I release my parents #244.mp3
6:18PM Apr 14, 2019
Hello everybody, Deborah donnndelinger here. Welcome back to tapping this week, a short and sweet podcast where I talk about some archetypal energies of the week, and we do some tapping. And this is all in support of you becoming more comfortable and
yourself and who you are continuing on your path of personal and spiritual growth. And really it's about
the terminology uses feisty, spirited, tender hearted souls. It's those of us who have this intelligence and the sensitivity, the strong desire to make an impact
on the world,
but also this deep receptivity to the energies around us. So how do you manage those two, those two contradictory states? They're not necessarily contradictory. They sort of wrapped around
themselves so feisty,
spirited and tender hearted. If that's you, then glad you're here listening. If that's not you, I'm also glad that you're here listening. Yeah, can sometimes put my foot in my mouth. That's pretty funny. Okay, well, they were talking about three different energies. And, OK, I will date this. This is April, the 14th.
Have spring here in the
Northern Hemisphere. And thank goodness, well, except for the Midwest, which is just got hammered by a winter storm.
But the energy that we that we go through every time this year, and it was last week, which
was actually my
birthday week, is the energy of shock and initiation and transformation. And this this shop, this energy of shock can bring changes to people, it can bring sudden insights that can bring some unsettling energy.
But I love what a client told me last week, he said, I'm shocked at how helpful This is. so shocked can be a doorway to change. And he was talking I was taught working with him on his human design chart and information that he just found very helpful, but
at how helpful This is. For me my the shocks like went through last week is tuning into a very old wound that really is showing up and wanting to be changed.
Let us take a moment and notice what shocks what surprises what initially a Tory doorways or doors were open few last week,
and see if anything comes to mind.
we move into the architectural energy this week, which has to do
it's the four keys 42nd A Ching hex Akram Human Design gate or jinky 42nd. And it's finishing things,
it is, has a such a great energy, it is acknowledging that every thing ends, our bodies and our childhood ends, our adulthood ends, things die, things turned to dust, things transform, everything ends. And can you feel how much we try to hold on to form, you know, you know, that youthful skin that the perfect figure, the money in the bank account, we try to hold on to things for some indefinite ending that's never going to come.
And if you can feel the energy that everything ends,
that means the wounding was surprised that happened last week to you. There's any
turmoil or any pain,
that will also end.
And then we move into the third archetype, which is about beginnings, and it's more about change is about the energy for change will arrive. So just like everything ends, everything changes, everything starts. So rather abstract conversation so far. So I want us to go to something involving our parents.
parents are interesting. So for most of us, our relationship with our parents is our first experience of God, unless we happen to have a very strong faith as a child, which some of you do. Our first experience of our parents is our first experience of God, authority figures who are supposed to take care of us. And the world view that we developed towards God, source energy is often formed by the wounds that we had with our parents. So they didn't take care of you, well,
if they disappointed you if they failed you.
What do we do with that?
Are we willing to acknowledge how hurt we were without collapsing,
because if you think about as a child, we're relying on our parents to survive, we're relying on our caretakers, there is a deep biological need to be protected by adults.
So we can admit, we can admit if we've been hurt by them, because we're still trying to survive. But the energy of the third Genki that their data is coming up, Lexus really moved from this energy of survival to this energy of flourishing and connection.
So you might think your rage or your anger, your pain with your parents is going to is never ending I after this experience and on them, like if I go into this rage, it will, I will never find the bottom of it. I
will go through the earth
out the other side end up in space, and there's no end. But that's not true. But sometimes the answer we're looking for the reassurance, the validation, the approval, the sense of place, it's not going to come from our parents,
it's going to come from within, it's
going to come from our connection to source to the bigger picture.
So as we're in the energy of this 42nd, finishing things, ending things, decay, things and things die.
Is there something showing up on your healing journey that you're ready to say goodbye to? Or Heck, maybe you're just first aware of it, you're not sure you ready to say goodbye to it.
Just take a moment and see if anything comes to mind.
I suppose the question I would ask is, where are you now relationship to your parents to childhood? And are there any leftover scabs or
will or disappointments, rage, anger, grief.
See what comes to mind?
Okay, we're tapping, I'll use my own language for my experience or something similar to my experience. Please tap along using these words. And you'll find that your own issue might also drop. And then if you need to do some more tapping on your own,
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Okay, we're tapping. So
this old wounding with my parents
and it feels uncomfortable, and I don't know if it will ever end
I deeply and completely accept myself.
As I noticed this part of me that's been stuck in the past.
I deeply and completely accept myself.
So notice this old grievance I hold this old pain.
The ways that my parents failed me.
I deeply and completely accept myself.
