Michaela, welcome to the sovereign heart podcast, where we get to talk about what it takes to live love and build relationships from the unlimited potential of your heart. My name is Michaela rose Soleil. I'm the polyamorous dating and relationship coach, artist, lover, communication, nerd, total water bender and heart centered weirdo, and I'm so honored to be alive at the same time as you how great is that the world is a changing place, and so are the ways we love and support one another, within and beyond the paradigms of monogamy, polyamory, nonviolent, communication, polarity, tantra, attachment, twin flames, dating, kink and more, there is one thread that weaves us all trust, a nutrient that is only created from a willingness to go first, the discernment to call a red flag red crystal clear Communication and a little bit of faith in the unknown. I am so excited to be on this journey with you. Let's dive in. Hello, loves and welcome to another episode of the sovereign heart podcast. My name is Michaela. Thank you for being here with me today on this very short, very sweet episode on embodied leadership, because last week I promised you guys I would talk about parts work in the next episode. And that's not happening this week because I am en route on my way to go and host a retreat called wonder camp starting tomorrow, and I have about 510, minutes here to just chime in and speak on some of my thoughts. And I just wanted to talk on what I felt is most alive for me, which is embodied leadership. I've been thinking and contemplating and sitting deeply with what this means to me, and I just wanted to speak to what embodied leadership actually is, versus what this kind of idea of, you know, leading from a place of needing to be deeply steeped in, you know, your traditions, needing certifications, needing, you know, some kind of stamp of approval, you know, from somewhere, sometimes, with someone that has told you, yes, you are trained, you are ready to go and to lead. And there's something beautiful about that. There's something beautiful about lineage, about the time and the practice, and, you know, the the background behind what you do. And I absolutely recommend, right, like doing those kind of trainings and all this kind of stuff. But what I've realized, and what embodied leadership means to me, is not the outer recognition that you are a leader, not this outer recognition that you have something and you have cultivated enough and now it's this perfectly wrapped package in a bow. Embodied leadership is the willingness to take what it is that you already do, on the inside, within yourself, within your own relationships, within your everyday life, and within the work that you do, whatever it is that you do, and be willing to walk it. Be willing to talk it. Be willing to be with it, and bringing that into a space, into a group of people into anything that you are leading, whether it's with one person or 100 people, the thing that is going to come across the deepest, the most potent, is not your notes or your training or the structures of how you organize everything, which, of course, are fun to think about, but it's the ways that you are embodied in the things that you are teaching, the reflections that I've received when people say, Wow, you really have this presence. And it really woke something up in me. Are not from usually when I'm leading something, right, they have an experience. It's beautiful, but it's in the moments in between when I fiercely state my boundaries with somebody. Somebody sees that, right? They come up to me and go, Wow, oh my god. I was so inspired by how you could just do that, how you could just so clearly state these things. I'm like, Yes, this is what I do. This is what I teach. This is my leadership. Right? When I'm moving freely, you know, or I'm teaching a class, and I'm, I'm expressive, and I'm willing to make funny sounds, or whatever, somebody comes up to me and says, Wow, I can really tell you've healed a lot of your sexual trauma. I can really tell that there's been this deep, you know, process in you, and that that's where you're coming from. And I feel safer being led by you. I feel like I can, I can trust that I I'm going on that journey too. And so this in concept of embodied leadership, yes, of course, the trainings, all of these things are so potent, but this has been the biggest lesson, especially in the past five years of my life, around the things that I do. And lead. And you know, all the things that I create in the world is just realizing that that sense of how you orient on the inside, what you show up to on a day to day basis, how you lead yourself through life, is what comes across and every step of the way when I've hit these robots roadblocks of Oh my god. Well, I've never taught this before. I've never led a camp of this caliber before. I don't, I don't know, you know, I'm not, I'm not deeply trained in this specific kind of facilitation. What do I do? The same thing that you always do, leading from that embodied place, leading from the things that you do know, that are you? Do know are helpful, are loving, are supportive to you and to others, and allowing yourself to be in that deep practice every single day. And lastly, really noticing the identity shift that happens when you go from Oh, I have these trainings and I have these certifications and oh well, I know this modality to switching into an archetype, into an identity of leadership, really feeling into that. And this has been the process that you know, this, this, this camp has been taking me on and pulling me into, is recognizing that this archetype is so so so potent. And it might not be something that we always think about until we really need it, but I really want to encourage you know, if you are a leader, a facilitator of anything, no matter what you do, notice, what is this archetype of leadership? What does it look like for you if you were embodied as your embodied leader. How would you how would you speak, how would you talk, how would you walk, how would you dress yourself? What would you think when you wake up in the morning? What would you think when you go to bed at night? How would you interact with the people you love? How do you interact with your community at large? How do you interact with the world? There's so much out there on how to be a leader, and you know how to do things well, and how to do them right, and all of these things like I'm saying is so great, but deep, deep, deep down, that knowing of how to lead, that knowing of what to do, is there. It's always inside of you, whatever you were meant to do in this life you have done many times before, and that support of all the other times you've done it, if you believe in past lives and whatnot, is also there for you. Should you want it? Should you want to tap into it? And so as you step deeper and deeper into this leadership archetype, it becomes not something that you have to think and plan, and you know all these things which happen anyways, but it becomes something that leads you. It becomes something that's pulling you in deeper and deeper into your own intuitive power, into your own knowing, into the depth of your soul and your wisdom, and the very unique flavor of exactly what it is that you do that wants to be birthed through your vessel, and that is often blocked and stopped by all these ideas about leadership and how we're supposed to do that correctly. So that's what I'm thinking about today as I prepare to leave for this camp. And I really want to encourage you in whatever you do, to try on this archetype of leadership, to get curious where you might be stuck with thinking that you need one more certification, or, you know, more years of practice, or something like that, to really call yourself a leader and getting curious, What if you could see yourself as that leader now? What if you could celebrate yourself all the way from childhood up until now and go, Wow. Look at this journey that this person has been on. Look at all that they have gone through and been through to become this exact alchemy of the human being, the miracle of life that they are right now. Look at yourself in that way, with that level of reverence, respect, compassion and that embodied leadership will spring forth and will come through your heart in miraculous ways. So I leave you with this thought today. I hope you have a beautiful week, and we will continue next week, hopefully diving deeper into parts work, and how we can use that to, yeah, move through and come deeper into this sense of leadership, or deeper relational congruence and connection, and all the things that it takes to live and love from the sovereignty of our hearts. So thank you so much, and I'm excited. I'll see you at Wonder camp, if not, perhaps reach out and I'll put you on a list for next year. Should there be a next year? So thank you so much, and have a beautiful rest of your day. Bye. Bye.
