We are so resilient #319
12:42AM Apr 4, 2020
Hello, everybody. Welcome back to tapping this week. I am Deborah Donnndelinger. And today we are continuing our news coverage. Now this isn't news, what content, this podcast is continuing to look at our emotional response to the virus in the pandemic. And for me where I am in Maryland, this is coming into the fourth week of more intense awareness of the virus and the impact on my state and my area. Now, some of us move through, as I talked about the last time some of us move through feelings rather quickly. Some of us can see what's coming. And so we have had an emotional response earlier than other people. Some people have a more of a delayed response to what's going on. And it's been really interesting to notice the different places people are. So I have five questions that we're going to be looking at today as well. Do some tapping. And the invitation really is to give yourself permission, give yourself this time to notice what you're feeling to go in to do some processing, so that you can move to whatever is the next thing that shows up. There was a really cool graph from the hold on a second, the Institute for collective trauma and growth. And they talk about the stages that a community goes through over like three, two or three years. And one is like the Sudden Impact of one is heroism. One is disillusionment, and then I think there are five total, I'll put a link at the bottom of the podcast. But it made me It reminded me at the stages I've been going through, and I show it I'm sure you all recognize them. Many of us had a point of shock. There was one particular bit of news or cancellation or action that that sort of got our attention, and we're like, I can't believe this is how And we would have a physical sense of shock. There's some of us who have had to grieve, oh, grief on so many levels. And as I've been telling our clients, it's really okay to be selfish with your grieving. It's don't compare yourself to anybody else. Really let yourself feel the sadness of what you're not able to have or what you haven't had the experience of what you have had to experience. Then there are things that we are still putting our heads in the sand around, we are still in denial. And that's really okay. Because that our nervous system, the way we're wired, we can only handle so much. We our brains are so smart, right? They're not going to let us be overwhelmed. They're just going to give us a little bit of information at a time that we can absorb and work with. So ask yourself, Am I denying too much? So here are the five questions. I'm going to take you through and we'll do some tapping. So the first one is outside. I'm gonna assume you know how to tap I've decided for the podcast I just have to assume You know mechanically how to tap if you don't, you could find on my site how to tap and there's plenty as a video on the tapping the resource page for the virus. Yeah, so I'm gonna assume you know how to tap.
Okay, so what are you grieving?
Just notice in your body,
I was like a welcome last night a couple nights ago with this, and I have not been feeling that sad. I was still sad about my trip being canceled about my daughter's birthday. But I haven't had a lot of grief. But I have nobody in my immediate circle who's been affected by the virus or died yet. But I woke up a couple nights ago with this deep sadness and this feeling of that somebody I know is going to die from the virus. And I was like, Okay, I can feel it. Nobody's died yet. So we'll see what happens but just like what are you grieving? It could be. It could be so many things. Yeah, notice it in your heart space. scale of zero to 10
How sad do you feel right now?
side of the hand is I notice how sad I feel right now.
I hold myself with care compassion and laugh.
They notice this tenderness,
these tears, this ache in my heart.
I hold myself with care, compassion and love
is I noticed that I'm feeling sad.
I also see the love I have for whatever it is that I'm feeling sad about and I can honor both
on the eyebrow point, feeling sad
into the points on the side of the eye
it's the love in my heart
under the eye this ache in my heart and the
nose part of me thinks I don't have it that bad so why be sad?
Part of me knows it's okay to notice what I'm grieving
even though I might not know why I feel sad
I deeply honor and respect my heart
like a past you to feel
top of the head point
on whatever my heart is telling me.
Good relax your hands, gentle breath
and if the feelings of sad is a more intense go ahead and pause the video, pause the audio and do some more tapping silently and using your own words, and then come back and join in again. So the next question is, what are you feeling hopeful about? Perhaps excited or enthused? Yeah, that's a really
uncomfortable question to say out loud.
But they know there are things that you're noticing that make you feel like wow, this is cool. For me, it's noticing the positive environment, environmental impact, seeing pollution come down,
emissions come down.
unintended positive consequences from the shutdowns that are happening. I've also been had the opportunity to share a lot about tapping with people who've never been exposed to it. So reaching out and touching more people and that feels satisfying That I can be of help and of service, not at all to say I wish this pandemic was happening. Some of you might find that being at home, you're finding connections with your kids or your animals or your hobbies or yourself. Some of you might be feeling hopeful that the new plasma technique from recovered patients will help people who have the Cova 19. So see
if you notice anything that you're feeling hopeful about.
