The issue with the “now’s not the right time” mindset (and it’s likely not what you think)

11:32AM Mar 29, 2022

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Hey y'all hopefully you can hear me okay? I'm just winging it as usual so I don't know I'm going to try and find some light and see if I can do this without squinting I'm just by the pool so excuse the bathing suit and and whatnot but I just I had this I've had this on my heart for a minute and I wanted to share and I'm going to talk somewhat low volume even though I'm here on my own want to make sure I'm not you know, blasting from the rooftops so other guests can enjoy as well. So I wanted to chat about this concept of now's not the right time. And this is coming from conversations that my team and I have been having with people for years really but but in particular over the last few months I feel like the now's not the right time has come up a lot. And this can, you know, be applied to a million different things by the way if we haven't met yet if you're just popping on if you're watching the replay. My name is Sylvie McCracken and I help health professionals create their online courses. So we'd love to hear if we haven't met yet what type of health professional you are, drop it in the comments below. We'd love love love to hear you know this whole now's not the right time thing can apply to business personal life buying a house having a baby getting married, starting a business writing a book, 6 million other things right. And, you know, specifically today I'm talking about, you know, obviously what we help health professionals which with which is creating online programs really taking their one on one taking their practice online. And replacing it not with a one on one practice, I'm going to walk a little bit move a little bit, not with a one on one practice, but with a group program with a online course was something that replaces their one on one with one to many and and oftentimes, you know, in these conversations, you know, I mean, every you know, of course, we have a whole application process to make sure that it's a good fit. Of course, if you're interested in if you are a health professional, I will put or someone on my team, we'll put the link below which is just Sylvie McCracken comm forward slash apply if you'd like to learn more about our program on how we do this, but assuming you know, it's a good fit, assuming this is a health professional that has a lot to offer, that you know, as an expert in their field, whether it is you know, psychology, whether it is a chiropractor, and acupuncturist and naturopathic doctor a million other things, you know, we get to talking about, you know, doing this process about, you know, creating these results about taking your intellectual property, I like to call this the gold necklaces that you've got in your head and really untangling them. So they can be more valuable, right. So that we can they're usually, you know, you have incredible knowledge, incredible expertise, just talking to my health professionals out there. And usually it's just tangled, right? It's like gold necklaces that are tangled, very valuable, but very tangled. And the first step is really to untangle them and make sense of them, make sure that it's something that can be sold something that can be positioned something that people want something that can sell, etc, etc, etc. But once we get through all of that, once we get through that process, you know, nine times out of 10, what ends up happening is, you know, this, this sort of timing thing comes up the sort of timing issue in terms of like, oh, you know what, like, you know, the catch 22 of you're coming to us, you want to do this business model, specifically, because you don't have you don't have a lot of time, right, because your one on one practice doesn't give you the freedom doesn't give you the location, freedom, the time freedom to do what you want. And here's the bad news. The bad news is,

