Live Matchmaking Pt 3: Ashley & Jeff’s Second Date

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Can you find love on a podcast? If you tuned into the last two episodes, you heard Ashley going on two dates with two different guys. And today, we're back for a second date with her favourite I'm in love with love with you. Hi, I'm Talia.

And I'm Becca and we are with three day rule matchmaking.

We're a nationwide matchmaking company. We get to know you and what you're looking for. And we set you up with the highest quality matches.

today. We are so excited to welcome Ashley back for her second date with Jeff. Hey, Ashley, how are you?

I'm good. How are you?

excited to have you back on the show. We know your first episode was a date with Jeff. The second was a date with David. And you mentioned that you would like to see Jeff again. And here we are.

Yeah, it's been good. I'm excited for today.

When was the last time you went on a second date with someone?

Honestly, I don't remember. Maybe like four years ago? Most people, most people don't get a second date. So

I'm sure Jeff will be honoured any nerves? How are you feeling before this day? Any questions for us?

I guess I'm curious to hear your advice. You guys have had really good advice. Before going into the last few dates. And me I can get really in my head. And I'm like, oh, gosh, it's a second day like what does that mean? Like? What else to come after this? And like thinking too far in the future and stuff like that. So I would love any tips that you all have on mindset going into this? And yeah,

I mean, I think it's pretty similar to the advice that we gave for the first date, just try to be present, and not future thing. What's helpful on the second day is just to share a little bit more and to learn more about Jeff. So you can move a little bit past surface level conversations and get a little bit deeper, you can ask about his childhood or share whatever you feel comfortable, it doesn't have to be too much. But this is a time to really get to know each other. Okay, cool.

The beautiful thing is that you guys already know that there's ease of conversation, it feels really natural to talk to one another. So you don't really have to assess for energy. At this point, it's a good opportunity to kind of practice the flirty skills that we taught you if there's a moment to kind of flirt a little bit, have some banter, it's always good to kind of incorporate that in the second date, if it feels right for you. And you know, in terms of the pressure of like, where do we go from here, I always like to view the first three to five dates as solely information gathering here, getting to know the person you're getting to see what their values are, they're getting to know what your values are. So it's just an opportunity to gain more information to see if there's a third date. And if there isn't, just stay present and view your fun bubbly self.

Exactly. Yes. Keep it light and fun and just be authentic. And we can't wait to debrief with you after the date.

Awesome. Yeah, that was very good advice. So thank you for that.

Okay, we're gonna set the stage for this date. Once again, we've ordered you food and yes, this is a virtual date. But let's imagine that you're in the same space feeling all of those second date feels ready to see if this conversation could be the second of many more to come.

Edward here can you like I can really see the bottom half of your face right now. I don't know. Really? Yeah, the angle of the camera is like Okay, there we go. Okay. Oh, I think we got it. Is that working? That's that's the angle. That's great. Okay, that's fantastic. How's it going? Good, dude, good. Yeah, so this is your back at home right? You're on vacation last time we talked.

I was yes. And now I am back. So um, Sweet Home baby back in LA back to work back to life, per usual. So as

per usual, yeah, yeah, you're back in LA LAND OF THE smoothies like we were talking about that's literally the only thing that defines us. Versus is the smoothies

literally smoothie culture.

Honestly, like again, I like I love going out for a smoothie but I also love making them at home. So I have this crazy crazy idea for this kind of second go rounds. So we were talking about smoothie collaborations last time and you know, I think it'd be fun if we just did our own. Maybe if you want to make a smoothie at your place and your kitchen right now and provides a completely and yeah, then we have our own colour. Yeah, by the end of it, we'll see if we have something delicious or not. Okay, name comes later for now I don't even want to preconceive it. Let's just Let's just go in there. You want to try this.

Let's try it. This should be like in my freezer currently, I'm looking at what's in here and like this should be interesting.

Okay, yeah. What are you seeing right now? Talk to me. What do we work with?

