People were just like, Oh, okay. Not everyone. But let's say a good 95% People are like, Oh, okay. Can you tell me more about that? And I'm like, oh, because I really thought that they were going to be like, Fuck you, you're dead to me. And the more that I practiced it, the more I was like, oh, people, a lot of them are actually very kind. And a lot of them want to do good by me. Wow, that's really nice to hear. Wow, we can strengthen our relationship. Wow, we have a really good relationship now. Whereas before I secretly hated them, because they were doing normal things. You know, they didn't know bothered me. So, here's the thing, you'll do that first thing, and then you're like, how was fucking hard, but it went? Well, you know, they're probably never going to say diet Kotori things again, and of course, the next time you see them, they would have forgotten that conversation, maybe not forgotten it, but it will, they'll just slip up. No fault of their own. Well, you know, whatever, else slip up. Same with me with my pronouns, right? The people will just slip up. The, the way they react when they what you need to do, and the way they react, when they slip up is a really good indicator of who they are. And so you just taking the stance of how when someone gets my pronouns wrong, I will just say, Oh, they, or I'll just say, oh, yeah, and non binary, something like that. I'll just say just simple as that, no, kind of like, hey, that really Brotherbrother unless they're being really, you know, rude about it. And it's just not a big deal. So you could say someone's like, Oh, my God, have you tried this new diet? And you're like, Oh, hey, you remember, I'm not talking about diets? And they will? Oh, yeah. Because remember, they might have known you for years as someone who likes talking about diets. So it's going to take time for them to get used to it. And so you might have to do this a few times. It's up to you, if you want to do it at all, or how long you want to do it for. You might say, You know what? I'm just gonna keep doing it until they get it because there's the, they're a big part of my life, and I'm just gonna keep helping them understand until they get it. It could be that you know, that you're like, Okay, well, shit, man, I've seen this person, five times. Now, every single time I've had to say this, I'm going to reduce the amount of contact with them. Or I might even choose to remove them from my life eventually, maybe? Who knows. So how is this life played out for me in real life. An example of someone who I chose to remove from my life is someone I gave many chances to, and there are a core core member of my family. And when it became clear that they had no intention of not being a bigot, that's when I said that's, you know, unfortunately, that's the end of our relationship. And, and so my tolerance level was, you know, a certain amount, but then when they were like, I don't care about hurting your feelings, then I was like, Okay, well, there's nothing to work with there. So see you later. And that happens to be three, three years ago. So it's been so nice, not having them in my life. Because they just weren't very good. They didn't care about it, they didn't care about my feelings or wanting to be close to me, they cared about their own beliefs. Right. And, and that was difficult. And that was years and years and years in the making, because there's lots of different issues at play, right? Now, let's think of someone like my mum, who had spent her whole life in diet culture and fatphobia. It took time, and many times me saying, hey, sometimes it took longer, because we don't you know, she lives in Ireland, and I'm here in Vancouver, and I maybe wouldn't see her and, you know, speak to her on the phone long enough for it to come up. But then when I would see her in person, it would be triggered more, because, you know, maybe she'd see me eating food. Or maybe she'd see me wearing clothes. And then that's where the opportunities where she might say things. And so it took a while and now she is great. She is