Hello and welcome to The Sunday Jumpstart Podcast! A weekly podcast helping #Goalgetters, ditch the excuses, do the work and make this happen! My name is Jessica Lauren, and you are listening to episode number 136.
Hey y'all! Hey! And welcome back to this week's episode of the SJS Podcast. Happy Sunday. Thank you so much for spending a couple of minutes with me here on the podcast. So what are we talking about today? Today we are talking about how to deal with disappointment. Disappointment sucks. And when you get hit with a bout of disappointment it takes everything in you not to give up and not to just say forget it. Well, today we're going to talk about how to show up even when you feel disappointed and keep moving forward.
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Alright, so today is January 23. And as I'm looking at my calendar, we have about nine more days until we start slamming right on into February 2022. This month, I don't know how y'all feel about it. It flew by it seems like just yesterday I was unwrapping Christmas gifts and here we are almost into the second month of February. Now the end of January can be triggering for a lot of people because it is at the end of January when you start to reflect and realize dang everything didn't work out the way I expected it to right. So let's say at the end of December or the top of January you were like you know what 2022 was my year Maybe I'm getting my finances together, you know what I'm giving myself all of January to get a new job, you know, I want to start my business or start my creative endeavor, maybe you were like, I want to get healthy and focus on my health and get back into the gym, right? So I'm going to work out every single day come hell or high water, right? And you actually started to do the work. You've been, you know, submitting your resume, resumes, going on interviews, you've been eating healthier, going to the gym, you know, you've been saving money you didn't know, span, January. In fact, you even picked up a side hustle, like, look, I'm gonna do Instacart a couple times a week to create some more money. But then when you go back and look at the scale, you might notice like, Dang, this, the scaling stay on what it was supposed to have said, it doesn't look like what I expected, right? I figure if I dedicate every single day, just 30 minutes to an hour to doing cardio and eating healthier, drinking more water, eliminating coffee and sugar. I thought I would be 40 pounds down. And you're looking at the scale and it's only 15 Right? And what starts to happen. Disappointment starts to creep in. You've been sending off that resume submitted left and right and you finally got an interview with that dream company for that dream position. And you know that if you were to get that job, it would change the trajectory of your career and your finances right so you book interview number one you like a woman? Yeah, I killed that I did the doggone thing they invite then they invite you to interview number two, you nail it. Interview number three. And first of all, it should be illegal to interview somebody $7 hands but here we are, you know, I'm saying you go through. You jumped through all the hoops, all the rhythm a row, right? And then on interview six, this is you know, between you and the VP or the CEO or whoever. And you feel confident and strong because you've been now in the I'm talking about kicking some A S S. And then you go home and sure enough, the recruiter calls you and they say hey, I'm so sorry. We went a different way. And you like but it wasn't supposed to happen like that. Because I was expecting to get the job of my dreams. I was expecting to land this job, especially if I made it through six doggone cycles of interviews, right? That used to happen to me all the time. When I was auditioning baby, I would make it through you know, the callbacks, the read throughs the VA and then my agent call Jessica, I'm sorry, you ain't get it. And it's like, that's not how this was supposed to work. I worked hard. I honor my commitments. I said no to things that were distracting me. I said yes to new opportunities. I got my discipline game up. Why isn't this working? I am disappointed right it can happen our relationships. You met boo boo Oh, you know Christmas Eve had a little party already already. Y'all had a good time had a good connection you like you know what? I think this the one he find he funny got a good job. We get along there's chemistry. Our friends know each other. He ain't got no kids. You know, he loved his mama. He go to church on Sundays. He played basketball. He's being genuine, like you're doing all the things. And then Jay wave 15 Come rain and coast the gel tail. Right? It wasn't supposed to happen like that. We all have these expectations about how things are supposed to play out in our lives when we launch new products, right? launch new services, right? build our E courses and classes. We like to work so hard, but there's work in bed, you know, where's the fanfare? I hit publish. Where are the listeners? I uploaded my video on YouTube where my viewers I posted a fire picture on Instagram. I didn't study the hashtags. I figured out the right time. And you know, edit it to the gods and I wore a cute outfit where my likes. Where was the money? Honey, I'm working hard at this job. Somebody should be banging down my door for a promotion, right? We expected and then for no reason other than life just be life in right? Things don't always go your way. And it is so natural to feel disappointed, right? We