so so so referring to people in everyone unless you know what their gender is. And they their pronouns are, specifically what their pronouns are, just refer to everyone as them, or there's, you know, like, Oh, my teacher, they want this, you know, as your teacher said that they're a man or woman or non binary or whatever. And just try and make that a habit. Because it's kind of like a low stakes thing to, to practice. And you know, that article, I'll link it in the show notes, different ideas of how to address people. So instead of saying, you know, men and women just say, like, humans, folks, my go to is folks. And your greeting a lot of people say, Hey, guys, and some people are like, Well, when I say, Hey, guys, I don't mean guys. I mean, everyone will got guys mean means men, right? That's what it means. Right? Guys means man. And so if you're like, Well, I when I say guys, I say I mean, everyone will think about it, if say if you use Hey guys, and say you're a guy, you're a man, and you have a woman as a girlfriend. And so if I went and said, hey, you know that dude that you're dating, you know that man you're dating, you know, that guy that you're dating? Jessica, you know, that guy that you're dating Jessica? You'd be like, Oh, no, just because a woman, then Oh, also guy is is gendered. So guy is gendered. All like, would you say, Oh, my God, look at that sexy guy walking down the street. And then, you know, you pointed them out. And it was someone who appeared to be a woman, the person would be like, do you mean that woman? Because guy is gendered. Right? And a lot of times in spaces where there's a lot of women, I see a lot of people saying, Hey, ladies, Hey, gals, and things like that. And I'm just like, oh, just makes me it just makes me as a non binary person feel like they don't give they don't care about me. They haven't even thought that there might be someone who, who appears to be a woman who is not actually a woman in in attendance. So, yeah, so if you can try and remove gendered language from your gender language from your brain. And you know, if you know, someone is, you know, has certain pronouns and does call, you can say she or he or they or whatever. Yeah, so I'm doing this, this Brene Brown course, you know, Brene Brown, like, she's a shame researcher. And I'm doing this course, through my therapist, it's like an eight week course groups, group therapy type of thing where we are unlearning shame. And stepping into the arena, which is the, the analogy, the metaphor, that that Brene Brown uses that if you're in that arena, people who are not in Arena fighting with you don't get to have an opinion on what you're doing. And like learning about shame, and being brave, is really cool. Like I've read Rene Browns books, but thinking about it. And thinking about how I can be a more loving, embodied. Good version of me is really cool. And so this is some this is me doing something which is aligned with our being brave and stepping into the Rena, when I've already had transphobic comments from people, one of the people, someone in the comments was like, let me go and find the comment. Well, I deleted her, but I shared it in my stories and said, look at this video. Oh, they said, there's one person said skip forward 30 seconds if you don't hear this, it's not it's not anything too bad but