Well, there's some uncrustables it's a great start. There's some Trader Joe's case it is. My roommate does have some green stuff and some frozen berries. So that might be

frozen berries and green stuff. Now we're never working our work. Yeah. Are there any? Are there any bananas in the house? Banana is a good like foundation ingredient. Makes it thicker.

There's something that might be a banana. But it also might be meat. I am. I'm sure and I don't know if

I don't want to touch on identified objects in the freezer. For years now,

literally. Okay, I will say the options are for the milk. Oh, that's okay. So yeah, there's no there's no milk. But there's vanilla creamer. And there's prune juice. So,

okay. Okay, hear me out. Okay, we mostly do water, but maybe just like a little bit of a prune juice, like, not enough to overpower it. But enough for it to mix in there. Because if we have berries, a little prune juice, and then we have what were the green things, that's what we should do. What are the green things? I love green stuff in my smoothie? Oh, yeah.

The green things, fruit and veggie blenders.

Isn't that exactly what we're trying to do? Are we trying to blend something?

Yeah, let's see. It says pineapple. Oh, wait. Look at this. All right. Thanks, John. We've got pineapple, banana, apple, kale, celery, and it's in these cute little packets that I guess you just dumped in the smoother. Just Add Water juice or milk.

We're doing this.

I mean, there's still the untrustable and like some pizza that looks like it wants to get blended. So

oh my god. I'm almost Okay, here. I'm almost curious about their crosstable like, Okay,

I'm kinda like, what are we good? Well, I

put peanut butter and smoothies. And I know that works. I just don't know about like the bread part. I mean, would it be crazy if we just threw like one in there and see what happened?

We could see what happened. That's like, maybe not like the whole thing.

Yeah, I'd be pushing it comparatively. Yeah,

like, Oh, this one's good. It's like oozing Peanut butter. Peanut butter and Xavier. Okay,

there we go. Yeah, we get a little peanut butter. It's some extra stuff in there. I like this. Set.

Take one for the team. Thanks. Roommate. Yeah, seriously. Shout out to my roommate for being healthy I guess.

Let's get it all in the blender. Let's just get it on the blender. This is getting you there.

All right. I'm terrified of the prune juice but just let me just like a splash Yeah,

that's what I have. Yeah, a splash.

I just I feel like this smoothie is going to do one of two things to the front squatting in an hour

well the last thing I want to do is impact the job you know like this is supposed to give you the energy you're gonna need after this jump in.

Yeah, you know,

now this is a what is it? Like just cooking video or whatever cooking tic toc or something? Okay,

guys, yeah, it's like all right. And now it's just very interesting colour scheme. Look it's like losing peanut butter. So it's ready to go

let's let's just do it. Oh yeah, I think the uncrustables half of that

yeah, let's go with you know what honestly, at this point I'm accepting that this movie is you know why now? Oh man the water really doesn't the water really does it.

Yeah, I shouldn't be forced to endure that least looking at it.

Yeah, this literally looks like the bottom of a pond.

Yeah, that looks straight lake like that is like LA River.

This is straight up the upside down like Oh, smooth the land.

I mean we have to at least blend it just to see the final result we came this far we have to at least see

yeah moment of truth moment of truth. I'm scared looks a little better.

It's got like a good purplish colour in there. All right. I'm,

I'm impressed the colour that is not what I expected it to be so.

Yeah. Okay. Yeah, I think the uncrustables might just be the flavour saver like it just masks all. Everything else we put in there.

All right moment of escape.

I'm scared for you.

Don't go anywhere. We'll be back after this short break Okay, here we go. Actually pretty good. Oh my gosh, we did it.

It's a smoothie from nothing. Oh my gosh.

It's very peanut buttery. Yeah.

Are you a big fan of peanut butter? I'm a huge fan of peanut butters. That doesn't bother me too much.

No, I like peanut butter. Good. I'm just surprised how much it tastes like peanut butter. I would say peanut butter and pineapple are the strongest two notes that I'm getting.

