think that that is what is going on. That is not what's that that's that's sexual assault, right? People are doing that, then that's wrong, but that is not the, quote, trans agenda to force people to have sex with someone against their will. That's how long a time So that's what people think about fat folks, too, is that if a fat person says, Oh, well I'm you know, when you're in school, a fat person is Oh, I really fancy this this boy, everyone's like, it's so weird. Oh, look, she's a stalker, because she fancies Johnny or whatever. But if a thin person says, Oh, my fancy Johnny, then people like, you know, or the idea that we want fat rights, because we want people to be forced to fuck us. It's not Oh, he doesn't want to be treated like a human being. It's so strange. It's really, really weird. And it's common rhetoric with with retrans stuff, too. Anyway, he started going on blah, blah, blah. And I was just like, You know what, I think people should just be kind, and I didn't sound like that's where I kind of, you know, and eventually, he was going on about it on going on. And I was like, Hey, did you know that actually, I'm trans non binary. And he was like, taken aback, I don't remember what he said exactly. But the gist of what he said was, well, you're not like those trans people. Whatever those mean, and, and then I said, Listen, I'm gonna go Celada, baby. And he said, as I was walking away, the whole reason why this sparked was because I said, I need to go, that whole conversation started because I said, I need to go. I'm going to diversity presentation that I'm presenting to a company this morning. And he said, Oh, diversity, trans people, you need to hear my rant. And I was because I was literally like, oh, I need to go. And then he spoke at me for like, five to seven minutes. And, and then anyway, so when I was leaving, he was like, oh, have you heard of Ricky Gervais? His new comedy special? And I just said, yeah, he's a piece of shit. So I have avoided that walking that route, which is the main route, I would normally walk with Google for the last two months. And I saw him in the street and I went the other way, the long way round. And because it feels like here's this guy, and he also said shit about gay men. He was saying, aren't gay men around here, they just have sex in the streets. And I was like, Ah, wait, I live here too. And I have never once seen someone getting sucked off or people having sex industry and what and anyway, we're, we're like a block away from a few nightclubs. If we were in nightclubs. And it was nightclubs where there were straight people. I have seen straight before fucking I have seen men getting the decks by women, like in club districts, you just expect that right? And so if that has obviously that's happened around here that the guys are getting blowers in bushes, or whatever the same way is it happened in St. predominant straight areas. And he seemed to be have a problem with this anyway. So I had that and I was like, a hawk sake. And then a couple of weekends ago, I went away to a singing retreat with my singing group, and there was a lot of misgendering happening of me a lot of we're all women here and that song sing songs about being women. And, and that was really difficult for me, because I kept saying, Oh, hey, actually, oh, another woman? Can you include me, please? And I just gave up and at the end of it, I really had a tough time with it, actually, because it just felt really kind of like I was asking way too much for people to say, you know, say women or say women and other genders, or just to say, everybody, you know. And so I was just feeling really kind of a big theme of my life is you taking up too much space, you're being a troublemaker, you're asking too much. That's what I talk about in therapy all the time is that I am asking for too much by people correctly gendering me, which, FYI, I'm not. It's a really basic thing. Yeah, so I had all that type of stuff in my in my mind and then this weekend, Saturday afternoon.