is this is this actually helpful? Or is it not? And I don't have the answers for all of these these these questions. Because, you know, fat people are not a monolith. And some things that could be helpful for me might not be helpful for other people and also to recognize that I am a white, medium fat person. Who is not physically disabled? And so I have this privilege. And so some things I'm like, that's fine. Don't worry about MMA, you know, someone else who doesn't have the same privilege I have will be like, Oh, that's the worst fucking thing that ever you can do. So, but anyway, saying all that blah, blah bluh bluh. Here are some ideas for you. I did a whole episode on this, what was it, it was episode, and finding it for you 84. My goodness. And we want you for number on one, Psalm 60 something. So 84 How to be a fat ally. And there's 33 practical ways to be a fat ally in this installment I said, in the show notes there, but here are some of those 33. So if you invite us somewhere, make sure it's accessible. So if we're going for lunch, dinner, whatever, no booths and chairs without arms, not a million flights of stairs, things like that. And this is getting easier and easier. Because lots of places are thinking about these things. I went to a game a game place, could not believe it. Love it with my two friends and a new friend of us. That was one straight size person. So straight size person and his his husband is fat. I'm fat. And then the new friend is fat, straight size person. He made the booking, he made the booking. And he said we need a this this larger table. And actually the company had a a thing on their booking thing saying what accessibility needs do you have? I've never seen that before. I literally was shitting my pants with excitement hearing about this when he said when I was like, Oh, we've got a big table here with these chairs and this other group to have a smaller table. That's kind of funny. And then you said, oh, yeah, you know, they had that when we were booking and I was like, oh, oh my oh, this is amazing. And I was just like, hey, straight ally, thinking about it. And he's got a fat husband. Right? So he's, he's in it. And he knows. And he had they had been to that place before. And it was a real tight squeeze, because they had a booth. So thinking about those types of things of is it accessible? I want to see my friend is it just tiny little barstools booths, which don't have a table that moves booths might be okay, if the tables moved, a lot of times, they're bolted down tiny little chairs, you know, like fashion chairs, which are like, you know, have the capacity to hold up a pee or something, you know. And so, you know, let's say if I go out with some intimate friend of the show, so I'm in an she's doing the same type of work, but she is string sized. And she will always say you pick the chair that you want to sit in? How is this for you, she will look at the images of the restaurant before we go. And she'll always check in with me. And I'm just like, fucking love you summer. Amazing. So, yeah, that's it you can do. Or you can just say to your fat, your fat friend is this place, okay for you. And, you know, in case you don't know what, what that might look like. Also, when you're with us try and think about our experiences. So for example, like being cognizant of how fat folks can feel in a group activity. Say if you go on a hike, and you're enjoying the hike, and you know it, depending on the fat person and your relationship with them, they might not want to say anything, they might be, you know, being like, I need a break, but I'm gonna say anything because I don't want to be the fat person who doesn't need a break. And then you know, the thing people are like, oh, I need a break. But, you know, the fan person is not even asking for a break. So we don't we shouldn't have a break. Because you know, we should be further than the fat person. You know, everyone's probably like, Oh, I'm fucking tired. And you saying, Hey, everyone, let's have a break. Amazing. Love it. And staying with the person who's at the back, whoever it is, right? Just last weekend, I went to a meetup group, queer Irish Meetup group here in Vancouver. So funny, went to a coffee shop and my with my neighbor. He was there. And he was at a meetup group two, and it was all men with huge beards. And I said, What are you doing here? Are you here for the big beard Meetup group? And he's like, it's funny. You should say that. Oh, it's actually the radical pixies Meetup group. I don't know what that was, but, and then I said, Well, I'm here for the fucking radical queer Pixies. And I said, I'm here for the Irish queer Meetup group. And he says, Oh, you're the leprechauns. They were the Pixies. It's kind of funny. Anyway, you might be like, That's not fucking