Okay, where can we get where can we get a name with peanut butter pineapple, but it's red. Like,

I don't know. I kind of like the peanut butter. Saviour. Yeah, peanut

butter saviour because? Well, you see, here's the point of the smoothies or the pitch right when we go to the smoothie shop. Or like, see, you can throw anything you want in it.

Yeah. And cross sells it. There you go. Exactly. And it tastes like peanut butter. And that's the peanut butter saviour. The unpress stubble is doing its job. But yeah, this is good. I wish you could try it. I know.

So that's the final point for the smoothie. Are you gonna finish it? Or could you finish it? Even if you don't want it now?

I could I could finish it if this was morning time. Right. And I made this Yeah, I would drink it. I honestly might just save it for tomorrow morning. Well, there we go. Um, drink it. Drink it then mix it with some. Because I'm like, Well, I thought I was gonna want to toss it down the drain. But now that I don't want to do that. I might as well save it.

I'm getting another awkward call about my food coming in the middle of this. Hold on. Let me see. That's actually good time because we finished this hell up. All right, we ran out. Okay, that's the delivery is here. Great segue to move on for the smoothies. I'll be right back. We love that all right. I made it back with my delicious Thai food, which will be delicious.

At any point, yeah, I was gonna ask what did you get this time?

Oh, so I definitely went Thai. I did something. I got something I never got which I tried to do a lot there at this specific restaurant because they have specials and this was a okay. It's like it's called a food cat fish curry. Okay. Yeah. And they also have one that's with like blue crab. Oh, and I one with the fish one. Because blue crabs sounded complicated. Imagine me trying to like eat crab legs, you know, it was like,

Yeah, that would be interesting. Yeah, I

know. There are some things you like, if you're like in person to and you're eating you're like, Okay, maybe not the extra garlic and maybe got the crab? Yes. Yeah. Because like, the most direct thing around me is tacos and proposals, which I love like that, to me is like, if I'm coming home late after work, like, I don't want to think about it. I can walk down the street and there's like, either a standard or a restaurant where I can get those. And obviously not the healthiest option. But if I usually when when this happens, like I eat healthy all freaking day, and then I'm tired and it's late. I'm coming home for 14 hour day on set or something. I'm like, Just guess I'm just gonna eat these tacos, and I'm gonna enjoy them. And I'm not gonna care.

Yeah, no, I feel that I last week exclusively ate Domino's pretty much every day, because I had like three free pizzas from them that all had to be used within like, a week. And I was like, All right, like, I guess I'm eating Domino's every day. So this week, I'm not having Domino's every day the balance that went out. But yeah, I totally get the like, Oh, I'm not thinking about this or anything like that. Um, when you were a kid, did you guys like have like family meals? Or was it kind of just like everyone ate like, whenever,

you know, like, It depended. But most of the time, it was a family meal. Like I think it was my mother who was really like, even though she didn't do a lot of the cooking, which is funny, like my dad was the cook. My dad was a way better cook. And I think most of the things I learned about cooking were from him. But I'll also say that neither my mom or dad were very good cooks I've become a much better cook than both of them. But the food that was mostly my dad because he got home earlier. And if it was up to my dad, he would eat like immediately just be like alright, you guys go eat now or something. But my mom's like, No, we're all gonna sit down, we're gonna do the thing. So yeah, if it's like if there wasn't something going on that night, like if people were home, we were eating together, and it was going to be like, this is the time we get together, where we're going to sit here and you're going to talk to me, and we're going to talk about our day. You know, like that kind of family thing where parents are like, trying to get you to talk like that was it it was dinnertime, where I couldn't run away, I couldn't avoid the questions. Was it like that for you to like, think family meals bonding, like that way or like chaos,

it was a little more chaos. My siblings, we all did like different, like sports and stuff like that. So it was always just kind of like, my mom would be like, All right, the food's ready. And like most times, it was kind of like whoever was home at the time would just like go make a play like, we would like sometimes have like, sit down family dinners, but we never really had like a table for that other than this, like big table that was mostly for like Thanksgiving or Christmas or stuff like that. So we have like a kitchen bar. And then there was like another smaller table, where there were six of us total. So we would all just kind of like somewhat filter around there. So yeah, it was never like all sit down, talk about the day, stuff like that. But sometimes there'll be like multiple of us in the kitchen at the same time. So we'd kind of like, chat then and then it'd be like, All right,

