lonely. Why really? Let me tell you. It's not because I enjoy solitude. I don't date. It's because I have tried to blend into the dating world, and people continue to disappoint me. One of the things I've noticed when thinking about sex with a man is that my perception of what I do and what's done has changed quite a bit over the years. One thing that has never changed is I am attracted to tattoos on masculine guys. When I was young, I was always attracted to much older men. I was not attracted to men my age, I never really thought of finding a partner and making a life together in a monogamous relationship until college. Falling in real love is far more than a desire for sexual intercourse. I can quickly get good hot sex, but without a real connection without cuddling without even knowing his name is accurate. Any encounter overall is unfulfilling. Casual hookups are the principal means of escaping loneliness or substituting missing emotional support. Lonely behavior afflicts most men and women throughout the more significant part of our lives. I had many sexual encounters young in my life, three long term relationships account for almost all of my lifetime. Unfortunately, the relationship I had, for the most part was incredible. I say unfortunately, because not yet has a man married me I am sometimes lonely, yet not everybody will do. I don't know exactly why. Some people fill the gaps, and others emphasize my loneliness. The more I learned and closer the connection, the more fulfilling the encounter is. If a repeating dating situation happens, I noticed a significant positive change in everything. Even though having a relationship is necessary for a complete whole, rewarding emotional life. The true answer to not being lonely is to find peace within yourself. Yes, being older sucks since you are decomposing in front of your own eyes. And maybe young guys do not look at you the way they used to. There are a bunch of ladies or dudes out there that would love to spend time with you. Some are even naked. Many younger people will use your age to scam your emotions. I am 55. And when a 25 to 35 year old online shows interest Well, out of 15 men who did only one was interested. The rest want money or identity theft. A narrow focus brings significant results. The number one reason people give up so fast is that they tend to look at how far they still have to go instead of how far they have come. But it's a series of small wins that can give us the most significant success. Show up fully. Don't dwell on the past. And don't daydream about the future. But concentrate on showing up entirely in the present moment. Getting your heart broken is the worst feeling ever. We live in a culture that is obsessive, hyper sexualized and romanticized. My only piece of advice is this. Please don't fall for it. Look deeper into people beyond the surface. There are so many great relationships to be made with your friends, co workers, family or anyone who comes around you. Don't limit yourself by placing romantic standards on the people around you. As long as you're actively engaging with the people in your life. Who look upon you with love, play tonic or not. Don't try to impress everyone, the unhappiest people care the most about what other people think. I was asked what would you do differently if you got to live your life over? I gave that a lot of thought. The only thing I would change is trusting others. I would not do it as much as I did. It was a harsh lesson learned that people are only honest. When it suits them. Some people are like that, and they aren't even aware they are that way. Another question I am asked is what advice do you give? That's easy. Only live each day in a way that you can sleep with a clear conscience. Each day make sure that you did something to improve somebody else's life. I have always lived that way. And it has worked for me mostly. I've stopped seeking people to date at this time in my life. I am trying to improve the relationships with the friends that I already have. And perhaps there's one particular relationship that may end up being more but like always, time will tell