Writing Class Radio - Episode 160 V4
Matt CundillJul 25, 2023 at 6:21 pm12min
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00:14Allison Langer
I'm Alison Langer.
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00:16Andrea Askowitz
I'm Andrea Askowitz and this is Writing Class Radio. You'll hear our true personal stories and learn how to write your own stories. Together, we produce this podcast, which is equal parts heart and art. By heart, we mean the truth in a story. By art, we mean the craft of writing. No matter what's going on in our lives, writing class is where we tell the truth. It's where we work out our shit. There's no place in the world like writing class, and we want to bring you in.
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00:47Allison Langer
Today on our show, we bring you a story by student Emily Henderson. She had a story here aired previously on episode 144, When Is A Gift More Than A Gift? That story is about living through Christmas after the death of a child. It is fucking amazing that story. In fact, we've used that story as an example of how to write a story with our other students. And even though it's really, really sad, it is seriously one of the best stories ever written. Emily can fucking right. Emily Henderson is a runner and writer living in Santa Barbara, California. She's written for Scary Mommy, Huff Post, the Santa Barbara Independent and Writing Class Radio. To heal or at least just move again after the death of her son Emily ran every street in Santa Barbara and is working on a memoir currently titled Running In Place. You can follow her on Instagram at Emily Kathleen Writes, or visit Emilykathleenwrites.com and that's Kathleen with a K.
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01:45Andrea Askowitz
And all those links will be in our show notes on our website and on all the podcast platforms. The story we bring you today is called Cliches Saved My Life. The story is 354 words long. It's short and sweet. See what I did there. We'll be back with Emily Henderson's story after the break.
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02:08Allison Langer
We're back. This is Alison Langer and you're listening to Writing Class Radio. Here's Emily Henderson reading Cliches Saved My Life.
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02:28Emily Henderson
They say clichés are corny, predictable, and overused, but what if I told you clichés saved my life?
I've been collecting clichés for 15 years, sitting in uncomfortable chairs in church basements with "people who normally would not mix." See, even that's a cliché, but unless you are a friend of Bill W., it will fly high above your head.
In my writing, I often use a cliché as filler to capture an idea in a first draft. Then later, I go back and replace it with more original and specific language. My teacher tells me, you can do better, or I've heard this before when I write things like "heart racing," "end of the world," or "Suddenly, things that happen to other people were now happening to me."
In July of 2019, my 17-month-old son was diagnosed with brain cancer, and by November, he was gone. After my husband and I held his cooling body and said our final goodbyes, and it was time to leave, I pulled out my collection of simple phrases like, "One day at a time," “easy does it,” and "wisdom to know the difference" and repeated them in my head like a metronome. What if the only thing that kept us safe on that drive was because "God was doing for us that which we could not do for ourselves."
What if when I felt like I might not survive the death of my son, that the pain might be too great, I remembered that "feelings are not facts" and "this too shall pass," even if I don't really believe it just yet, what if I could "fake it until I make it?"
What if my pocket full of clichés were the mattress I fell on after falling off a cliff, crashing through a brick wall, and then a glass window?
I'm still just as bruised and broken, but because of my clichés, the alcoholism that is normally doing push-ups in the parking lot waiting for me to slip is nowhere to be found. Scared off by words like, “When Life hands you lemons..." You know the rest.
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04:35Andrea Askowitz
This is so sad and so good. It's like 300 and 54 words, I think. And it's, it's like this narrator gives us the like, what? All over like we see all the cliches she's using and the best part is that it's all about why. This is like, why does she use cliches, that's what this story is about and then she totally will kill me when she just drop, there was this moment where she dropped it in. In July of 2019, my 17 month old son was diagnosed with brain cancer and by November, he was gone. So we know why she's living, like using these cliches to save her life. It's such a full story, it's so gorgeous.
