And so when someone does cross your boundary, and you've clearly stated your boundaries, and they've done it, you could just do it once. And you can say, you know, what, that's enough, I'm done. Or they could do it a few times, and you can just be a noob, you can be like, Okay, that's it, I'm done. You need to do something, when they cross your boundary, you can't just be like, Oh, well, because it's a pointless boundary. If you do not, if there's no consequence. You know, think about kids. When you're like, Hey, don't do that thing. If you do, then this thing's going to happen. Something negative is going to happen. If you, you know, don't, don't bite your baby brother. And then they bite the baby brother, and you're like, I told you not to bite your baby brother. And you did. And they're like, there's no reason why they wouldn't want to do it, again, baby brother tastes nice, or whatever it is they're doing, you know, there has to be a consequence. And then they can learn that that behavior is unwanted, and adults are just the same. And so the consequence could be that you're just like, you know, what, I'm going to leave actually, you know, I'm not mad, but I'm just not into this conversation, you know, so I'll check you out next time. So you could just leave, you could just go into a different room. So if you're with your family, or you can say, hey, I'm gonna take some space for you, because you've broken that boundary again. And I'm not feeling good about this. And so I'm going to take some space for you, and, and you can decide, I'm not going to talk to them for a week or whatever, take whatever space you need from them. Or you can say, you know, what, this relationships for not for me, and you can end a relationship. So the decision is you yours, but you need to have something in place when they do cross your boundary. Because if you don't say anything, you might as well have never had that boundary conversation to begin with, it would have been a waste of your breath. And it's actually a negative thing, if you might as well definitely not have said anything because they know, okay, when when this person says, Hey, this is really serious. For me, this is important that you're, you're not really being serious. And it means that they can disrespect you even more. And we want to have relationships where, you know, we're mutual respect, and kindness and all that type of stuff. And so with boundaries, I used to always think, Oh, my God, people are going to explode in my face because of my past and being abused. That it was my reality of people exploding if I ever asked for anything reasonable. And so I had to practice this, I had to start small and say, Hey, do you think that you could, you know, I'd be like, what, what do you think? Maybe you could, and it was something tiny? Like, Oh, could you maybe not wear your shoes in my house? Maybe I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm sorry, don't hate me. And practice and then move up to the bigger stuff and the scary stuff. And honestly, it feels so fucking good to say, Oh, hey, we don't do that. Or we don't say that. Or, you know, I'm not into that. And, you know, or make a joke about something to say, Hey, I'm not cool with that, or some comment to show that, you know, this is this is not okay with me. It really does build your self esteem because then you start to realize you're so powerful. You really are. And think about the people who you know, in your life who have good but good boundaries, they're probably a lot more confident. And you probably respect them more versus the people who have terrible boundaries and who say yes to everything, who talk about people behind their back because they're so mad with them because they don't ever say add up to the more set a boundary. Right? So that is my answer. You got the short answer boundaries and then the long answer, which is Whoa, boundaries. So at least I hope that helped. And I hope that it helped others who are tuning in to today's episode, and I want to end each episode with a little fact about me so you can get to know me a little better. So today's fact is about my favorite music, my favorite artiste. So, currently my favorite is Beyonce.