don't like the feeling because according to dictionary.com Disappointment is a sadness or displeasure caused by the non non fulfillment of one's hopes or expectations. And I want you to highlight and bookmark those words sadness or displeasure when in the history of time have humans ever signed up to feel sad? When have we ever come running down the runway? Oh, can you sign me up for some displeasure Oh my goodness. Hey, like you passing out paying Can I get one? Oh my goodness. Oh my god, you you given our free sadness and let me get some please. Never we don't like to feel sad. Our goal as humans is to be comforted to feel peace to be fulfilled to have our needs met sadness, any one of them, we sign up for happiness, we sign up for pleasure, we sign up for joy, but you want me to sit around and be sad? Oh, no, maybe I'm too bad. I'm nine disappointed, you know, maybe you had a birthday trip planned. And you had to cancel it because COVID, still COVID COVID. Right. Maybe you had finally saved up 10 stacks and save as admin a goal forever. He was like, You know what, once I get to 10, stacks on the top five and invested in triple my money, and then an emergency popped up, you had to spend it life be lifing and is no personal attack while you that's just the nature of life, right. And as corny as it is, you know, there are some days that are going to be sunny, 75 degrees, breezy. But there are also some seasons like we are now where it's winter, and it gets cold at three o'clock, and it's dark, and you're tabbing and then spring comes around. It is raining as bubbly. Didn't fall things die away. That's how life is designed, right? We're not always going to get every shot that we shoot, right? We're not always going to book the clients, we're not going to always have a successful launch, right? We're not always going to make fast friends. Every person you meet ain't going to be the one and it hurts. And it sucks, but it's the truth. Right? The good thing about being disappointed is that it doesn't last forever. But one mistake that we always make sometimes that we make is that we try to hide the disappointment right? Somebody be like, Hey, girl, what happened to that guy? Yeah, it was really cute. Our girl he was a nun. You know, I am moving ind me. I'm independent. I'm a strong black woman. I only know Bobby.
Grace. Okay, if you heard it's okay. If you're upset. Hey, man, aren't you 105 interviews high tech? Oh, man, I get it. It feels icky. And it's embarrassing. And but it is okay. All of us have been disappointed. And the truth of the matter is, the more we live and breathe, the more we invite ourselves to disappointment, right? Because that's just a part of the bag. But how do you deal with it right? Regardless of you know, it's a part of the bag. It's a part of the circle of life, we still don't like it right? Especially when you put your heart and soul and money and time into things. How do you deal with disappointment when things don't go your way when your expectations aren't met? Right? You know, I'm always preached, have faith, do the thing. Take the leap, believe everything is always working out for your greater good. And I believe that with all my heart and soul, but I don't mean everything. Working off a grid is good, right? In this very moment. It don't feel good. When you're getting fired. We can talk behind your back when people aren't buying stuff when those that said they were supposed to be talking behind your back. It hurts. So how do you deal with that before everything works out for you for your good, right? while you're still in the valley? Walking towards the top of the mountain? Right? So first things first, when you get disappointed, allow yourself the space to feel the feels. You're disappointed and that's okay. Right? You can't ignore it. minimize it, you know, I think of cranes in the sky by salons where she's just like, I try to drink it away. And then and then and then and then obviously it didn't Lincoln and Shawn has a course I can't think of the words right now. But you can't run away from your feelings. You can't run away when things hurt you. You know what I mean? Like you think you can drink away sex at away credit card away, shop it away, but it's still gonna be there. So you might as well sit with it. And allow those feelings to pass because that's what feelings do. Eventually, they begin to pass but the more you try to resist it, the bigger of a problem it becomes. You know, there's that adage, you can't heal what you don't feel you have to sit with the disappointment. And just be honest with yourself. I think I talked about this a few episodes back. I've been very honest with God lately, right. And I used to think that was bad because I grew up in a church. And it was just like, You should be grateful for everything like you can't be mad at guy you can't be sad, but lately I've been like
