How much? How much capacity do I have right now to engage them in a conversation? Like, for example, my neighbor, she's a 70 year old woman. She's really cool this like feminist, great choice in movies. Anyway, I love talking to her. And then I bumped into her and she's like, I'm just gonna go have my breakfast for breakfast. And I don't know why the fuck I said this. I said what you haven't for breakfast? Why did I do that? I should not be asking people what they're having for breakfast for a mean different reasons. But I was just like, Oh, I'm gonna go and have breakfast to you know, what are you? How are they? And then she said, Well, I used to eat this. And I said, That's what I eat for breakfast. And she says, but then I know I don't eat that anymore because it's got too much sugar. And I was like well, I just done a sugar episode on the podcast. And, and so I said, What do you mean? I know what she meant. But I said, What do you mean? And I said, Oh, is it that you fear that? Do you fear that sugar is bad for you? She says yeah, oh, yeah, here it is my said, actually, you know what? So this is this is the work that I do. And I literally just recorded an episode on sugar. And actually, we don't need to fish sugar and you're not addicted to sugar because she's like, she's like, I can't have sugar in it in my house. I will just eat all the sugar. I'm out of control around sugar. She said all that type of stuff, right? And, and then I said, Do you know what's not true? And she was like, really? I was like, yeah, and then I just left it left it at that because I could kind of see that she was kind of like bullsh. I'm gonna continue to get engaged in a conversation. But I might also in that section ration if she was like, sugar is bad, I might just be like, yeah, totally see like a baby. And she because she wasn't saying, Vinny, you're a piece of shit because you eat sugar she was, you know, it's about her, it was about her. And maybe in the future, I might talk about things with her. And she's actually said a couple of things that I was like, when she she talked about being afraid about getting fat twice. And it didn't, it didn't. When she said that it wasn't followed by, which is fucked up. Because, you know, I know that's, that's my own weight bias and Lola, and I was gonna bring it up with her later, but then I was like, Ah, fuck, I can't be bothered. Anyway, so she's the only person in my life currently who like kind of believes these types of things. And, and because she's so cool, I really like her. I will persevere up until that point. So, so come up with a few different ways, whether it's like, questioning them trying to understand their intent, or straight kind of shutting it down. Another thing kind of the I will go to is, the one that I go to is, I just want to be nice and kind to people, even if I don't understand them. And so when people are like, wow, in immigrants, or these people, or that people or whatever, I just think it's best in our world to try and be kind. And it's hard for people to say, No, we shouldn't be kind. I mean, it's hard. It's not impossible, it's certainly more like fuck them fatties. And, and that's when, you know, if I'm flustered, and I'm just like, I don't know what to say, I just say, I just want to be kind to people. And if people, you know, do this or do that I, you know, I just want to respect them and be kind, because that's important to me, that's one of my values. That's when you know, I want to have a conversation with someone, sometimes you just have to shut that shit down. So an example of me shutting something down recently was, there's this guy that is in my neighborhood. And he hangs out and he barks at people who he perceives to be women with who have dogs. And he's done it to me a number of times. And then he's like, laughing with his mates. I think he's probably got, you know, mental health issues and, and whatnot, but it, it makes me feel really uncomfortable. So anyway, I was like, Oh, my, this motherfucker. And I was talking to my therapist about it. And I was like, Well, I don't want to say anything, because I don't want him to be sad, because he's probably got mental health issues. And I don't want to be like, you know, you're a bad person. Because what if he then means that he's like, going to be sad, and then die. You know, my words are so powerful that I just got killed people on the street.