Getting your heart broken is the worst feeling ever. And it can be really hard to know what to say to someone who broke your heart. It is totally normal to love someone, even after they break your heart. The danger is when you keep hanging on to that person long after the heartbreak because in my experience, I can tell you that it is definitely negative for your life. The best advice I give people immediately after a breakup is to literally say nothing and just walk away as if it didn't bother them. Love doesn't always end with a happy ending. It comes with the whole package that includes heartbreak to getting your heart broken by someone is normal. The hurt your feeling is acceptable. Remind yourself to never let the pain scares you off from being in love ever again. Everyone goes through this and survives. So will you when you get your heart broken, or you break up with someone. One of the things we do is we blame them, which may be justified to work though are hurt we first look at them. Yes. For example. You disgust me. You broke me. You made me think that you would always be there. You lied over and over again. You made me believe in something and then you took it all away. You didn't care. You acted like you cared. But it was another lie. You wasted my time. You caused me pain. You scarred me. You left me all alone. You let me think it was my fault. You taught me not to trust anyone. You taught me not to trust myself. You played games that only you could when you monopolize my mind. You made me feel like a different person. You made me feel weak. You made me feel empty. You made me cry. You gave up on us. You left. Then after a little bit of time of being angry and pointing the finger we begin to internalize our pain and start looking at ourselves. For example, I deserve better. I never needed you. I didn't think I could do it on my own. I was honest. I believed in you. I believed in us. I cared. I put my time in I thought we were having I was naive. I didn't pick up on the signs. I couldn't play your games. I thought that I meant something. As we are looking inward, our thoughts start changing. We start putting it all together. Then, for example, I learned that I did mean something. I learned that I could do it on my own. I learned that I was capable of love. I learned that I didn't have to be broken. I knew that I was better than that. I now know what I want. And it isn't you. I am a new person. I build myself back up. I am stronger because of you. I am confident. I am happy. I don't hate you. After we get done playing that you and I game. It's time to really start healing and stop looking at the past. Start looking what you're going to do with the future. You will do better by learning from the past experiences. accept what had happened and let it all go. You need to face reality. It's never easy at first. heartbreak can be bitter. You will grow by going through this. The next time someone breaks your heart, you'll be able to handle it without as much pain. staying positive is a must if you want to forget that someone who broke your heart. Don't let the experience turn you into a pessimist. Just because it didn't work out. It doesn't mean that the next one won't be successful either. We live in a culture that is obsessively hyper sexualized and romanticized. My only piece of advice is this. Don't fall for it. look deeper into people beyond the surface. There are so many great relationships to be made with your friends, co workers, family or anyone who comes around you. Don't limit yourself by placing romantic standards on the people around you. As long as you're actively engaging with the people in your life, who look upon you with love, platonic or not. You're never as alone as you feel happily ever after. It's never come without fight and struggle. So think of your breakup as just another bump before reaching the final page of your life story.