I'm really disappointed. I really wanted that to work out. God I'm so sad. I really wanted that opportunity. God I'm frustrated because I've been working so hard for years and I still ain't got nothing to show for it. God it hurt my feelings when I got rejected that time. Right. And is is so liberating to be honest with yourself and what God like when I hear myself saying that. I'm just like, Oh, it's a sense of relief and relief to say that hurts. Because then once I acknowledge what hurts, then I can begin to move forward and pick up the pieces and decide whether or not I'm going to pivot or try again or give up completely, then I get a choice to change in my life, right? But the more I deny here, I It's like tying your hands behind your back, you can't take action, because you don't know how you know, you're not being honest about how you feel, right? If you're disappointed that the job didn't work out, but you're like, Nah, I'm cool. I'm cool. I'm just gonna lay low, I'm gonna just just ignore this. And I'm gonna just go back to my regular life at my regular crappy job that I hate. And I can't stand nobody don't nobody like me. They don't never give me no opportunities. Right? You can go back to that, because you're ignoring the fact that you're disappointed. Because you really want an opportunity to advance in your career, you really want to make new money, you really want to try a new industry, right? But if you ignore it, and don't come to terms with that reality, then you can't take action to try again. Right? So let's say again, you're disappointed. But you'll be honest with yourself, God, I really wanted that job. Why? Well, because it'll give me it's a closer step to financial freedom. Why else? Well, because it'll advance my career will, why else will because you know, it'll help me to work less because I have a better position. And once you come to terms with that, you have an aha moment, then you're like, you know what, I feel disappointed. But I can't go back to where I was. Let me move forward and try again, you have to allow yourself the space to feel your feelings, and then be okay with the fact that, hey, I feel like this right now. It sucks. I'm hurting. I'm stewing in this. But eventually, you have to trust that it'll all fade away eventually, right? The things I was disappointed about. Last year, six months ago, I don't even remember, you know, saying I just laughed like, oh, yeah, that launch failed. Anyway, I tried it again, I'm you know, modifiers and stuff. And here we are. Everything's all right. You know, I'm saying, so let the feelings come in, brace them, then then release them, give them back and give them back to God. This I feel it hurts. And when it comes back up and bubbles up, feel the feels, give yourself space, cry by the journal about it, meditate on it, release it and keep it keep moving for it. Right. But you got to fill those fields. Number two, how else can you handle disappointments? Well, first things first, you have to check some of your expectations. And this one is a little bit hard. Because I know some people are of the belief that like, well, if I don't expect anything, I can never be disappointed, right? I don't want to go that far left. Because then you know, that's basically giving up hope, and giving up faith, we ain't trying to go that far off the deep end. But you do have to kind of check how you're expecting other people to show up or how you want things to work out. What do I mean by that? So here's a couple examples, right? Let's say you just started your own business or you've been selling your art or you got a side hustle going and you have this expectation. My family should always buy my products and support my business because we our family, my friends should ought whenever I do a drop whenever I release a new product, they should always buy it. Right? That is your expectation and that's fine. But the truth of the matter is, is that your friends and family are not always your target audience or your ideal customer. You know what I mean? Like my family my family probably heard one episode of the Sunday jumpstart when it first began and that was it. And I ain't mad at them I be surprised when they were like oh yeah, just check that
out for you. And my my family I do have a family of gold gators and dreamers and doers but I'm still it's just like it's a bonus if they listen but I don't expect that to them because I didn't make this with my sister in law it is my my own learning they're not my ideal person you know I'm saying they love it cool but I specifically made the show for people like you and me that are go getters ambitious we try to get and then a no naka my family but still let's say you you know sale lingerie, okay and your mama shame PATA chair well my main trying to be an old lacy phone you know when nipple clamps and right mama trying to be in them controls that don't mean she don't support you. I love you. I think you're doing a great job in your business. Right? So sometimes we have to check our expectations are you expect them to like are your expectations not realistic and using that were realistic is hard? Because faith I think is based in the unrealistic right. But when it comes to banking on other people's behaviors and had a think and all that, I think that's when you have to shift some things right and that's how you avoid it. disappointment now I'm gonna tell you the story. Sometimes my mom does listen so mama if you listen to this is no shade to you. So ya know, I'm pregnant. Just found out in December so I am three months alone. And so I told my sister the day I found out like Girl, I'm pregnant we just you know, did our dance so excited and all that time my best friend's Akiva growl impregnate, you know, audit. So when we got on a FaceTime my sister was just by my mom. And I was Aaron was like, You should tell her now. I told her, and my mom burst out to tear in tears and she was just so excited. And that was it. That was the one literally December 3 or fourth. And so time has passed on. And so let's say I send my best friend tequila picture of the bump or the sonogram. It's a cute was like, oh my god, girl. I'm so excited. Look at my baby. Oh my goodness, I can't wait to go shopping with