If you are thinking of starting the search for Mr. Right, then it is important to ensure you know what type of guy is right? How he talks about others? Does he talk positively or negatively about others? Does he gossip and spread rumors? Or does he not say anything if it's unkind? Stick with the ones who keep negative opinions they might have to themselves, the type of friends he has, who are the people he's choosing to surround himself with? What is his best friend like? If his best friend is a pompous asshole, you have to wonder why he would choose someone like that. If he keeps his word, don't fall for every excuse he can come up with when he doesn't follow through. If you want a good relationship with someone, it starts with trust. And how can you trust someone if you can't believe what he says? Because he doesn't follow through or commit to anything? How he talks about himself? Does he brag and have an ego? Or is he humble and doesn't think much of the things he does? Stick with the ones who are humble? how he treats those doing his service for him. You can tell everything about someone based on how they treat a stranger doing something for them. Pay close attention to that consistency to how he treats you. He doesn't just treat you well in the beginning and it fades out. He treats you well all the time, showing you that he respects you is the most important thing in the world to him. how he handles confrontation? Does he go silent? Does he stay mad? Does he lose it? Does he use it against you in the future? Or does he talk about it with you? Then forgive you if you're wrong? and move on never bringing it up again? How he speaks of his exes? Does he bad mouth every single one of them? If he does, there is a chance that could be you one day? Or does he still have a lot of respect for the people he dated and invested time into stick with the guys who still speak kindly of their ex? I want to mention that I am into very smart guys. That is number one turned on for me. I've known some very good looking men who never did anything for me unless they were intelligent as well. And vice versa. I've been massively attracted to average looking guys who managed to interest me intellectually first, seduced my brain intrigued me and challenged me mentally and my heart and body will follow. I should add that I am relatively good looking and get approached by men regularly above average looking ones as well as average looking ones. This is how I know that looks are not important to me. Is he like is this important to me because I have an above average IQ. I get easily bored by people, men who can only lead small talk. I just thought I would share my taste. He apologizes when he's wrong. When he's wrong, he owns up to it and tries to make it right. It's that simple. He doesn't play games. He's honest, up front and forward. When it comes to pursuing you, he lays it out on the table what he has to offer. He doesn't try and play some texting game of delayed responses or blowing up your newsfeed. If he likes you, you're never going to have to wonder if he takes things slow. He doesn't try and sleep with you right off the bat. Because the truth is he's not looking for someone like that. He's looking for someone he can build a life with. And when you're doing that you don't need to rush things. He can tell exactly what his goals are. You ask him about the future. And it's not an ambiguous response of not knowing. He knows exactly where he wants to be and how he can get there. He works hard and he's looking for someone who can match his ambition. He remembers the things you tell him. It's the little details he makes a point to remember. So many people talk to hear themselves talk but he wants to learn more about you and the things you care about. I'm going to end today by sharing a few more of my feelings about a man and what matters. Besides the intellect, I am also attracted to men with a strong personality. That means confidence, ability to overcome hardships by remaining optimistic, being able to laugh even if life throws difficulties to your face. creative approach to life problems, being able to care about and be compassionate to people in your life who are less smart, less fortunate. Men who are generous to themselves and others, both emotionally and financially. I hope this gives you an idea of my type. This is
Not by any means a generalization, though I claim that there are a lot of men out there who think and feel like me. Be brave, be smart, be creative, be kind. And then it won't matter how you look to a lot of men. Certainly not to me.