Moving to the points I became with the eyebrow
feeling disappointed in my parents.
Sadly, I don't even like saying that out loud.
Under the I should be grateful for what they gave me.
under the nose
champion filling unseen.
filling on loved
under the arm feeling unseen.
top of the head feeling unrecognized.
Keep going with a points eyebrow.
They were too tied up with their stuff.
They were so tied up with their lives.
were limited by their childhoods.
I just couldn't see me the way I wanted to be seen.
Part of me is really angry about that.
Part of me is really angry about that.
Go ahead and add in the anger point it's below the breast along the crease line between the ribs and the breast tissue sort
of center of the breast.
For men, it's about four inches under the Napoleonic whip. And it might be sore might be a lump float in there. So on the anchor point is old anger and disappointment with my parents.
Part of me thinks I should get over it.
But part of me wants to acknowledge what hurts.
Okay, stop there. Take a breath.
So here's the thing, here's what happens
when we discount our pain
because we think oh, I should know better. I had a pretty easy Who am I to,
know, care. But when we do this count our pain we also discount our hunger. We discount this heart based need we have for validation for approval for acceptance for love. What happens is we get confused, we think oh, I have this need. My parents can't give it to me. So I can't get us Let's pretend I don't have this need. Pr so far from the truth. This need of yours can be met can be met by people in your life, it can be met by your connection to source that can be met by yourself.
So can we start to tease out the to the disappointment what we didn't get and the heartfelt need that we have for these qualities from a parental figure from an authority figure from a loving, compassionate authority greater than us.
I met a small group coaching
component business intensive with Mark silver heart of business and he does this. He's a Sufi.
I don't know if he's a Sufi
master. I know that terms of very precise. But he does this
beautiful application at the start of our group. And there's something so reassuring when
you bring in outside authority that loves you,
when you bring in support from something bigger than you and strong within you,
for some of you, you might that doesn't fit yet. But for many of us, we've worked our way from doing it ourselves and proving it that we can do it ourselves. And now we're surrendering into a bigger picture into something where we are supported and we can receive.
Okay, on the side of the hand point.
Because I noticed what I want.
I'm willing to trust that my heart's needs are important.
As I notice, what I feel like I didn't get
wanting to trust that what my heart wants is valid
is I noticed how mad I feel that I didn't get what I
I'm willing to say universe show me another
Living to the points I began with the eyebrow.
I didn't get what I needed.
side of the eye.
I didn't get what
would fill my heart.
I was in physical and emotional pain.
I'm not in pain now.
Part of me still needy.
And I use needy in a good way.
We all have
this desire to be seen and connected and loved and respected and validated.
class you keep tapping? Yes, I honor my desire to be seen.
my desire, Phil, appreciate it.
Keep moving through the points I honor my
desire to feel understood.
Know my desire to be helpful.
I honor my desire to be myself.
I honor my desire to feel relaxed and comfortable as myself.
I honor my desire to know that I matter and so does every single other person in the world around me.
nice deep breath.
There is a beautiful poem,
an ancient South American as depth poem that's
been going on on Facebook and on some new age blogs have actually written to a professor at University of Texas who is a Mexican American, and he translates into an asset poetry and I asked him to find where did this come from, because it's only I've only seen in his English form.
And I'm going to read to you I want to read you this ancient as Ted blessing. The translation of this agent has tech blessing.
I released my parents from the feeling that they have already failed me.
I released my children from the need to bring pride to me that they may write their own ways according to their hearts that whisper all the time in their ears. I released my partner from the obligation to complete myself, I do not like anything I learned with all beings all the time. I think my grandpa parents and forefathers who have gathered so that I can breathe life today. I release them from past failures and unfulfilled desires, aware that they have done their best to resolve their situations within the consciousness they had at that moment. I honor you, I love you and I recognize you as innocent. I am transparent before your eyes. So they know that I do not hide or anything, then being true to myself and to my very existence that walking with the wisdom of the heart. I am aware that I fulfill my life purpose, free from invisible and visible family loyalties that might disturb my peace and happiness, which are my only responsibilities. I renounced the role of savior of being the one who nights or fulfills the expectation of others, learning through and only through love. Bless my essence, my way of expressing even though somebody may not understand me, I understand myself because I alone have lived and experienced my history. Because I know myself know who I am, what I feel, what I do, and why I do it. I respect and approve of myself. I honor that affinity and me and in you. We are free.
And the attribution says this, this ancient blessing was created
and then the whole tool language spoken in Mexico. And I'm still looking for a source and if I find it, I'll put it on the on my podcast page.
Now Okay, well thank you for listening and tapping along. I wish you a wonderful week and until next time, thank you