I mean, see, that explains it all. You had five, seven

or no? No, four kids for kids. Oh, my poor kids are great for but yeah, six, including the parents.

Yeah, that's just a lot of good. Like, I just think like we really it was just like me little brother parents. So And to think I don't know, the stress that I feel like my brother was under just trying to collect our plans and get me to sports and sports. You know, like that, to me seems like a superhuman feat. But that it's like people out here got way more kids.

Yeah, and we were we were all like three years apart. So it was like, just enough difference where not everyone can drive. Yeah. Or like, you know, stuff like that.

Where do you fall in it? older, younger, middle.

I'm the oldest.

Oh, so am I older sibling energy?

Yep, yep, that's me. So I was the guinea pig.

I say this all the time of like, Oh, it's great. You get to that you made all the mistakes with me. And you know, now yeah, you could you could do version 2.0. With.

Exactly except it kind of I don't know what this happened to you. My. It was I got I always got so mad watching my siblings get to do things that I couldn't like, I couldn't watch Harry Potter. And then one day I came home my brother was just watching Harry Potter on TV. And my mom was like, oh, yeah, there was like a Harry Potter movie marathon. I just said you can watch it. And I was like, I couldn't watch it. Not my generation. And I was so mad. Like, I was like, I missed out on an entire generation of bonding with my friends. And it was.

That's so funny. What it would be like rated T video games or something. And I'm literally like, 11 or 12 years old, like I'm like on the cusp of this age requirement, which is completely arbitrary, right? And so it was like Tony Hawk, I like six years old. I want to play Tony Hawk. Okay, it's ready to tea because some dude like bloody knees. And I'm so mad that I can't play doh. Like it's a children's game. But she doesn't it doesn't matter because she didn't understand you know what video games were it was just a big T. So to her it's like, oh, that's like a it's like a radar show. But like, go it's what are we doing here? Yeah. I like the big difference between the two siblings here is that I was a rebel from the very beginning. And I did not like being told what to do. And it would be so stupid. Just like, you know, for me, I'd look back and I know how dumb I was for a lot of things. But he was like, you know, just come home at like, nine o'clock or 10 o'clock. And I'm like, no, 11 o'clock. That's the time people should be able to come. You know, I just had to be right. I had to be different. And I think my little brother is quiet. Interesting. And I think then that my parents see we're also like, oh, like the thing is, is like if I did well in school, that was enough to satisfy them

say it's like, but I have A's and they were like, wow, yeah.

That's the thing, right? It's like I have A's so that means I should be able to not come home tonight or something and be like, that's not how it works.

Yeah, literally, how many years apart? Are you and your

brother pretty significant diverged a lot of people seven years, like like a big chunk, like seven and a half years. So yeah. He just turned 21 Which is funny because again, like he's not he was not the big outgoing type, like drinking is something that was already like, Oh, I'm gonna guess I'll go do that because I'm 21 on. And of course, like when I was 21 it much younger, dumber, I was all just, I was just completely different. I was just like, Yeah, this is what being an adult is, let's go. I got to take on the world and the most extreme ways possible and you know, dive into every literally everything. When did you move out of your house? And, like, were you also, let's say, the kind of person who couldn't get wait to get away from their parents because I was definitely me. Like, I could not wait to be on my own to be independent to be free.

