Okay, let's see here. Okay, she so she has no health goals. And then you say, that's fantastic. Everything in your life is perfect. You don't want to change anything. So I see what you're what you're trying to do here, but I probably would have played a little bit softer here. So if she said, No, I don't have as a health goal. I would say, I would say is health on your priority list for this year, because we all know how it can shift on the priority list. Okay, so that's a way to reengage her back to that conversation. It just feels and I know you're not in an in authentic person, because you're in this program. And you're looking me in the eyes. And I can tell you're a wonderful human right. But just like I said earlier, is that when we're in these types of conversations where they don't see our nonverbals, or eyes or connect with us through voice or anything, it's super easy to be misunderstood, right. So this almost feels like condescending, right? If you think about this, now that you look back, like oh, yeah, I guess everything's perfect in your life, like, how's your job going? So you have to think like, I know, that's not what you intended, but good that could be easily communicated in text in this way. And that's why she was like, lol, like, she was like, oh my goodness, right. And then she says, I don't have a job. Seriously, I'm a stay at home mom. Life is not perfect, but too overwhelmed to make goals at this moment. So that's great. Right? Wonderful. Now shoot me now we've got some fun talking about game. Um, how old are your kids? Great job. So you, I want you to see how you saved this conversation. Because this is really important as you're improving your skills and really getting great at this. The reason why the conversation kept going is because you did something really well here and you kept the conversation connected to your next natural question. Right. So great job. And she said that she's blasted she's home with her kids. So you know, that's what she cares about. So now you're talking about her kids. So good job. Okay. Um, let's see your 1316 13 and eight. Okay, what an abundant life you have right now, being too overwhelmed to make goals. Do you have energy to make it through a day? Okay, did you see my message? Alright, so that never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, everyone on this call? Never ever, ever send this message. The reason why is, I don't know anybody who's ever responded to it. Okay, and I get messages like that really, really often. And of course, like, if I saw your message I chose not to respond. Or if I did see your message, and I didn't respond, I still really liked that check in. So what you can replace it with is going back to what your last thing was that you're talking about. So for example, what an abundant life you have right now, being too overwhelmed to make goals. Do you have enough energy to make it through the day so you're close there? You're so close. So what I would have replaced this with is I love what you said what an abundant life you have right now to have the privilege of being a stay at home mom, can you remember Remember a time before that you had the space to create those personal goals to Kate and get her re centered back on herself, because she's clearly only thinking about her kids, which is why she feels overwhelmed. So you have the opportunity to pull her out of that, and put her back into thinking about herself a little bit, here. So try that one on for size next time. And down here. First of all, if she hadn't already seen this, I would tell you to go this, I would tell you to go back and recall it and send something else but because she has seen it, what I would actually challenge you to do is to jump in with a voice note so she can connect with you on a personal note and say something along the lines of