Yeah, and then it goes into regretting motherhood, if only I could be nobody's mum. And so he'd regret the wish to undo the irreversible and the politics of regret, and how in society, we're told, Don't look back, look forward, look back and feeling regret, like no regrets, and how that is not helpful because sometimes we do experience regret. And that's a valid feeling. So I thought that was the interest on living with an elicit emotion. And things in here as motherhood is a traumatic experience, obligated to care, being a mother and never ending story, wherever the father's fantasies are vanishing. So some some of these mothers in this book left and the children are with the Father. Yeah, full stop. That's the end of the sentence. Father, raising the raising my intonation. And then finally, Oh, no. What about the children? And so should you tell the children? Shouldn't you tell the children? Some mothers are like, absolutely never, I would never tell my children that I regret them. And somehow, like, it's my duty to let them know that parenting, isn't it, what it's all cracked up to be? Because my mother lied to me and said, Oh, my best experience of my life and therefore you should do it. And then so some of these mothers are saying, Yes, we should tell our children and some have told the children. So protect protecting the children by silencing regret or projecting the children by letting them know. And then finally, mothers are subject. So this is where my mother's object, so is it satisfaction and motherhood only a matter of conditions? And so, in this final bit, it's it's talking about how a lot of pizza a lot of people in my survey, in my in my story, they were like, well, people probably feel regret because they have tough situations, or they don't have enough money or they don't have enough support. And in the book, it's saying, well, actually, yes, that is a bit of a factor. But a lot of these, these mothers in this book who regret, they just regret the idea of being beholden to someone, or that motherhood is just not them. And they don't, it's just not a part of who they are. So anyway, that was really interesting, thought provoking stuff, but I'd share it with you because so many people kind of were so interested, like people who had parents and people, people who were parents, and people were thinking about becoming parents and people who knew that didn't want to become parents. And some people who are kind of like on the fence, it they appreciate it getting maybe the other side, because I've I've kind of felt like a lot of the times with parenthood, you can see a lot of the highlight reel with anything really you see the highlight reel, and you don't see the hard the shittiness or sometimes as well in society when we have these expectations of what we should be doing with our with our life. Like we have to get married and have kids and strive to have a high paid job and have a car and Lola examining these things in mind and think do I actually want to do it and sometimes you're like, Yeah, fuck yeah, I want to do it. I love kids and I want to have my own kids or, or actually, you know what, it's not really for me and that's okay, too. So whatever the the thing is both Okay, so I'm kind of in that. I'm pretty sure I don't want kids but I don't want to say like, 100% No, I don't want kids. I'm not at that point. Even A kid I was, as a kid, I remember being I don't know, between the age of 10 and 15 saying something saying, I will not have kids before the age of 30, because I had this perception, but I couldn't live if I had kids like, well, there's no, there's no, obviously I had that perception, because, you know, my childhood was was was difficult. So yeah. And so it was kind of that was my, what I went into kind of like, Oh, God, no, I wouldn't want to have kids until I'm Lisa. And then when I got to 30, I was like, Oh, that's a bit young, isn't it? And now I'm 37 on like, oh, it's almost like, I wish I could put like a I wish that I could indefinitely have children. And I can in regards to I could adopt. And, and obviously, that's a very privileged thing to say.