you. She'll send me like, pictures of baby shower ideas, baby names, how to make announcements, all of that jazz. Let's say, you know, Gabby calls me and checks in on me and I'm like, girl, you know, it's just so magical. Child one time Gabby called me crying just like just upset. Your mom like it was just so beautiful, right? But as soon as I pitch it to my mom, and she's like, okay, that's cute. And they're just like, yeah, so anyway, the scabs bless she will change the subject right? But in in meanwhile, I have my best friend let's crank Gabby crab. You know tequila is going off trying to figure out the baby shower. Aaron's helping me plan the registry. Everybody else is super excited. Now, my mother historically has never been super emotive. That's me all that hyper giddy. Oh my god. Like if you were to tell me some good news right now. I'm like, oh my god, I might cry with you. I'm gonna try to figure out the best gift to give you. My mother is not like that. So that first day I told her and she broke down in tears. That was the most emotional I've seen that lady in years like my mama just do not get down like that. Right? And I know that that is a fact about my mother. Right? But what wound up happening because I had so many people around me even y'all, y'all. First of all, it was people crying in my DMs like, Oh my God, I've been listening to the podcast for a long time. And I know your story and your struggle. Like I'm so happy for you. You know, I'm saying so, you know, when I send my mom little pictures or little videos, or you know, she's just like, oh, cool, girl, Mama. Like, you ain't the person. You ain't the last to be pregnant, basically. But she's still excited. But she has her own version of how she interprets things and how she shows love and support. It's just different, right? But I almost got caught up in this cycle. I'm like, with tequila jumper for joy, hearing jumper for joy and Gabby jumping for joy. And Kate treating me to lunch. What Why Mama, my daughter. You know, like a mom is supposed this supposed to be the best time of our life when
our firstborn daughter is having a baby. You know, I'm saying like she should be oh my god, this is my mom's second time being a grandmother and my niece was just born only seven months ago. So I'm like shipping doubly excited like that. So grandbabies like when you be on tour, I will be on Team and so I started to feel a little disappointed like Damn my mama don't never you know you have to be careful with never and always write those words you don't never You never said you love me or you always showing that you know we have to be very careful with that I was starting to go down there like my mama never supports me the way I think she does my mom and never and you know we have these archetypes archetypes are these caricatures almost of people in our lives and what I mean by that, like we all grew up watching and Claire Huxtable we always grew up watching them all from step by step or family matters here yep. So you have this image of how a mother is supposed to act. She's supposed to be overjoyed she's supposed to be always super supportive and you know gift giving and all of that. But the truth of the matter is, is that my mom shows love in a completely different way. And I was about to text tequila like day you know you're so happy and my mama doll I feel a certain type of way I stopped I literally stopped I was like, but is that home? My mama? Is she 100% Getting a hyper No, my mama show all that she could on that first day. And that doesn't negate that she still isn't happy for me like she'll ask me questions. How's it going house and you and my baby she calls the baby my baby. You know, like that's, that's showing me that she's supporting me? Yes, she ain't doing cartwheels and torquing and nothing but my mom is showing me I'm here for you. It's just not in the way that I expect it to be based on some TV shows I saw when I was a kid. And so, you know, I was about to gripe and vent and that was just like, that's not my mama's now and I'm okay with that. You know, I'm saying and I could have went left and fit that narrative that I have about me and my mom's really lationship like, Oh, she doesn't show me love the way out one it you know, I'm saying, but instead I chose to accept my mother for who she is and how she chooses to show up, then I got nothing to do with me. And then I had to go back and also be like, well, how does my mom historically show that she supports me, she'll send me a card, she'll, you know, randomly send me a text or article. And sure enough, that's literally what happened a week after I was like, in my feelings, feeling all disappointed. I get you know, an alert in the mail that's just like, you have a package coming from, you know, where they live in Michigan miles. From Michigan, sure enough, my mom has sent me this really, really cute book. It's actually sitting right here on my desk. It is called
