I feel like shame is so heavy, and it's everywhere. And it's not obvious, like you said it often is very implicit, because I for most of the time that I've been running my business, I was in Asia, either Singapore or South Korea and the people I was learning from, or mostly in the US, I had super early calls or very late night calls to participate in certain programs. And the person leading the program, I think they intended it really I think they did intended as a compliment to say, look at Danby, she's showing up at six o'clock in the morning, because she is so committed to her business. It didn't make me feel good. Because in my head, I was like, why are you not? If you appreciate the fact that I'm showing up at this time? Why are you not making it easier for me? Why am I sacrificing my health, like my physical health and my mental health to show up this way? And I wasn't the only person in that program. It was a small group, but I wasn't the only person in the program who was in Asia. So what does that say to the other person who wasn't there at six o'clock in the morning? Because it was probably five o'clock in the morning for them. Or it doesn't even matter what time really? It was right. And I think that's why it's so difficult because this person I think, really meant to pay me a compliment to really say, Look, they're so committed. And it brings up another other example there's so many are there were someone From similar circles said, oh, this person, this business owner, English is their second language and look at like the copy that they were able to write. And I found it really condescending and internalizing. I think they meant it as a compliment. But all it said was, it's not really up to standard, but it's really good because clearly English is good. Yeah, exactly. And you said you don't people are people in your programs are like human beings with complex lives, I have this like memory that plays over and over again, in my mind once in a while this happened when I was an undergraduate student. So it was a long time ago. Sadly, it was a long time ago. And there was this white American exchange student who was in my I didn't know him very well, but he was in my general like social circle. And we were like, at a bar, we were out as a group. And he and I just happened to have a quiet moment. And he'd said something like, he complimented my English and said something like, oh, when I'm speaking to you, I'm speaking like 95% of my English, as if to say he had to dumb down his English in order to communicate with me. And these are instances, these are just all examples of people thinking. They're doing you, they're paying you a compliment, they're seeing your work, they're seeing your effort, but just reinforcing these really harmful stereotypes, really harmful ideas that people who look like me aren't as good, need to work more need to work harder. And when they do, it's normal. And it should be like celebrated, the extra work I do should be celebrated versus and it's this is not real celebration, right? This is condescending, like, pat on the back, good job, good girl type of celebration, instead of looking at the environment that they've created to see. Yeah, like, how can we create an environment where people don't have to work harder, just because of who they are? Where they are? This