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05:56Allison Langer
You know, I have not heard or read a story like this, that leaves, trusts the reader enough, or the listener enough to let them figure things out and I loved it so much, just the way she starts with the uncomfortable chairs in the church basement. So we're like, okay, she's in a meeting, or something and then a friend of Bill's. Now, I have no idea what that was when I was young. But I dated somebody, and we were at a party and somebody said, 'oh, are you a friend to bills?' And the guy said, 'yes'. And I was like, 'who the fuck is Bill?' And later, I was told that that's the sign that people ask each other when you're an alcoholic and I just was like, wow, I learned, you know, like, I literally was like, in my 40s. So I don't know I loved it, maybe because like, oh, my God, I know, something I know something I can follow along. Like, I felt really good about that. I don't know if that meant that other people got let left out. But I think that one little thing, if somebody didn't know, they would just assume that they knew each other previously and then later, she does tell us about the alcoholism doing push ups in the parking lot.
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07:16Andrea Askowitz
Yeah, exactly. So if you didn't know, or you were wondering, there, she brought it back. She gave us more clues about what that meant, without saying it overtly or directly.
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07:30Allison Langer
But it just felt like a secret conversation between us before that and it drew me in so much because of that and I don't think we've ever had anything like that on the podcast and quite frankly, I've never read anything like that. So I just think this is super unique and really amazing. I think it would be really cool to keep trying to recreate something like that, you know, to be inspired enough to try to create our own stories
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07:56Andrea Askowitz
That's a good you're so you're saying listener, hey, radio listener, try to write a story.
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08:02Allison Langer
I'm saying that but not as geeky.
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08:04Andrea Askowitz
I like it like that, hey, radio listener, write a story in this form. So So Allison, how would you like what would what prompt would you give? Like, how would you?
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08:14Allison Langer
Well, I think if you're writing about cancer, or you're writing about something that there's a very large group that will understand and even people associated with it will also pick up the clues. So you don't have to bop the person over the head with I had cancer, you could just drop in clues and then later explain what's the story, because she's clearly suffering through something and we're not sure why, then we get a little bit of a clue that she's just lost her child, we still don't know if she was had like this challenge prior to that, but it's not important to this story. It's just that this happened to her and she's dealing with it and the only way she can get through all this shit is by telling herself those cliches one day at a time, and sort of weaves it into the whole lingo of the Alcoholics Anonymous, which I thought was brilliant. So she's got these two things going on that are woven.
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09:12Andrea Askowitz
So the story is not about cliches. It's about survival, but she's using cliches over and over again, to tell us how she survived and surviving. And she has survived two things, alcoholism, and the death of a child.
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09:31Allison Langer
Well, those are two things that she's mentioned in the story. We don't know what else she survived. She may have survived many, many things.
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09:37Andrea Askowitz
Right true exactly.
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09:38Allison Langer
As you get older and older, you almost can't get away from it.
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09:43Andrea Askowitz
Well, she actually we do know that she's survived many things because she's been a student in our classes. She's actually right now in my in my second draft class and she read this, she brought this in it and second draft is stories that are already pretty much it's not first draft. I've said they're worked on at home. I don't know how long she worked on this, but this is exactly how it came in nd I was like, this is so gorgeous. So different, beautiful. I felt that from the beginning. Just I love this story.
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10:15Allison Langer
Yeah. And it's what's also interesting I just want to say is that we're always trying to cut cliches out of everybody's writing, including our own.
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10:24Andrea Askowitz
My teacher tells me you can do better, or I've heard this before.
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10:28Allison Langer
Yeah, but we never know what those cliches actually do for somebody else. So not saying go put them all in your writing, but this particular essay shows us that in order to survive, some of us need to grasp on to and cling to cliches.
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10:48Andrea Askowitz
Absolutely. Damn. Holy shit. Don't forget to check the show notes for links to our previous episode, and a link to our social media.
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11:08Andrea Askowitz
Writing Class Radio is hosted by me Andrea Askowitz.
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11:11Allison Langer
And me Alison Langer.
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11:14Andrea Askowitz
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12:40Allison Langer
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12:52Tara Sands (Voiceover)
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