he's right. So now, I tend to, I tend to because sometimes it still happens. I tend to not get into a situation where I would have sex with a fat phobe or would have sex with someone who thinks that my body is less because it was it is fat. Because generally speaking, unless you'd like, you know, meet some money, you don't really talk and then you just have sex. Generally speaking, you can kind of get an idea about someone before you have sex not always, you know, sometimes people can be like, like the last guy I had sex with, like a year ago. So depressing. I need some more dig. This quarantine has really got me bad. And I live in the middle of nowhere. Anyway, so I so I had sex with this guy. And before I'm like, he's a pretty normal reasonable guy. And this motherfucker this mother father, so when I saw I went around his house right In the light, I spent the evening during the evening, I made him come three times. I made him come three times. He was like, oh my god, this is amazing. My turn for an orgasm, two minutes in. He says, hurry up this motherfucker had his balls there rained, and two minutes of the focus being on me. He's like, Oh, gone. I mean, you come? Yeah, it's been like 12 seconds. I was just like, No, no, no, no, no. No, thank you didn't see him again. Because I was like, What the fuck? Before I would have just been like, Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Yep, just had an orgasm, faked it because he would have been putting pressure on me to, to perform or whatever. So So now now understanding that there's two, the, you know, kind of like what we're talking about in this podcast, two things going on here. The two things being the way that we perceive our fat bodies, and the way that society perceives our fat bodies. And the way that I view it now is that my fat body is not a problem. However, a lot of the people that I will encounter when pursuing relationships, think that my body is a problem. And then that's a problem for me, because I am not going to be with someone who thinks that my body is a problem. Who thinks oh, you know, I'll data because my, you know, like that, like Rose had said, Oh, maybe she's like, great in bed because she's fat. So she has to make up for being fat, or whatever, whatever they believe. Or maybe I'll just have sex well, but I won't be seen in public with her. Maybe I'll just, you know, I'll tell her that I want to pursue a relationship but i don't i just have sex and then see you later. Whatever it is, I that's not okay with me. Like that. That's not okay. That is not okay for people to treat me like that. And people like that are out there. Absolutely. And unfortunately, most of the people who are in the dating world or the sex world or wherever it is a biased have fat phobic beliefs, like deeply fat phobic beliefs that they don't want to examine. And, and say, Oh, it's just a preference. It's just a preference. And their preference is to non consensually fetishize thin bodies to non consensually fetishize thin bodies. And like, Sonali says, just to not call it out and say, Yeah, I'm a fat phobe? Yeah, I'm just a fat phobe and genuinely, genuinely think that they were born and their brain had this preference implanted in there, that said, I will never be attracted to a fat body, no fat person on earth, of all the billions people out there, not a single one could ever possibly be attracted to. Like, that's ridiculous, as redonk and this is not about forcing people to come and have sex with me. Like, it's not about that. It's about people examining their biases,