From overwhelm to compassion.mp3

11:29AM Apr 25, 2019

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Hello, everybody, welcome back to tapping this week. This is Deborah donnndelinger.

And

we're going to be doing some tapping on this week's topic is what we're feeling overwhelmed. And I'm particularly I'm talking to the parents and caretakers who are listening. As a mom, as a homeschooling mom

of three, there are times when

I just can't seem to get a moment for myself. And I know there are moms and dads out there

whose kids are in public schools, private schools. And the same thing applies.

Or if you're a caretaker in the health care profession or taking care of a sick one, just the

sense of constant demands that just sort of pick at you. And

there's no note no time to regroup or week round.

So if you're feeling yourself over extended,

like you just haven't had time to catch her breath, I invite you to do some tapping with me. If you're new to tapping, please visit my website EFT with Deborah calm and take a look at the tapping points. And I'm assuming you are ready to tap and we will dive right in. So we're going to

start with actually the body and taking a breath.

The constricted breathing technique is or the

constructed breath technique I forget the precise name is one of the things that Gary Craig taught originally, as a way sort of works for everybody, like everybody's got a tight breath. There's also a way to get movement when you're stuck on a on an issue and not getting a lot of insights. But when we're feeling stressed, overwhelmed, we tighten up our breathing. Just notice pay attention right now to your ribcage to your diaphragm

to your lungs.

Notice how your clothes are fitting are they too tight or uncomfortable and we're constructing your breathing and take a deep breath and notice how loose or tight it feels.

How deeper breath Are you taking Thank you go ahead and rate it from zero to 10. Where where 10 is a nice deep, full solid breath.

And zero is like your

tiny tiny really constricted breath.

And let's tap on the side of the hand.

So I noticed this, how tight my breath feels

in my chest in my diaphragm in my lungs in my ribs.

I deeply and completely accept myself

as I noticed how wound up I am and that showing up and how how

shallowly I'm breathing

deeply completely accept myself

as I noticed that I haven't had a minute to myself today or so it feels like

I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed and that showing up Am I breathing

deeply and completely accept myself. Moving to the points I began with the eyebrow feeling overwhelmed.

This type breath

now are the I feeling overwhelmed.

restriction in my breathing.

feeling overwhelmed.

Now the collarbone

Oh, excuse me I'm yawning this tightness in my chest.

feeling overwhelmed.

This shallow, constricted breathing.

Stop there. Take a breath.

No, whether your breath has gotten easier,

more full,

or if you're still carrying some constriction.

And let's do another round. Even though I know this time, I noticed this tightness in my back because I take a deep breath.

I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I noticed this tightness in my ribs and the fashion between my ribs. As I take a deep breath

I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I noticed this stiffness as I take a deep breath

I still deeply and completely accept myself

living through the points my eyebrow, the stiffness of my back.

Saturday I

this tension in my body.

under the eye this type breathing

under the nose this constricted breathing.

Chin point this stiff

breathing

collarbone

this shallow breathing

under the arm, this breathing,

top of

the head.

This breathing

take another gentle breath.

Notice that the breathing feels easier.

But also notice did anything pop into your head?

Did you notice that feeling begin to rise up to the surface.

Did you notice the reoccurring thought became more clear?

Myself, I noticed a sense of sadness.

And so I could ask myself, what's the sadness about

don't really know, sort of like a sense of despair. And it is for me personally, it's tied to events in the news. And

that

feeling overwhelmed by seeing

people dying and bad things happening

in the news. So on the side of a hand,

even though I feel sad,

and I feel despair,

but all the things that I see happening.

And I don't know what to do about it.

So I get busy and I pretend that I'm not sad.

I deeply

and completely except myself.

Even though I feel sad.

Like I can't make a difference.

And the world's too much of a mess. Sometimes.

I deeply and completely accept myself.

living through the points.

Feeling sad.

Feeling the grief

feeling what feels like chaos.