funny. What are you talking about? Anyway, so registered for this, this this new group and then then we're gonna go for a walk. I live where I am is at the top of the hill. So we're walking down that down this big hill. And people were practically in my A perception running down this hill, and I'm right at the back. And I'm literally shouting slow down. Can we slow down, please? And no one turned around to look. And I was like, blimey, like, we go so fast. And people like, Oh, this is not fast. And I am a fast walker, right? I've got, you know, long sexy legs, I walk fast. walking fast is not a trait, which is something to be proud of. I'd be you know, just to say that, even if I was a slow walker, but they will go in Mad fast. I happen to look at my clock and I was like, Oh, shit, I need to go call my mum. So I was like, Okay, I'll go bye, see you later, I'm calm. I'm gonna go home call my mom sat back up this hill. But I didn't know we were gonna go for a walk. Because, you know, I went with an Irish friend. And so I didn't know what was happening. And if I might have been more nervous, if I had known that we were going for a walk, I thought we will just go in for a coffee. But you know, something like that? Oh, a walk? How can that not be accessible? If I didn't have to call my mom, I think I probably would have just stopped and walked away. Because I was like, they are not thinking about intersectionality they're not thinking about fat people. And then I and then they were like, Oh, we do in the coffee shop. They were like, We do lots of sports together. And I was I was like, Oh, I mean, I like sports, right? But is it gonna be? I don't know if I can trust them. Because they, there was one other fat person. But I don't know if they are trustworthy, thin people. Because I don't know. If they're into dieting, I don't know, if they're doing sports because they're into being thin. Or if they're doing sports, like, how I would do sports for fun. You know? I mean, there's no, there's no reason to, you know, I mean, if you want to engage in sports, because you want to engage in health promoting activity, that's fine, too. But you know, when you are with someone, you know that, that they're engaging in movement in a really unhealthy way. I've had friends like that, like one friend, she would always be like, let's not sit down when we get our coffee, let's go for a walk. And she'd always want to walk for hours. Literally, she would spend a whole day walking. And I was like, Yeah, this is not I'm not feeling this. Anyway. So just think about the fact is, I'm not saying that all fat people are slow. You know, the fat fat people can be at the front of the pack, but just thinking about everyone in any type of activity. And it doesn't have to be a physical activity. But you know, just thinking about how other people might experience that activity. Next, don't use the Oh, words just don't. That sucks. If anyone talks shit about fat people shut them down. You have way more privilege in your body size. If you're straight size than a fat person to talk about this stuff and other straight size people will listen to you more likely than they would. You know, they more likely would poopoo a fat person be like, Oh man, it's because you're fat. You're saying that but if you say hey, that is not okay. That would be amazing. And you know, fat people don't have to present for you to say, Hey, that's not okay. And when you're doing that, do not pull out good, fatty tropes, which is oh, hey, you know, fat people kind of help being fat, fat people that they're trying to lose weight, or even ones that can sound like they're helpful. Hey, fat people are healthy too, you know? Again, that, but hey, fat people are healthy too. Well, what if fat people aren't healthy? Because there are many fat people who are not healthy. Same way. There's many strokes, those people are not healthy. Does that mean that those fat people are not due respect and belonging? What if a fat person likes being fat? Does What about them. So try and avoid the the good, Fatty, bad fatty troves of our fat people that exercise and fat people when and I know it's about you know, you wanting to educate other people, but basically what we're trying to say to people who are anti fat is fat people deserve respect. Fat people deserve to be alive. No matter what type of fat person they are, even if they're like a mean fat person, you know, and this is, you know, like the same is a lot of times with liberal people. The way that they talk about fatness is is really unhelpful. So, for example, like if you think about Donald Trump, and the thing that people go to, is his looks he's fat. Oh, Oh isn't the worst thing ever. Oh my God, he's a fat person and he's a president. How can a president be fat? Oh, it's terrible. Hang on a minute.