Week 12 of the pandemic #322
10:38PM May 31, 2020
Hello, everybody, welcome back to tapping this week I am Deborah Donnndelinger. And today we're gonna be talking about a couple different things. One is the pandemic and are, where we are emotionally what our emotional responses what we need. And the other is the events in the US with Amy Cooper incident and the George Floyd murder. So a little bit of heavy energy to get started. But as you know, tapping helps us notice what we're feeling. Work through what we're feeling and find a more grounded place so we can take action or decide what we need to be doing in the world. So before we get started tapping once you tune in with yourself and just notice where are you how do you feel emotionally, physically? How much energy do you have? I was taking part in a psychology Study written online studies asking different questions about since the virus started or the pandemic started. And I was asked questions like, are you do have less energy? Are you sleeping more? Are you taking less care of yourself? standard sort of depression screening questions. I was really surprised to see that I answered yes to more things than I expected because I practice pretty good self emotional care, I help help help other people do that. So I was surprised to notice that I was still exhibiting or carrying some low level signs of being emotionally on edge. And then the following day I read an article like a third of the US are showing signs of depression. Maybe it's the same study, I don't know probably not because they couldn't get their results done that quickly. And I was out and about taking my daughter to a dentist appointment, long overdue dentist appointment, and I was struck by this just surreal feeling of the world. aren't changing before my very eyes, and realizing that the virus isn't going away, the pandemic will end but the virus isn't going away. And we're living in a time of unprecedented change. And it feels like all the systems are crumbling. Everything we know is changing. And at the same time, we know to be true love family, the birds outside the sun rising, those things aren't going away. So it's just like what a complicated time to be living in. So we have this this we're in the 12th week of the pandemic. We have this compassion fatigue, this virus fatigue, this desire to start stepping out and doing more. And then the UK in the US were hit with these big events in the UK that was this scandal with Is it coming to have the right name, just betraying the trust of the people and violating the stay at home orders. Just that could feel the shock wave of anger all the way across the ocean. In the US, we had the Amy Cooper video. And then the George Floyd murder, both tied to race. They make Cooper video is that white woman saying she's gonna call the police and tell me she's been threatened by a black man. Just showing the systemic racism and privilege that people have in the US when they are when they're white. So it's like things were feeling uncertain uneasy, and then the match hit the dry Tinder and things are just going up in flames, but literally and figuratively. So if you're feeling unsettled, for whatever reason, let's do some tapping and see where we can find our center in two points. One is whatever you're feeling is really valid. It's very legitimate is your feeling your experience and we can work with it. Don't minimize what you're going through by saying, oh, other people have it worse. That doesn't help you that doesn't help them. And at the same time, we don't want to get stuck in our own stuff and be so inward looking We never look outward at what's happening the world around us. My theory is that each have a preference that we use more, some of us go in more, some of us go out more. And I invite you to do both and look at how are you fooling yourself? And then do you need to turn your attention outside to the world? Do you need to stretch yourself? The discussion on racism in the US really requires people who are white to pause to listen to become aware to look in the systemic history, it is a time to challenge ourselves and that's not always comfortable. So we need to be resource we need to be resilient. And those of us who are dealing with practical fallout from the pandemic, yeah, we also need to pay for zelena taking care of ourselves. So let's do some tapping on the side of the hand. Even though I am feeling unsettled. The world is topsy turvy.
And I don't know what's real and what's not anymore.
I deeply completely accept myself anyway.
Even though it's hard to believe how much has changed in the last 12 weeks we've adjusted to so many things. I'm also were feeling unsettled like I'm not quite in my body yet. Even though I had my stuff, my trauma, my my shit coming into this pandemic, my life wasn't perfect. And here I am facing myself. I can't turn away. I deeply and completely accept who I am anyway. Moving through the points, I start on the eyebrow Feeling unsettled. feeling like I'm not quite settled into my body yet.
We move through the points after every phrase move to the next point under the nose now
stopping and pausing
everything is different now.
All these changes
all these uncertainties.
It can feel overwhelming.
Good stop there relax your hand gentle breath.
