more of the involved in all of that type of stuff. And the person, the feeder and the fee are both enjoying this relationship, right? It's consensual. So and there's nothing wrong with having a fish by the way, as long as Yeah, as long as everyone's safe as possible and everyone's consenting, and the thing is, sometimes I think it's Some people can be vulnerable, especially if you live in a world, which we do. That says that being fat isn't attractive. And then like this, like Isabella has experienced getting out of relationship and realizing, actually, there's a lot of people who really want to get with me. Sometimes people self esteem needs time to catch up in regards to setting boundaries, and speaking up for themselves. And so sometimes there can be this situation where people are in a relationship, they don't like what's going on. But I feel like they don't have the agency to speak up and say, I'm not really into it, for whatever reason, in lots of different circumstances. And so I just want to say, no matter who you are, you've always got the right to say, I'm not into this, or I'm really into this, wherever it falls, that's, that's, you know, to know that you don't have to put up with things that you don't like in any type of situation, any type of behavior, just because you have a bigger body. There are many, many, many people out there. Just like Isabella said, hundreds of messages a day, holy shit, I don't know what site is better was on but I wasn't gonna get on it. I want those hundreds of messages. So, Isabella goes on and says, Is it okay? As long as I'm okay with it? Yes, yes. Yes. If that's, if you're okay with it, then it's okay. Right? If you're both okay with it, it's okay. But you, you said that you don't want to be with someone who only likes you for your body. So maybe you can set some parameters around what does and what doesn't feel good for you, this person or with other people. You cope, you go on to continue. The thing that concerns me most is that he says he wouldn't find me as attractive if I was smaller, and would want me to put on weight if possible. As an intuitive eater, I always eat what I fancy and never weigh myself. So the thought of trying to control my weight or size feels very uncomfortable. So that's like, that's the answer right there makes you feel uncomfortable. It makes you feel uncomfortable. I wonder you know, just exploring that of like, why does it make you feel uncomfortable? There's no right, right or wrong answer there. I was thinking about this, like, would I want to date someone who is a feeder and I was you know, thinking about this, I haven't ever come across this myself in my dating life. I don't think I'm on the right websites. But I don't think that I would like to think about someone feeding me or wanting encouraging me to eat more than I want for their satisfaction it kind of fit, you know what it kind of feels like? It feels like just sis hetero sex which is all about the man. All about them getting their kicks, and leaving women in a sis hetero relationship, leaving women there to be like, Well, I've used you for what I want. See you later. Like, you go sort yourself out like it. That's the that's the vibe that gives me is that they're not doing it for me. They're doing it for you. That's how I would feel. Because I'm I'm I'm don't think that I'm into it. And so, you know, if I was into it, maybe I wouldn't I wouldn't have that kind of distaste because I would feel like it's they're just using me sort of thing. And, you know, maybe on a special occasion, say if I was with someone that they you know, they love fat people and maybe on a special occasion, they want to want to feed me for fun, then, you know, I don't think that that would be a big deal, but not as a main part of my sex life with someone. I mean, I'd happily let them feed me what I'd normally say if they're like, Oh, you're having some lunch, can I feed you your sandwich and I'll be like, thank you very much. I probably like it, or they wanted to worship my body. I'd probably like it. Basically treat me like royalty, I would like that.