Things are falling down. And it's, you know, it's not well insulated, it's just been built, not very well, through no fault of our own bass, just what it is, you know, our confidence being represented as a house. And so, when we look at this, we're like, I Great, okay, okay, I'm done with this house, I want a new house, which is, which is like, let's, let's paint, let's paint it yellow. And, you know, let's put like flags on the, on the, on the roof. And, and let's put a balcony in the back and a pool and, and let's do all this stuff. And that's really exciting and important to dream about what the house is going to look like and what you're going to do and all that sort of jazz, but first things first is we have to tear down that house and look at the foundations. And look at what happened here. What has happened here to make this house just a bit unstable or a bit, you know, shit. And that's boring stuff. Right? You know, just like, I just built a fucking family Foundation's, just whatever, just get on with it. I want a pool in the back garden. So we don't have to be engineers to work out that that's not gonna fly right? In, you're never gonna have that big strong house long term with those shit foundations. And then the house is gonna collapse. Fall into the pool, maybe while you're having a dip. And then what are you going to feel that you're going to be like, Oh my god, I tried again, and it just fell down again. You'll lose even more confidence. And you'll lose more confident, less calm, you'll have less confidence because you're like, Oh, I tried I tried so hard. And it looks so good. From the outside. You know, we hit the yellow walls. We had the flags on the roof, we have the balcony, all that stuff, but it fell down again. So fuck it. I'm not i I can't do this. So we have to work out why we feel the way that we feel about fatness about our bodies, about who we are about food, all that stuff. Now a mistake people make around this is just do it just be like, just just love yourself. Just look forward just let's forget about the past and, and toxic positivity. So if you haven't heard that, that term before toxic positivity, according to very well mind.com Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, people should maintain a positive mindset. It's a good vibes only approach to life. So sometimes it's good to be positive, right? Like you don't want to be all the time being like, you know, this is shit. This is bullshit. You remember that one time you did that 15 years ago, and people are like, Well, why are we still talking about this? But you still do need to sort things out before you can move on. And it's not being negative, to talk about things that have hurt you in the past. And why you feel certain ways about fatness or food or whatever it is. And it's funny because we're programmed to be programmed to be positive. We're programmed to be positive how often people say to you, you know, you got your store. Someone says how are you? Oh, I'm fine. Thanks. How are you? Good. Yeah. Nice day. What's a bit rainy out? You know, whatever. You're not ever going to? Probably not. Yeah, I would say ever, but you're probably not going to be like, you know, someone you know, you get your groceries and the person's like, how are you and you're not gonna be like, You know what, I actually feel really bad. I've got a massive turtle head. I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday and he's like, he was a massive Belen. So you know, I've got mixed feelings about it. And yeah, I just keep thinking about the fact that I need to have a big shit. And you probably wouldn't, you know, that might be the reality, but you're not going to say that because, you know, it'd be weird. Maybe you said you're a friend. But, you know, it's our default is to do like, yes, good, good, good. Yeah, you know.