Let's do some tapping side of the hand. Even though I might feel guilty that I feel hopeful.
everybody else's feeling so sad.
I completely trust myself and how I feel. Even though it's my nature, to feel hopeful
To find the potential
and I'm not minimizing anybody else's experience. I know what feelings are felt are better for me to follow.
As I notice, I feel hopeful and grounded.
I share that energy with the world around me into the points as Mr. Rogers says, look for the helpers.
seeing how people are working together,
seeing all the people who are leading well see that artists and talented people who are sharing their skills freely. Feeling hopeful about our medical are amazing medical genius minds who were On solutions,
noticing anything I feel hopeful about.
Even if I don't feel hopeful right now.
I know that one day I will again.
Catch up, nice breath.
So here's another question, what have you accepted? We have such a resiliency. And part of the resiliency is we sort of accept what's in front of us and we move on. If you think about it, to be here as a human race. Look at what we have survived over all of these years. Think hundreds of years going back. What did your ancestors have to survive in order for you to be here? There's part of you that is amazingly resilient. Part of being resilient is accepting what is and then moving forward. So what have you accepted? What are you already doing that you would be stunned three weeks ago to think of wearing a mask to the grocery store? Changing your routines, this What have you already accepted, and give yourself credit for that, like a job in our brains really like habits we like not having to think about things. Because when we think about things, it uses up our brain energy. And that's how we have habits things are done eventually. Don't take any decision making power. So the more you can sort of accept incorporate into your day, a more freedom that gives you remember the first podcast I did about the virus and change or everything takes longer. Well, yeah, you've probably noticed that your your thought you feel like you have more energy available now, as you figured out how to do all these things that you haven't sorted out a couple weeks ago. So what have you accepted an already incorporated what Have you let go off? This is tied to the grieving question, but maybe there wasn't even grieving. I had had plans in April and May in June. And one by one month at a time I'm letting go of those plans is almost like a surrender to not having control of one's schedule. A surrender to what is so what have you let go of that you're done grieving. It's gone. You're done. Yeah. Doesn't that feel good? And then the last one question is a little bit more painful. But I'm gonna push us there. It's what are you still denying? What are you in denial about? I still think that come June. We'll have a proper summer and we'll be out and about perhaps with some distance, things still in place or some change in pace behavior, but I still think when June comes we are going to have summer I'm in the Northern Hemisphere. What is still uncomfortable to consider being changed?
One thing that causes me grief is the number of people who are going to die from the virus
brings me a lot of sadness.
And I can't quite process how many people it's going to be. Alright, we'll finish up with one round of tapping around how resilient we are put it all together side of the hand, as I noticed how amazing Li resilient I am. My family is my community is
I deeply and completely accept myself.
As I think about all of the obstacles, all of the plagues and what And Immigrations and I can't even begin to think that my ancestors lived through.
For me to be here today.
I know but I have resiliency built into every cell of my body.
Think about how adaptable I am.
How I can really evaluate my priorities.
I've already made all these changes to my routines and my home life. Ah, I acknowledge how resilient I am
going to the points.
Noticing my physical resiliency
noticing my emotional resiliency
noticing my intelligence
noticing how people are working together
Noticing all the people who I respect for what they're doing and the skills they bring. Noticing in myself, the qualities I'm bringing in showing up with
honoring the potential that we have
honoring the journey and path of the human race.
Ah, nice job.
Well, thanks for tapping on everybody. I've had the chance to introduce tapping to a bunch of people last week and I'll have a couple of live interviews coming up and really excited that I can help people work with their own emotional state, but also I know as Antonia and dodge and Joel Mark Witt say from Personality Hacker. People tend to over value, their own experience. I'm all about the emotional stuff that some of you are going to be all about the physical stuff and getting things And some of you are going to be about the mental. So I'm just holding a placeholder for us to do our emotional work, but that is not the whole pie. So wherever you're spending your energy and your time to feel resourced, keep doing that. And thanks for listening. Thanks for tapping and I look forward to talking to you with you are or for not for you. I look forward to talking in a week. Thanks