expected blessings, prayers, poems and devotions for you and your baby to be as by Susanna FOSS Hockman, I'll find it online and leave in the show notes. But in that moment, I was like, See, I almost bought the lie that my mom doesn't care. And she, you know, I'm disappointed in her. And my mama just shows it in a different way. Right? My mom does support me, she is excited. I just had to manage my expectations. And that's what we have to do when we are chronically disappointed, right? You know, are you always like, Well, my partner should read my mind and always know how I feel. Is that the truth? No, the truth of the matter is, your partner isn't a mind reader. And you have to openly communicate, right? What are some other expectations that we have? That just ain't really always true? You know what? We say we love each other and everything is fine and dandy. She should always answer every single car, or by bed. She got alive. She called me calling you 24/7. That's the truth. Like, that's cool that that's your expectation. But is that based in reality? I don't think so. I work hard. Of course, my job should give me a raise. I mean, they should, right? But have you gone to your boss to say, hey, I'm interested in a promotion, I want more responsibility. I want to make more money. Do you let your work be known? You know, like, we have an issue with showing off our work because we don't want to be show offs and all of that jazz. When you know you're doing presentations at work, and it's a team are you taking, you know, accountability face of hey, that section was me. They bad notice me? Right? So you have to manage your expectations? Are you expecting too much out of people, places and things that don't really make sense? can you lose 45 pounds in 30 days? Sure. I'm not I've never tried it. But is it more healthier and more sustainable? You know, within 30 days, I'm gonna try to lose 10 pounds. Right? Not saying that you can't do it. But if we just get just a little bit more grounded in reality, right. I talked about it candidly, I had a launch last year. And I was like, Well, I'm about to make 50,000. Well, Grant, you ain't made 12 yet. Like, let's go back to the drawing board. Yes, miracles happen. And you can expect great things. You have to have faith the size of a mustard seed and all of that. But you know, you got it. Sometimes it's baby steps to this stuff, right? So check your expectations in the same breath. Right? Check your expectations so that you're not chronically disappointed do that. But in the same breath, I don't want you to go too far. Let them be like, I ain't expected nothing. So I will never get disappointed. Don't go that far. Because when you don't expect anything, that's that's a life. That's just
you just come in from a place of hopelessness. You're always expecting the worst, right? And sometimes I believe that if you are expecting the worst, always, sometimes you're inviting that stuff in, right? I've never found an honest guy. I'll never be in love. I'll never get a good job. I'll never find a healthy friendship. I'll never never know. Okay, well, maybe you won't, because that's what you keep saying, right? So don't go far too far left, right. Number three, you have to accept that life sometimes just be life in and things aren't necessarily personal towards you, you didn't get a rejection from the job because they out to get you and everybody hates you. And sometimes they just, you know, when I used to work at my job, we were reject stuff just because we weren't ready. Like, you know what we say? We will launch that in February and we get all the submissions, actually, can we change it to June just email everybody back and say we're not interested right now, you know, I'm saying that I had nothing to do with you. But you all know, the behind the scenes. So that's why you have to kind of not take things so personally and just come to terms that like life is weird, and it's a lot of moving pieces going on and some things are just gonna work out immediately and some things take a little bit more time right this also goes with Adjusting your expectations, right? You are like, Man, I started my YouTube channel, I should get a million followers today that happens. But Mr. Chamberlain, you know, for some of these people, but you know, maybe the expectation is in two years, I can hope to get to 50,000. Right? Sometimes you have to check those expectations around time, but also just understand that life just be doing this thing, and is not trying to attack you and bring you down. Sometimes you just go through seasons were just going through. But after that comes the sun, and the better days and the sun rays and all of that, but Winter is coming Fall is, you know, like it's cyclical. And the more you can accept that, the less triggering and traumatic it'll be when you are disappointed, right? Because you're just like, this is a part of the circle of life, right? It is a part of the ecosystem of how nature works, right? Some things die like the leafs, then you know, winter is barren, and we come back out. And as flowers like I'm always thinking about the seasons, because you can see right? In that's a great example of how to just kind of embrace the fact that life is the life and just because you're in a winter doesn't mean you have to shut down completely. Like woe is me, right? Even in winter, there can be miracles and blessings. You just have to keep moving for it right. And then finally, when you are just disappointed and out of it, and just like why Laura was going on. I want you to start saying after you've gotten the rejection letter after, you know, the seventh interview after the day didn't work out after, you know, they didn't have a car, your dreams on the lot. Start saying, well, it's this or something better. As you're applying for grants, applying for jobs, pitching yourself. All of that starts saying Lord, please let me get this job. Or something better, right? That has been such a monumental shift in my mind, right? Lord, is this or something better? And that way? I know Dang, I rejected Oh, that's awesome. Because that means that something better is on the way. Oh, you say not to my