So you got me thinking three things, let's see if we, if I remember ultimately to talk about all three of those things. But the first you got me thinking about is compartmentalization. Or we could call it dual consciousness, right? There's a number of different different ways. I really like Rogers. Deep down in my being I'm probably resilient. And I know that's not sexy, right? Like, folks are going to come up with a post positivistic feminist narrative, something approached, it's going to sound a lot better. But deep down in my heart, I think we've got the answers to our problems, and we need those supports. Right? And, and being authentic is the key to get there. That's hard. When you're a counselor, educator, and when you're in higher ed and when you engage in leadership, the wanting to be your whole in authentic self in all spaces isn't always possible. Hell, I don't think it's possible than a number of other careers either. Right? And, and I hear from my students, I hear from other folks that I mentor, like they want to be that old self and all in all spots. And sometimes you just can't, you just can't. And as soon as I realize, like, Okay, this is what I'm going to have to be here. Fine, this is who I can be in these other spaces. Maybe we should have done the video because I'm gonna show you around my office. Right? This is my office at home. Yes, I may not always be able to be the full me in the office, but at home and in some space. He says in my office, I tried to surround myself with things that validate me culturally that speak to me. You know, we talked about servant leadership, I got such to have this back here. To me, that's an example of a servant leader. Right? And that gets me to the second point, which is the why. If you have a clearer why you can deal with whatever else is going on. In my why simple. My why is simple. My why is the liberation of marginalized communities. Okay, no, it's not simple to do, right? Like, that's a big thing. I'll probably never accomplish that myself in my lifetime. But what I'm searching to do, what I want to do professionally, is that one thing. And so the question then becomes with all involvements, how am I making progress towards that? Why is what I'm doing is what I'm getting involved with is who I'm getting involved with, detracting from that way. If it is, then I don't need to be doing it. And I'm sure we'll talk about saying no, at some point, right. That's not on the curriculum for the mentees. But there's, there's things that will distract you, there's organizations that will watch you for what you represent, right? They want to see you but they don't want to see you swagger. They want you rep to which are what you represent, but they don't want to hear what you have to say. So you've got to make those choices sometimes with that y component of it. And then it's about constantly validating that way, like, okay, if I'm not getting it here, this is my means to an end, I have to do these things. This is not appreciating me and my authenticity, then I gotta find another space where that can come where I can be that part of me. Right? And it sucks. It sucks to carpe compartmentalize. It sucks to have to have that dual consciousness. But I'm gonna use what I can over here to make it over there. And so here's the third point. The third point, I promised you three, and I remembered it. You don't have to love leadership. You don't have to love working in higher ed. You don't. Those can be means to an end. You know, I think I don't know if I've shared this story before. But I remember hearing a candidate for a dealership say, you know, why doesn't Higher Ed Love me? The way I love higher ed. And that's stuck with me. Because I don't think I love higher ed. And I said no, I want to be a kept man. We can have a transactional relationship me in higher ed. I'll make my university look good. I'll write grants, I'll write papers. But because it allows me to do the things I really enjoy working with those high school students, right, mentoring open come in faculty, folks. Right? It's okay to be transactional every once in a while. Right? Ideally, ideally, you find yourself in a space where you're fully validated and you feel fully bought into a vision. But sometimes there's got to be a means to the end. And sometimes you accept certain roles, you accept certain responsibilities, because it's going to advance your why. But it's kind of stuck while you're doing it.