You don't, you're making a negative judgment about them. So you're hoping you don't want other people to have negative judgments about you where you're, you're in that moment, if you're thinking presuming that they're having a negative judgment about you, you're judging them. You are doing the exact thing that you don't want others to do to you. And you're projecting your own judgment upon them. Whereas they could just be sat there being like, oh, there's a person. Oh, it's a nice day today, huh? I really need to do a poo, or whatever. Right? And, and you've projected onto them that they are like, Oh, look at that person. Oh, they're so fat, or Oh, they're so whatever. And it might not be based in reality. So notice your own judgments. And when you judge others, because we all judge all the time, even though you know, sometimes you'd like to think I'm above that, but that's not true. Notice your own judgments and how long they last. So, when you see someone different, and you make a quick judgment about them? Are you thinking about that person? Later that day? Or a week later? You know, are you telling your friends? Oh my god, I saw someone with this weird haircut in the mall two months ago, it was hilarious. No, your friends would be like, What the fuck are you talking about? You won't even be in your brain because you notice someone with a weird haircut. And you're just like, oh, there's someone with a weird haircut, not a haircut that I would have. But you know, whatever. And then it's gone from your head. Or maybe you might think about it again another time. But you know, a week or two weeks or a year later, you're not going to be like, oh, yeah, remember that one person with a weird haircut? It's just, it's useless information. Right? And so if someone is judging you, and they're like, Oh, my God, there's a fat person. You know, 10 minutes later, they're probably just like, Oh, I really fancy an ice cream or Oh, what am I gonna have for dinner? Right? So when, when I did my, my TEDx talk, if you don't know, I have a TEDx talk. It's amazing. You can check it out. When I did my TEDx talk, it was a big thing, right? So I was speaking on stage in front of 2600 people, and then it was going to be filmed. It was filmed, and then it was going to be put onto the internet. I listed out the worst case scenarios of what could go wrong, like in regards to people judging me. And so I thought, Okay, well, I could forget my words. Well, if I forget my words, can I survive that? Yeah. You know, that's okay. I've seen other people forget their words. And I know that had someone had forgotten their words. At a TED talk about same venue a couple of years before and what they did was they edited out all the bits that she forgot in the video. And then when they put it on the video online, no one could tell the people in the audience were like cheering her on and being like, you can remember and she managed to get her notes and blah, blah, blah. So 2600 people in the audience might have been like, oh, it would have been better if she had remembered her words or whatever they thought, but on the internet, which is where the The real big audience were, they had no idea. And so now my TEDx talk, I think as 140,000 views, so if I had forgotten my words, 2600 people who were in the live audience would have noticed, but the majority of people who saw my talk or see my talk 140,000 People would never have known. I didn't forget my words. But that was something that I thought, Okay, what is a bad thing that could happen? Another bad thing that could happen was, maybe I burst into tears and run off the stage. I don't know why. But, you know, that could happen. I could just run off the stage and be like, I can't do this. Could I survive that? Yes, I could survive that. I wouldn't have a TED talk. But you know, maybe I could try again, it could be a learning experience. But the absolute worst thing I could think of like, the absolute worst thing I could think of is, what if I shit myself on stage? That is the worst thing like the worst outcome that I could have thought of, for my, you know, outcome of me doing my TEDx talk. So, what if I did shit myself? Well, I would be really embarrassed. The audience would have been like, What the fuck is going on? And I would have had to, like know, shuffle off stage or pretend didn't happen or something? I don't know. But could I survive? If I shit myself on a TEDx stage? And have 2600? People watch me shitting myself? And maybe then it'd be put on the internet and have people watching me shit myself? Could I survive? Yeah, probably, I could probably survive. And what would happen is that after I got over the embarrassment, and the awful feelings and all that type of jazz, what I would be left with would be a hilarious story about that one time I tried to do a TEDx talk, TEDx talk, and then I shit my pants on stage.