Alright, so today is January 23. And as I'm looking at my calendar, we have about nine more days until we start slamming right on into February 2022. This month, I don't know how y'all feel about it. It flew by it seems like just yesterday I was unwrapping Christmas gifts and here we are almost into the second month of February. Now the end of January can be triggering for a lot of people because it is at the end of January when you start to reflect and realize dang everything didn't work out the way I expected it to right. So let's say at the end of December or the top of January you were like you know what 2022 was my year Maybe I'm getting my finances together, you know what I'm giving myself all of January to get a new job, you know, I want to start my business or start my creative endeavor, maybe you were like, I want to get healthy and focus on my health and get back into the gym, right? So I'm going to work out every single day come hell or high water, right? And you actually started to do the work. You've been, you know, submitting your resume, resumes, going on interviews, you've been eating healthier, going to the gym, you know, you've been saving money you didn't know, span, January. In fact, you even picked up a side hustle, like, look, I'm gonna do Instacart a couple times a week to create some more money. But then when you go back and look at the scale, you might notice like, Dang, this, the scaling stay on what it was supposed to have said, it doesn't look like what I expected, right? I figure if I dedicate every single day, just 30 minutes to an hour to doing cardio and eating healthier, drinking more water, eliminating coffee and sugar. I thought I would be 40 pounds down. And you're looking at the scale and it's only 15 Right? And what starts to happen. Disappointment starts to creep in. You've been sending off that resume submitted left and right and you finally got an interview with that dream company for that dream position. And you know that if you were to get that job, it would change the trajectory of your career and your finances right so you book interview number one you like a woman? Yeah, I killed that I did the doggone thing they invite then they invite you to interview number two, you nail it. Interview number three. And first of all, it should be illegal to interview somebody $7 hands but here we are, you know, I'm saying you go through. You jumped through all the hoops, all the rhythm a row, right? And then on interview six, this is you know, between you and the VP or the CEO or whoever. And you feel confident and strong because you've been now in the I'm talking about kicking some A S S. And then you go home and sure enough, the recruiter calls you and they say hey, I'm so sorry. We went a different way. And you like but it wasn't supposed to happen like that. Because I was expecting to get the job of my dreams. I was expecting to land this job, especially if I made it through six doggone cycles of interviews, right? That used to happen to me all the time. When I was auditioning baby, I would make it through you know, the callbacks, the read throughs the VA and then my agent call Jessica, I'm sorry, you ain't get it. And it's like, that's not how this was supposed to work. I worked hard. I honor my commitments. I said no to things that were distracting me. I said yes to new opportunities. I got my discipline game up. Why isn't this working? I am disappointed right it can happen our relationships. You met boo boo Oh, you know Christmas Eve had a little party already already. Y'all had a good time had a good connection you like you know what? I think this the one he find he funny got a good job. We get along there's chemistry. Our friends know each other. He ain't got no kids. You know, he loved his mama. He go to church on Sundays. He played basketball. He's being genuine, like you're doing all the things. And then Jay wave 15 Come rain and coast the gel tail. Right? It wasn't supposed to happen like that. We all have these expectations about how things are supposed to play out in our lives when we launch new products, right? launch new services, right? build our E courses and classes. We like to work so hard, but there's work in bed, you know, where's the fanfare? I hit publish. Where are the listeners? I uploaded my video on YouTube where my viewers I posted a fire picture on Instagram. I didn't study the hashtags. I figured out the right time. And you know, edit it to the gods and I wore a cute outfit where my likes. Where was the money? Honey, I'm working hard at this job. Somebody should be banging down my door for a promotion, right? We expected and then for no reason other than life just be life in right? Things don't always go your way. And it is so natural to feel disappointed, right? We don't like the feeling because according to dictionary.com Disappointment is a sadness or displeasure caused by the non non fulfillment of one's hopes or expectations. And I want you to highlight and bookmark those words sadness or displeasure when in the history of time have humans ever signed up to feel sad? When have we ever come running down the runway? Oh, can you sign me up for some displeasure Oh my goodness. Hey, like you passing out paying Can I get one? Oh my goodness. Oh my god, you you given our free sadness and let me get some please. Never we don't like to feel sad. Our goal as humans is to be comforted to feel peace to be fulfilled to have our needs met sadness, any one of them, we sign up for happiness, we sign up for pleasure, we sign up for joy, but you want me to sit around and be sad? Oh, no, maybe I'm too bad. I'm nine disappointed, you know, maybe you had a birthday trip planned. And you had to cancel it because COVID, still COVID COVID. Right. Maybe you had finally saved up 10 stacks and save as admin a goal forever. He was like, You know what, once I get to 10, stacks on the top five and invested in triple my money, and then an emergency popped up, you had to spend it life be lifing and is no personal attack while you that's just the nature of life, right. And as corny as it is, you know, there are some days that are going to be sunny, 75 degrees, breezy. But there are also some seasons like we are now where it's winter, and it gets cold at three o'clock, and it's dark, and you're tabbing and then spring comes around. It is raining as bubbly. Didn't fall things die away. That's how life is designed, right? We're not always going to get every shot that we shoot, right? We're not always going to book the clients, we're not going to always have a successful launch, right? We're not always going to make fast friends. Every person you meet ain't going to be the one and it hurts. And it sucks, but it's the truth. Right? The good thing about being disappointed is that it doesn't last forever. But one mistake that we always make sometimes that we make is that we try to hide the disappointment right? Somebody be like, Hey, girl, what happened to that guy? Yeah, it was really cute. Our girl he was a nun. You know, I am moving ind me. I'm independent. I'm a strong black woman. I only know Bobby.