What happened to me during that experience, and also while writing the book I was thinking about, you know, when you meet someone who lies so egregiously, and so obviously, and emphatically, it makes you think about how we all lie, like I certainly started to think about, oh, I lie to avoid conflict, I lie to appear polite, I lie, to get professional situations or to not hurt someone's feelings. And it makes you really question your own sense of values and try to win and try to figure out what's what in terms of your own value system. And I do think that there is a part of our fascination with liars and scam artists is is partly because I think it's fascinating to watch people break social norms. To me, in some ways, I'm like, look at the freedom they have to just do whatever when I'm, like, anxiously obsessed with, like, how I'm perceived or, or if I'm being a good friend, or it's, it's fascinating to watch people who don't, who don't have a care in the world about that, and in fact, have another orientation. And it's just, it's fascinating, I think, especially since it's a type of emotional manipulation that is so hard to detect. And but I feel like once you've been through it, like, I certainly feel like if I'm at a party, and somebody walks in, who is extremely charismatic, who shares vulnerable personal things within the first like, 30 seconds of meeting you, the kind of person where everyone's like, oh, my God did you need so and so they're amazing. I know, almost immediately, like a light shines, a stage light shines down from the ceiling, and it's like, stay away from this person.