Notice if another feeling began to surface for you
For me, there's a little bit of
in tears, mostly when my kids got some seniors in my household and gosh darn, like, you know, they didn't, they didn't graduate the way we used to graduating. They're looking at online school. They're looking at work going online. And yeah, we're all facing different things, but for some reason, I feel this tenderness. And I think of all the teenagers and young adults dealing with this changing reality. And that's probably a bit of projection. I don't know your age if you're listening, but for me, I remember when the HIV AIDS crisis hit early 80s and the impact that was the first saw the young adult and then had such an impact on me going from Okay, sex is not something that can kill you to sex can kill you Is it like, it changed people's lifestyles, blood wasn't dangerous, and now it was I worked with sports teams and you know, blood wasn't a big deal. And all of a sudden it became a big deal. That's what this Coronavirus is doing to us. It's like changing our awareness of danger, and it doesn't feel good. And we will adapt, adjust. There'll be medical breakthroughs, but it's a pretty big deal.
And it's okay to notice that it feels like a pretty big deal.
So just notice, who are you feeling sad about?
The parents you can't see.
The family member that's far away. Just notice any grief you have any sadness. And we'll do some tapping. Even though I feel sad. And it's really okay to feel sad. It shows how much I love this person.
I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I feel sad
I honor my sadness is a sign of love. I give myself space to feel it.
Moving through the points feeling sad.
Feeling this grief
I just want to keep everybody safe.
Feeling this loss
grieving this person
has a lot going on for everybody.
And I'm feeling it personally. And we're feeling at collectively.
Good stop there.
So I don't know how many of you have noticed this, but I'll be watching a show. And there'll be a scene from pre pandemic and they're like talking in a crowd. I'm like, wait, they can't be out like that. Or I see us you know the rest. I'm like, wait, they can't be like that. So it's amazing looking through the eyes of the pandemic pre pandemic scene saying, Oh my gosh, that was no more we had no idea. And it sort of brings home the whole point of like, it feels like we're living in the twilight zone. Like, is this really happening? And I think back to the Spanish pandemic, the one of 819 18. And the idea that we're going to get through this in a couple of months is pretty ridiculous. The school my daughter's attending in the fall there, they're going online. And we really need to sort of lengthen our view a little bit to not months, but perhaps a couple of years are our ancestors who survived World War One and World War Two and your multi year conflicts? Yeah, we're resilient, we can do this. And it's time for us to realize that it might not be over tomorrow. And I think some of us were hoping it would be over faster than we might have suspected. So on the side of the hand is I noticed how surreal this all feels. I keep expecting them on a wake up and things way back to normal.
I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.
As I noticed how unwieldy this all feels
I give myself credit for taking one day at a time.
I notice how grounded I feel
how open hearted I feel.
I give myself credit for all the work I've done
and all the work I'm doing
so I can show up and be of service to other people.
Moving through the points. This feels like a twilight zone episode.
I can't quite get a grip on everything
What the heck is going on?
Nothing lasts forever.
And this pandemic won't last forever. But it showed us that structures and systems don't last forever. We were cruising along thinking everything was going to be okay.
We got shocked by this pandemic.
We didn't deserve this.
This isn't punishment.
Yes, mistakes have been made.
But there's no vengeful God saying you're going to be smitten. Is that the right word? smitten? Yeah.
We're not in trouble.
The world isn't out to get us.
We need to work together to find solutions.
To honor the people who have the intelligence and the skills and the know how. When you trust your own intuition and our own instincts need to honor look for the leaders and the good politicians
and call out the bad ones.
We're not to blame.
Mistakes were made.
And both can be true.
Good. Stop there, gentle breath.
Wow, I feel so much better. And of course I would because I was using my words. I encourage you to do some more tapping around what you're noticing. Recognizing the ongoing stress of adapting to the pandemic. It's a really big deal that has affected everybody. Even if you're still working at home and your finances haven't been affected too much and your family safe, it is still impacting you. And as we can address The underlying stress around this big thing that's affecting all of us, we can then once we've calmed down, we can turn our attention to the other events in our lives. I'm going to put in the in the comments or in the body. A link to a video by Trevor Noah he talks about why people are rioting and why what it's like to be a black person living in the US it's very thought provoking, very expensive to look at. So I invite all of you who are white, who identify as white who are white, non identify who are white, who live in the US to take a few minutes and watch that video. Notice what comes up for you. See, if you feel compassion, fit guilt, do some tapping around that. And then I'll put another link to 75 ways you can make a difference as a white person and see if any of the actions in there inspired you to do something beyond what you're already doing. Okay, thanks a lot for listening. Until next time, bye.