Yeah, no, know, I was very independent, like always. And I would always do just like, random things that my family was like, oh, like, that's interesting. Like, instead of doing like, internships over the summer, or stuff like that, I was like, I'm gonna go to Africa for three months. And like, things like that, because I was like, oh, no, that seems more fun. Like, I only have this time once. So I'm going to do that instead of a boring internship. And yeah, I moved out after, I guess, like, high school was like, the last time that I was there, and I was so excited for college just to like, be away and like, be again, like, it's like, oh, like, I can come home whenever I want now, and no one's gonna be waiting to tell me anything. And then naturally, now I'm like, home at like, 7am I cool. Great. Awesome. Like, I can't wait to go to bed.

It really did. The shifts. The shifts are so true. Yeah, I have to move into the dorms. I have to not be here. Because I was like the first to leave and all that stuff. Like I made a lot of mistakes that now I tell my little brother to not do. And because of my eagerness to run, like to get away. Yeah, but yeah, I feel like I had to there was a bit of an explosion. I had to sort of get a lot of things out and make some mistakes to learn some things and that bad. Yeah.

Okay, this is back to here. Unfortunately, we are at time, so it's time to say our goodbyes.

I mean, shit. It's been good talking to you. Seriously, I've I've enjoyed it. Yeah, this

has been fun. I mean, from the smoothie. Childhood and dependents like great love it.

You know, we can get to anything anywhere about anything at you know, ideally, at some point, we just get to the real shit. It gets the interesting shit,

you know? Exactly, exactly. But

yeah. Hey, if you want to, let's actually get through these.

Yeah, let's do it. Let's do it.

Luckily, we live in Hollywood. We both technically live on these opposite ends of Hollywood. So in between us, or is it just so many options? There's no shortage of places we could go

to. Oh, yeah. plethora Cleverbot places.

Okay, Ashley, if you can take your headphones off for a second. We just want to talk to Jeff privately. Thank you.

Goodbye, Ashley. This is fun.

Bye.

Hey, Dad. Hey. We are so proud of you, Jeff.

You nailed it. That was so fun to watch. From this smoothie challenge to showing interest. You said it a couple times. And we were so proud of you. We were texting back and forth. Yes.

Yeah, you're too cockeyed. It's it's funny to think about this in terms of like improvement, you know, but it's true. It's true. Like you guys gave good feedback last time, you know, and I think it's good to like put faces to like what a batch Faker actually is and what you guys do? Because clearly it helps.

Oh, we're so happy to hear that.

Yeah, I honestly, I was so proud of how you just really naturally put in there. Like we should go to a smoothie shop sometime and you were really graceful about shifting into different topics. So I just think you're really great about active listening and all the things we talked about the first date, but also just being assertive conversationally in a way that's very warm and inviting. So 10 out of 10 Well done. Yes.

Amazing love the energy between the two of you and how comfortable and natural it was. And as Becca mentioned, like you definitely you know, lead the conversation and you ask great questions and you're able to shift between a totally like spontaneous smoothie challenge to asking about childhood so great range and it seems like there's a lot still to learn about each other. So I'm so happy to hear that you guys are gonna go out again.

That's you're just absolutely right. It was it's it was the thing that impacted the most as of last time like letting them know you're having a good time and ask you though, I don't know just like we have to we have to tell each other at some point is this working? And I baby that's the hardest part for me is to just ask him or to say it, even if I know it's like, I feel it. So there you go. Yeah,

it's interesting because I think you both felt it was a good time. But when you feel it and you don't say it, it can lend for a plateau or you guys kind of end up in the friendzone. So just being able to verbalise it and that really cute playful way, takes it to the next level and makes it No, so it's sounds minimal, but it's so crucial to just increasing the pacing of getting to know somebody.

Well, we can't wait to hear how the smoothie date goes. Here if you need any advice along the way,

and after this movie date, if there's a date for make it an evening date, increase the romance. Oh,

yeah, absolutely. Yeah. I'm always like, first date. I know. It's our first to be your first day casual daytime, do something that's an activity kind of next date change in a completely Yeah, absolutely.

Solid day. Great work. Okay, thanks, Jeff.