pitch. Oh, girl. Well, we got worked together because something better is on the way I claim it is this or something better? Dang, I really want this job. I really want this job. Elora please let it be this or something better? Right? And when it doesn't work out, you have the hope. Okay, there's some the better God I really want to book this audition, but it's this or something better. I really want five clients this week. But is this something better? You're opening yourself to the possibilities of more of bed turn, right? Oh, man, I really want this car. But is this or something better? I really want that dog guides. But is this something better? And it really does begin to take the pressure off. It makes things fun. You know, I'm saying you're like, hey, you know, I'm gonna submit my resume. But is this something that I'm applying for a grant but is this something better? I'm gonna go to the job interview. But is this or something better? How exciting it is? Right? It goes along the lines of what we were talking about last week. It gets to be easy. It gets to be this or something better, right? You have the power to request that declare that in your life is this or something better and I got that from Amanda Francis. Y'all check out her YouTubes she's a fun girl. She calls it the money queen and manifestation queen. It's this or something better. So that when you get shut down town around you got to pivot is such a fiddles villains, you check your expectations, but then you realize it's this or something better. And then if you really fill in froggy if you really want to be out there and really want to be bold with it, which you can do. And I started this a couple years ago, when I was really heavily into pitching myself for brand partnerships. And I got this from being boss. It was a podcast I was obsessed with.
It's a challenge to try to get 100 nose right. I will link the episode that I did on that in the show notes. Be sure to go to the Sunday jumpstart.com and click on episode number 136. It'll be there. But the whole premise is you make you a little spreadsheet. And you write down every time you pitch yourself for submitted your resume. And you record whether they said yes or no. And the goal is to get to 100 nose and it might sound counterintuitive, right? Like why would I want to get 100 nose and the idea is that if you got 100 nose that means you went up to the bat 100 times and try to take control of your life and say I want this is something better. You tried to take control yourself and say I want my finances together. I want to buy a house I want to help the relationship I want to repair relationships. I want to go to bed whatever the case may be trying to get 100 knolls and it becomes now a number game. Eventually somebody's got to say yes right? They might not say yes at request number 15 but at request 30 is where you get your yes right man. Hey, you ain't got to look for normal nose you know I'm saying they might not say yes at 50 but at number 65 Bam, you Gotcha. Yes. It's an incentive to keep going and to get comfortable with rejection. I am okay. Getting rejected. Yes, it sucks. I don't like being disappointed. I be sad and all of that, but by my career and acting where you will hear and no left or right. I'm not really ashamed to get a no I'm not really afraid of it because it's just like alright girl, well, is this something better? I get some move on. God has something better in store for me where I don't need this. You know, I'm saying I'm happy for it. And if it works out great, but better I'm moving on. It keeps you moving on a forward trajectory. So be sure to check out that episode and try to get your 100 nose. You also that is it for today's episode of the SJ s podcast. Thank you so much for tuning in and spending your Sunday with me. Now. If you like today's episode, and you want a little bit more, I'm inviting you to join me over one low warning jumpstart podcast that is my daily Monday through Friday podcast where we host the show and do the same thing we're doing over here live every single Monday through Friday morning we're doing the same thing helping go getters just excuses do the work and make it happen. But the episodes are a little bit shorter. They're anywhere between 10 to 20 minutes long, and it's just a head of inspiration to help you start your day off right. If you are interested in listening, watching participating in the morning jumpstart, just go to the Sunday jumpstart.com and click on Patreon. The cool thing about the show the morning Jumpstart is that is not just the podcast right, there are opportunities to join our co working session. Join our private discord channel, you can have an accountability partner to keep you on your P's and Q's. There are virtual vert workshops. And there's also some coaching that goes on over there too. So if that interests you be sure to check it out. It is exclusive on Patreon only, and it's video and it's live and it's an opportunity for us to build community together as we make this happen in our lives. So you guys that is it for today's episode. As always, if you want to hang out with me outside of just the podcast, be sure to follow along over on Instagram. The handle is at the Sunday jumpstart calm if you have any questions, comments, concerns, feedback, be sure to shoot me an email at Hi at the Sunday jumpstart you guys I will be back here this Wednesday with a quick tip. And then Sunday with a full life episode. As always. I love you dearly. I'm praying for you. And I hope you have an incredible week. All right bye
