So that does transport us, doesn't it, it's, it's amazing. I wanted to offer something about the 94 year old mother, because my mother turns 94 this year. So we have something in common, and the things that you, you know there are different levels of things that you can do. One of them, for your, you know you have, so you have the mother of your friend. And then you have your friend and her and her family of this mother. And then you have you. So starting with the relationship with your friend. Clearly, the mother has fear of dying but your friend has fear of the mother's fear of dying. So, it is helpful for you to create it, and Andrew is talking about atmosphere and atmosphere is really important. And you can use your breathing to create that atmosphere. So when you're talking with your friend you can pick up on their energy. Human beings are like tuning forks, if we notice the frequency at which we're vibrating, it's usually because the people that we're with are vibrating at that frequency. So, so you can pick up and and reflect that with your friend and say, you know, this isn't a particular spiritual practice, but this is a grounding practice and a stabilizing and centering practice, and just be with them breathing together for a little bit. And as best you can pick up on your friend's breathing and kind of mirror it and stay with it and then you slow yours down, and your friend will slow theirs down as well so that's something you can do together. And then you can say see what we just did, is something that you can do without even telling your mother that you're doing it, but just try to tune into her energy and be with her. And by you being peaceful, and you not being anxious about her fears. She'll pick up on that and it will relax her fears because, you know, it's interesting we talk about old age as a second childhood, when you have a one or two year old, sometimes they'll trip and fall, and they don't know how to react and they'll look to their mother, and if the mother says, Oh, you'll be okay then, they don't get all freaked out. But if the mothers all freaked out, oh you fell Are you okay, then they start crying. So your energy is very very important and if you're peaceful, and you aren't concerned with what's going to happen, that you can include that in your life, and share that that idea with your friend, that that's the environment that they need to create for their mother, that, that will be helpful it's all atmosphere, and the atmosphere that they create, without calling it a spiritual practice. And the other thing that's, that's helpful, is stories, maybe even like children's stories, but stories that talk about the journey of life. And rather than confronting directly and saying, Oh, here's a story about how people handled this dying. Just talk about stories and you don't want to come, as Andrew said straight at it, you don't want to be charging in. But sharing stories, and family feelings. And, and all of the qualities of gratitude, appreciation and acceptance of the changes we go through in the course of our lives. So any of those subtle messages that this is all part of the, as they say, the great mandola the grit, the, the, how the journeys through life without making a big deal and create and and amplifying the fears. I think that might be helpful. That's what I tried to do with my mom. The, the other question about freewill is very interesting, because when we say Free Will it posits this