you know, that you're, you have to carve out a little bit more time, on top of a lot of times, on top of at least a 40 hour workweek that you're already running, and sometimes worse, sometimes it's an 80 Hour Work Week that you're already running. And you know, we're asking you, hey, carve out another three hours per week, at least, and three quality hours so that you can create this thing. And so of course, you know, probably not surprisingly, that's when, you know, we get some hemming and hawing of like, oh, well, maybe in the fall, maybe in January, maybe in insert whatever month you'd like there. Now I get it, first of all, I so so so get it, I still get it. Because anytime and and I'm, you know, a human being doing the same exact things. I'm not immune to any of this. And I find myself doing that with things that are difficult and new and hard for me as well. You know, things that I share this with my clients all the time, I'm not gonna go down that rabbit hole. But you know, here is the challenge. So that the not now thing, right, which is now's not the right time. You know, the fall will be better when the kids are back in school or January will be better when I don't know, insert magic thing that will happen here. Right? The challenge is that, you know, if that were the case, right? Like if it was a three month pause on like, let's hit the pause button. Things are really, really complicated right now. And about one out of 10 times that really really is the thing. Like I've got a client right now who is closing on a house for example, right? And literally I mean, financially speaking, you know how it is for those of you that have bought a house before the lender will be like don't even buy a chewing gum until The thing is, this process is close. So it's like, absolutely right makes sense to hit the pause button. Here's the thing, though nine times out of 10, when we hear this sort of knot now for whatever reason, including that one, or whether it's time or whether it's, you know, kids, or whether it's spouse or you know, related or retiring, or traveling or summer plans, or holidays, or whatever it might be, the challenge is that the not now, with all the best intentions, and I would love confessions as this is you, you know, I love a confession. would love, love, love confessions of this, as you, you know, becomes never. And you know, and that's for a million different reasons either curveballs get, you know, thrown like life happens things that have nothing to do with you, you have the best intentions in the world, you've certainly you know, had every plan to do it September 9, or whatever it might be. And then you know what happens, you know what hits the fan. So, and here's where here's where there's the tough love approach. And for those of you that know me a little bit know that this is kind of the only the only way I can communicate the only mode the only preinstalled setting I came with is sort of the tough love approach. And I do that and I you know, i By the way, I'm speaking to myself, in addition to speaking to you, is really the, I want you to be honest with yourself, right? Because there's like we have, you know, like, whatever it is that you're deciding whether it is buying a house, getting married, having a baby, starting a business, writing a book, insert any other goal here, it's really up to you like you are the you know, designer of your timeline, you are the one you're the ultimate boss as to when that gets to happen, other than the universe and life and whatever the curveballs get thrown your way. So I'm not here to tell you, you're wrong. Right? I'm not here to tell you, you know that you have to do it today. Right? I can tell you, statistically speaking, I can tell you what I've seen over time, I can tell you trends, I can tell you facts and logic, you know, such as the sooner you start, the sooner you're going to make money, all those different things. But you're ultimately the boss. But here's where I want you to self coach, here's what I want you to be really, really honest with yourself. And I have to do this, I have to have conversations with myself, me, myself and I have conference calls on this. Of like, is it going to become never? Like? Are you actually going to do it? If you don't do it now? When are you going to do it? Like for real? For real? Like? Are you going to put it on the calendar? Are you going to make that commitment? Do you have the accountability? Do you have the plan? Do you have the time carved out in your calendar? Do you know how you're going to do it? So you know, again, tough, you know, tough questions to have with yourself. And the answers to that might be up 100%. Awesome. Again, that happens one out of 10 times. So I want you to be really, really honest with yourself and really think about that really look into that really dive that's that. That's what I want to do. Cool. Like, there's, that's totally and completely fine. But let's call it that. Let's not call it's not, let's not trick ourselves, you know, and give ourselves the sort of pacifier of sorts of like, Yeah, I'm gonna do that I'm gonna get to that I'm gonna get to that later. If you know, you're not going to do it. If the if your track record shows that this has been a goal that you've had for 10 years, and you're still not taking action on it. Right. So anyway, again, I love confessions, if you're hopping on this late, we'd love for you to watch, you know from the start as well. And I'd love love, love to hear if this resonates. I always love hearing if you're picking up what I'm putting down.

And we'd love to know, like, you know, and and I'm always happy to actually have these conversations too, in terms of like, what's an actual real deal? You're absolutely right. You shouldn't do it right now type of thing. And what can you do? What's the kind of compromise if that's the case, right? If there is a real deal, like, something is happening that today, this month, I can't jump in? I can't do it, or it doesn't make sense for me to do that. Cool. And what's that compromise? Like? When would it make more sense? And what can we do so that it doesn't accidentally become never intentionally becoming never no problem, right? Like intentionally quitting? No problem. If you decide you want to be a triathlete, and then you do that for a few months, and then you're like, you know what, this life ain't for me. Cool, right? But it's like an intentional quitting, not a I'm just not gonna train this week. And then next week, I'm just not gonna train this week, either. Oh, and then the following week, I'm just second and then all of a sudden, 10 years have gone by, right. So that's the part that sort of gets me anyway, this now not becoming Never, not now, not now. Becoming never is is a hell of a drug, who's the hell of a phenomenon and I wanted to really have this conversation. I really wanted to start this conversation. I haven't been on Facebook live in, I don't know, approximately a million years. I haven't been in the sun since December. So I think the Irish part of my half Irish half Italian is going to tell me to go inside a second. So I'm gonna wrap this up. But we'd love love, love to hear what are your excuses around timing? What are your legitimate reasons around timing in terms of something that you really have on your heart that you want to do? And what is the real reason that you're not able to do it? Now why are you not able to start now? Right? And if you're open to some feedback let me know if you're open to some coaching course if your client of mine and you're seeing those you already know you're going to get the coaching and if you're not let me know if you're opening some feedback and open to a conversation on that because we'd love love love to brainstorm like okay, cool, like maybe you're not able to dive with two feet are headfirst into the deep end. Pun intended. But what can you do like what can you set up whether it's even if it's something as small as Can you start working on carving out that time? Can you start working on streamlining your schedule? What is the biggest you know thing that's holding you back schedule wise I just was having this conversation with a friend of mine who is working a ton of hours and has a hobby that they're leaning into also taking a ton of time and then wants to start a business and I was like homie, I hate to break it to you but But something's gonna have to give a little bit right either that or sleep right you're gonna have to find a way to do this on no sleep, which is obviously not possible. So anyway, again, know that the tough love is in every area of my life. I go around having these conversations. We'd love to hear from you. Of course if you are a health professional if you want to create an online course would love love love to have you apply for our courses for health professionals program. I'm gonna put the link in the comments below Sylvie McCracken comm forward slash apply and we'll have a conversation and see if it's a fit. And if it's something that makes sense for you to do and then of course, timing wise, it doesn't make sense for you to do now as well. Alright, for now, I'm going to go ahead and say goodbye and I'll see you on the next Facebook Live.