#308 what if I'm not as right as I thought
1:17PM Nov 17, 2019
Everybody, welcome back to tapping this week I am Deborah Donnndelinger. And today we're talking about I know I'm right. Or am I even noticed that some weeks people seem to be offering unsolicited opinions way more often than normal, might be on social media with your friends, or, you know, mom sends you an email. And as you know, I follow these 64 archetypes throughout the year and it can be really amusing when they show up one week and I go and check with archetype is and yeah, sure enough, it's mental projection or mental criticism. We have, oh my gosh, our minds are so amazing our ability to create our ability to think our ability to analyze our ability to invent, but when we are thinking and offering up unsolicited ideas, we're really and grounded. When we're not grounded in our bodies, and we're not open in our hearts, then our mind was the like top having leaders fall on over? Now, depending on how familiar you are with your human design chart, you might know whether you have a defined head and Asha or not. There are two things I see with these energies. One is, I see people who are really trying hard to prove that they're right. And you can feel how uncrowned that is, and really the gift of people who have that energy. It's to be looking at various ideas and seeing and testing which ideas are valid, but it's not ever to take a strong opinionated stand. Another category of people to which I belong to and these We are the type that we know where right until we realize we're wrong. So I can make very sure about what I know. There's no drama, I don't need to convince anybody else. But I can take a new information and change my mind pretty quickly. And obviously we all have elements of both of these. We can be very opinionated at times. We can be very wishy washy. We can be defensive. We can be offering up honestly lyst advice. Those of you who know me know that one of my core principles or guiding principles is advocating for us to really pay attention to our inner authority, our intuition, how we feel about things that we unlock are in alignment. And before last year, I would have said that everybody should do that. But I've been studying the cognitive functions behind Myers Briggs or that makeup, Myers Briggs. And I was sort of taken aback and a little bit humbled when I realized that my particular type known as the NFP paying attention to how we feel internally about things is our guiding way of making decisions. But that's not true for all the other types. Well, it's true for some of the types. So I've been really thinking like, wow, I was so sure pay attention to intuition was like true for everybody. And now I'm like, What if it's not? So that's an example of something where I changed my mind on another very controversial topic because the subject of immunizations that vaccines. I started off immunizing my kids. And then my son had a reaction, I decided to turn homeopathy instead. And that's worked well for my family. And now that my kids are adults are like, Hey, Mom, we want to get the measles vaccine as we go out into the world. I'm like, okay, but I had to change my mind. And I changed my mind several times about what felt right. So this week, I really want to play with the idea of mental flexibility, and also discernment.
I tell a story, there were some immigration protests happening at the airport. Now that's not correct. I think it was last year. There was some stuff happening at the airport where people will coming into the states, and they're being refused entry because of their reasons, not the reasons we're being pulled. So this isn't even an immigration issue. This is a visiting from other countries issue. And people were protesting at the airport saying that these people come see their families let the man well how can you pull their visas and attorneys were there to where they were helping the people who had been denied entry. Remember, reading a These demonstrations, I was actually at the airport and saw them happening. And I was struck by the fact that the attorneys were the ones who are making a difference. They were using their mental skills, their training skills, their professional skills. To help people deal with this issue. We need to have mental skills, we need to have the mental knowledge you want to a doctor operating you to know the body. So this is interesting combination of how can we be flexible in our thinking, and include other points of views without losing our core center. We need technical knowledge, we need medical knowledge, we need scientific knowledge. But yet there's something about having opinions that can get us really off track. Just look at the TV in the news. There's so many people with with inflamed opinions. So all this is a very long way to say. Notice those opinions you have that have emotional intensity around them. And those are the ones I suspect you might be able to do some work with. Get more calm, do some tapping that clear and you might find that your opinion changes. The opinions were unclear. There's no emotion. It's just a fact, the opinions where I'm coming out of a place of fear, or concern or worry, those opinions have way more emotion so far are tapping I want you to find an opinion you have that feels like you have to defend it. It might be that everybody should eat bacon. It might be that everybody should go to school might be that nobody should go to school. It might be that Republicans are bad. It might be that Democrats are bad. It might be that your government is corrupt. It might be that your neighbor is a jerk, but find an opinion that you would argue for but you feel a little bit emotional about. Let's do some tapping side of the hand point. Even though I know I'm right. Everybody should make decisions paying to them pay attention to their intuition.
This idea has served me well for many years.
I'm open to the idea that maybe I'm not as right as I thought I was.
Even though I thought I was right.
Everybody should pay attention to their inner intuition.
sort of taken me aback that what if I hadn't been included everybody in that idea?
Even though I thought I was right.
I'm now open to the idea that my my model has gotten bigger. I can include different points of view. Even though it feels unsettling to realize
I didn't know as much as I thought I did.
I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.
Moving through the point someone start with eyebrows. I thought I was right.
I was sure I was right.
I know this to be true.
I thought it was true. I was so sure it was true. It feels uncomfortable to realize I was wrong. It feels uncomfortable to realize I didn't have the whole picture. What if part of what I know to be true is cracked? My still moving through the points. And one of them is more for me to find out.
What's the essence of what I know to be true?
And where is there room for more information?
What's the value behind what I know to be true? And how can that value be expressed differently? deeply and completely appreciate? I thinking I noticed when I get hot headed. I noticed when I feel hot headed. I notice it doesn't feel good to have strong opinions.
I appreciate my inner clarity.
I notice how vulnerable I feel. Because I need other people to be on the same page with me. Feels vulnerable to feel alone and my opinions. This feeling of uncertainty, this feeling of vulnerability, this deep love for humanity. This love for my family, this love for my country. This love for animals. I'm open to seeing the love and my opinions and letting the rest of all nice good tapping everybody. nice deep breath. So go play with that this week. Look at where notice if you're feeling opinionated if you've noticed other people being opinionated. Can you find a common ground? Can you find the core value that they're speaking from and understand that and appreciate that? Can you listen with different ears? Don't listen for the facts. Listen for the feelings. Listen for the body sensations. Okay, everybody, thank you have a wonderful week. Keep on tapping, and I'll talk to you soon. Bye