Let's invite Ashley back on. Hey, Ashley, how

are you feeling about how the day went?

Hold tight. We're going to be back in just a moment after this short break.

Hey, Ashley, how are you feeling about how the date went?

I am feeling good about it. It was so fun. It looks so fun.

I was laughing out loud. On my end, this smoothie challenge is amazing. And you guys even had to be a team through it. You had to compromise on the prune juice. You really worked well as a team. So it's so fun to watch.

Yeah, I'm glad.

Yeah, I love the smoothie challenge also, because I feel like it gave you guys a story. Like, I feel like when you go to work, you'll be thinking about this smoothie. Or if when you drink this smoothie in the morning, you'll be thinking about the challenge together. So I think creating stories like that, that you guys can laugh about in future is always so helpful. And just building connection. Yeah, it was hilarious and repulsive to watch at times.

you'd win a game show together, that's for sure.

Yeah, I love a good inside joke slash story. So

I like that he was using words like we as a team.

Yeah, I didn't pick up on that. So that's fun. Yeah, he

did. He did it quite a few times. I loved that. And then it was pretty seamless going from this really spontaneous, playful challenge to getting into more of childhood conversation. So I'm so happy that you asked a question about dinner around the family table. So you could get to know a little bit more about him exactly what we said on the last date just a little bit more on every date. So you get to learn about each other. So great job there.

Yeah, I second thought I was starting to be like, are we going to talk about food this whole day? What's going on? Let's pace the pace along and right as I was having that thought you just really inserted such a perfect childhood question there to get a little bit deeper. And it brought you guys to so many different topics of childhood dynamics and siblings and what life was like. So I thought you did such a good job in incorporating that. And I think you just do a really good job of going with the flow and staying flirty and fun. But then, you know, poking in every once in a while to ask a deeper question and get a little bit more vulnerable. So I love that you held both during this date. But yeah, I

was thinking the same thing. I was like, oh, no, it's almost over. We've only talked about today, I should ask the question.

Really, I thought it was a pretty perfect date. My only advice just because I have to always give some advice is when he said a few times, like let's do a smoothie date or at the end. I'd love to see you again. You said let's do it. Or Yes. And so it would be great. If you were enthusiastic to just say I would love to or Yes, like Absolutely. Let's do it. So there's just a little more enthusiasm behind it. But he got that you were interested. So you're you're good to go on a third date.

Cool. Cool. Yeah. That is, along with the light flirting. The other thing that I'm not good at, so I'm like, sick. So that's

improving.

Yeah, you're definitely improving. This is a you know, a big improvement from the first day which was already so fun to watch. And you guys had so much banter. Awesome. Yeah, just keep up the momentum. So hopefully you can see him again sometime within the next week would be ideal, but within the next two weeks, if necessary. And in the meantime, just sending a text that was such a great activity that was so thoughtful. I really enjoyed it and look forward to our smoothie adventures together or something fun and playful like that.

Nice. Awesome. Yeah, I love that.

Any questions or final thoughts?

No, I think it was fun. The time passed really quickly, which for me is always a good sign that I'm not like looking at the clock like, oh gosh, like, When is this gonna be over? And uh, yeah, I want to hang out again. And usually I asked her like a second date. I'm like, never mind like, so yeah, I would say it was. It was good. Love it. Awesome.

Ashley, it's been such a pleasure working with you. And we're fully invested in your story. So I hope you'll keep us posted after your next date with Jeff. But we've really enjoyed working with you. Just as

we anticipated, you are a dream client. You have learned and grown so much in just these three dates. And we are so excited to see what comes of this next date with Jeff.

Yeah, thank you so much for working with me. I feel like I've learned a lot and it's definitely helped relieve any anxiety that I might have around any like other first dates or things like that. And I feel like it's helped me hone in on what are the important things to focus on? And what are things that can be sorted out as you go down the road. So definitely going to be taking this advice forward. And yeah, it's been fun to meet new people as well.

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