TUYT 76

Amy Hoyt36min

Amy Hoyt

00:02

Welcome to the universe is your therapist. We are your hosts, Dr. Amy Hoyt and Lena Hoyt. We are sisters. Take a seat and let's dive into this week's episode. Welcome back to the podcast. This week's guest is one of my favorite people. Her name is Dana del Val. And Dana and I became acquainted after she joined the whole health lab our signature program for people recovering from trauma and toxic stress. Dana has such an interesting background. She has left a professional career in the nonprofit sector and has recently started with her husband, a discover your spark couple's sober experience, kind of piggybacking off their experience of sobriety. And learning to be a couple again, after her husband became sober. Please help me welcome our guests, Dana Delvaux.

Unknown Speaker

00:59

Thank you, Amy, I'm really, really thrilled to be here.

Amy Hoyt

01:02

I am super excited to be to have you here and to, I just want to thank you for coming on, and letting people kind of get a peek at the journey that people go through when they work with us. That's such a gift that you're giving to people. So thank you, I wrote down a few questions that I thought people may have. And so we'll just kind of go through those and and feel free to add or, you know, enter, you know, anything else into the conversation that you feel like is relevant? Okay, so you've been part of the whole health lab for almost a year now. Is that right? Yeah, I joined in July. Okay, July. Yeah. So what originally brought you in to work on a program for trauma or toxic stress.

Speaker 1

01:50

So I was working with to marketing women, and I had this virtual meeting with them, where we were sort of setting up what was coming, and I had a physical sensation, like I was watching a tsunami come at me, because they were saying things like, you know, we're gonna launch this five day free program and up to 500 people, and then we're gonna do a six week course. And then we're gonna, and all this stuff. And it was all these things that I wanted. And the reason I was working with them. And it really did, I felt like I was just watching it charge at me. And I kept it together on the call. And I got off, and my husband and I were making our way to a lumber store, because we were having all this construction done in our house. And I burst into tears in the car. And he said, what, what is the feather and I said, I am not ready for what's coming. And I've spent all this money and all this time, and I've put all this energy into it, and it's everything that I want. And I'm going to do what I always do, which is I'm going to derail it, to make sure that I can never be as successful as I'm supposed to be. And I cried and cried and cried the whole way to the lumber store. And okay, so then I had my next week's meeting with my marketing women, and they asked me how I was doing. And I thought, I'm just going to be really honest. And I said, I'm in a real place of panic. And I don't know what's, what I'm going to do, because I can feel myself already screwing this up so that it can't work. And they said to me, without missing a beat, you need to join the whole health lab. And I said, I don't even know what you're talking about. And so they explained it to me. And I looked into it after my hour with them. And I joined it immediately, immediately, because I just felt like I guess I could go search for a therapist. First of all, I think everything I hear about finding a therapist or a counselor or anybody is yeah, good luck. You can't get in for months and months. Well, I had about six weeks to get some kind of ducks in a row. And so part of the appeal was I could get started immediately. It the price point was right. And I watched a video between you and Lena or I listened to a conversation or something. And I just thought, okay, they're calm, they're rational. They're smart. They're they're kind. I have to do something. I'm just going to do this. And so that's how it started for me.

Amy Hoyt

04:32

Wow. I hadn't heard the entire story, especially about the going to the lumber store. So I'm grateful. Yeah, no, I'm grateful that you would share I think that's what it speaks to, to me is the subconscious patterns that we all have. And you were a little bit aware enough, right? I'm going to screw this up. I'm going to derail it to know you needed something. And I I wanted I guess I want to know at the time in Your Life? How? How was it presenting? Was it was it simply that you were worried you were gonna derail the business that you were working so hard for? Or were there any other kind of symptoms that were manifesting for you?

Speaker 1

05:18

Um, well, certainly sleep is a huge issue for me. And I think it's it's multiple reasons I was a single mom, a young single mom. And so I had some of that really heavy pressure of wow, it's just me. I mean, if something happens to me in the night, what is this baby going to do? So there that sort of began the now 27 and a half year history of poor sleep. My husband, after so we met when my son was five, we got married when he was 12. He very shortly after that descended into alcoholism, which lasted for the first eight ish years of our marriage. And so that was a piece of that stress and no sleeping, and I'm kind of a highly anxious person. Anyway, I'm highly strong, my mind works very fast I have, I'm just wrapping up a fairly high pressured position in the nonprofit sector. And so there's just a lot of things that equate to me not sleeping well. But this, this side work, which I started two and a half years ago, which is now going to be the next iteration of my professional life is also stressful. Entrepreneurship is not easy. So, you know, there's just a lot of things that I think definitely manifest itself. A perfect example is last night, I was up from 115 to 4am. It was in bed for an hour, sort of just hanging out. And then I finally thought just get up and read. So I did. And that's not really a typical for me. And I'm a person who needs an incredible amount of sleep, because I use an unbelievable amount of mental energy, because I'm a high energy person. So I would say sleep is definitely a piece of it. And my if my husband were here, he would say that I have like an insane level of high strung Ignis. So I can know he's in the house. I can know where he is in the house. And yet, if he walks into the room that I'm in, it's as if I've been alone for 10 months, and had no idea that anyone else was ever going to join me again. I mean, I am sort of that, like, throw everything up in the air and scream kind of person. Join me. Yeah, totally irrational, unnecessary ways. And that seems probably part of all of this.

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