If we want to have more mettā, more kindness in our life, more friendliness, it is not just a matter of drumming it up, as if we can just call on it, evoke it automatically. Rather create the conditions where it is more likely to flow out of us, more likely to be here for us. It is an indirect way of cultivating loving kindness – not to do it directly, but to prepare the ground for it. Many things that are important to do in life, we prepare for, adjust ourselves accordingly. So we are ready for this situation that we are going to do.