The news is too much for me to handle.

Feeling despair.

feeling powerless.

Feeling sad.

feeling overwhelmed.

nice deep breath.

So go ahead and check in with yourself.

If anything did come up for you during the constructed breathing?

Has it shifted?

Or did tapping that round on feeling overwhelmed by what's happening in the world around us? Did that bring up more things for you?

What I find interesting, you know, as I came into

this, I was feeling overwhelmed by the needs of the people around me. But really what was going on is I was feeling overwhelmed by what I was seeing in the world around me,

which is much further out of my control. So it's funny how when we have a feelings that are too big for us, we sort of

shove them in a box.

Well, let me say it differently.

Some of us shove these feelings in a box

or shove them to one side. But they sort of eek out in different ways until we stop and pay attention. So when you're tapping oh my gosh, it really is an invitation to notice.

It's an invitation to give yourself space to see what's there. And to keep going into the feelings

because they will always change and always reveal themselves

reveal something more interesting, more compassionate, more grounded and more wise.

So go back to

the beginning when we're feeling overwhelmed by by our children or by the people we're taking care of. And go ahead and run through your list the people that you're responsible for.

Could be your parents,

your mother, a father could be a spouse,

could be your children.

Could be your animals,

animal companions in your life

could be a patient.

client in particular.

Do any of these stand out to us needing some extra care or attention from you?

Do you feel any tension around any of them?

And do you? Do you know what to do for this person?

You might notice that

one of the people stand out for you as needing extra care, but you

don't know what it is that you

want to do for them.

Just notice how that feels in your body.

So on the other side of the hand point even though I want to help

this loved one.

But I don't know what to do next.

deeply and completely accept myself.

And I honor the love I have for this person or being

even though I want to help this person that I love so dearly.

But I don't know what to

do next.

I don't know where to get help.

And I feel helpless.

I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I feel helpless when I think of this person.

We're not completely helpless, but I can't help them with this one particular issue.

And it feels a little bit bleak.

I do know that I love them very much.

I'm open to the idea of forgiving myself for not knowing what

to do for them.

I've been through the points of beginning with the eyebrow

or begin wherever you like I begin with the eyebrow.

I don't know how to help them.

This issue is bigger than I am.

I don't know if this is fixable.

What's

definitely fixable, I just don't know how

I don't like to see them suffering.

Moving through the points very short phrase I don't

like to see them hurting.

The sense

of not knowing what to do

this sense of care.

Okay, stop there, relax your hand, another gentle breath.

The archetypal

energy that's been defined by the sun this week is the 27th archetype and Richard read talks about moving from the shadow of selfishness to the

gift of generosity.

And so often those of us

who are caring for others, whether as a parent or a health care practitioner, or helping a caretaker, we have this generosity of spirit. We want to help we want to give

whatever efforts don't seem to help. We can sort of shut down and a heart shut

down.

So the invitation is is can you keep your heart open?

Even though you don't know what the answer is.

When you read the news, are you willing to acknowledge the pain that people are in, even though you can't fix it yourself?

Then the model the anagram system, which I just adore, there any of them surprise, haven't done any recordings on that

underground three, which is the center of the heart triad. And one of my teachers told me years ago that the anagram the three, we absolutely our hearts just keep getting deeper and wider and broader, the more we're willing to feel the pain of another and we will not be broken. The more we're willing to have compassion and feel what others are going through our heart just broaden

and get wider

and more loves available to us.

So thank you for tapping. I hope if you started off this

tapping podcast, feeling overwhelmed that you feel better. Now, we never know what comes out of tapping except feeling better.

And if you find yourself still stuck a little bit or

you feel like there's some areas to work on that

are

bigger and deeper than a 15 minute tapping round. I invite you to reach out and get help for this from a friend or paid professional.

You don't have to keep hurting.

You can feel better.

From my heart to yours. Thank you so much and

until next week.