to act on them all immediately. For each of these actions on a scale of one to 10 how committed are you to take in this? answer honestly, don't just say seven or eight or nine or 10. If you're not on leak method.
Each of the things you just brainstormed if it's not a 10 what could make it a 10? Question number 20 what are you can committing to doing. Do you commit to do each of the options you brainstormed above?
Final question? You just made some commitments to yourself. That's great. Who else could you work with to keep you accountable? If you have a coach, they're a good person to do this. If you don't have a coach, is it a colleague or friend who can help keep you accountable?
And that is it 21 questions. I hope these 21 questions have given you a bit more clarity on the issue. Please leave me feedback. I'm really interested to hear how you get on with us. If you find it useful if you find it not useful, too long, too short, and so on. Just drop me a note on slack or use the feedback link that's attached to the page. You found this on as well. See you later