So hello everyone, and welcome to this fourth talk on the joy of compassion. And today's aspect of compassion that can brings joy is aspiration. So we've had awareness, attunement, appreciation and today, aspiration, and this is often closely tied to compassion. And that compassion includes a wish it's for the welfare and happiness of others for people to, to not suffer, to have their suffering be lifted. And so, there is a wish, but to call that wish and aspiration has a different connotations. As wish it can be wishful thinking, there can be a wish without anything behind it or any depth, it could be a wish, because we're, we're upset, and we want things to be different, because we don't want to be upset. The aspiration comes from a deep place within and, and it's more holistic part of who we are. And it comes from some kind of depth within AI at least I associate aspiration was in profound, holistic, organic sense of, of goodness that we something we want, that's inspiring for us, and maybe for others. And so in the inspiration of it, there is a kind of pleasure, there's a joy, there's a delight. And because it's something that we really feel good about, we're delighted and we're happy with it. So to aspire to meet suffering of the world, aspire to feel it and sense it, not to be overwhelmed by it, but to be a, a, a witness, a supporting witness, not just a supporting witness, but even more so to be a contributor to the welfare and happiness, to make a difference in this world of suffering, to make a difference where the person we're with, who's suffering. And, and, and that aspiration can take many forms is contextual. In the rush to be compassionate to rush to compassionate action, we often miss what's mostly needed for people that sometimes if someone is starving, you might think rush to get them food, but maybe deeper, what they're starving for, is human contact, human respect, care, and to stop and to be with a person and offer friendship and understanding and companionship, before providing the food or together with party providing the food, then we're really offering what the person needs and something that's deeper for them. And in so being this deeper source from within ourselves as nurses yourselves at the same time. So that compassion is not all about taking care of the other. It's also in a certain kind of way, caring for ourselves. And the deeper our aspiration can come in nourishing for ourselves, the more we have to give others the more we can connect with them and have a kind of presence. That is its own food, its own benefits for others, where we offer appreciation, attunement, respect. And so to take the time to clarify what is our wish here? What's our intention? What is our aspiration, in offering others compassionate care. And is there an aspiration which inspires us simply they wish to give people food might be good, and might be a little bit inspiring. But it's kind of a, I think, a bit a little bit more closer to something like the surface of the situation. And to offer some deep human connection, where we feel safe, where we feel inspired by the connection that we can establish, then we are nourished, we are supported by that connection as much as the person we're caring for. And so it's a kind of mutuality, aspiration kind of, from his deep place, rings in mutuality, of benefit mutuality of, of love or care or respect of benefit. To every one, and so it's not so transactional, it's not so I'm doing it for you. But maybe more we're doing it, I'm doing it for all of us, for both of us, we're doing it together in a sense. And that's where the attunement, the deep attunement, appreciation can support the idea that we're not only doing compassion for others, we're doing it also at the same time simultaneously, we're doing something that's really nourishing for ourselves beneficial for ourselves. That's the potential of compassion, wholesome compassion, that we benefit from it as well. And one of those benefits is a kind of joy, the kind of sweetness a kind of delight, the kind of sense of well being, or a sense of deeper intimacy or connectivity, the sense of being at home, here in this feeling of compassion at home, and this feeling of being alive with someone else. So that what we're sharing is also by maybe by osmosis, a transmission, that, that there is a way of being in this world, that we're feel deeply at home, we feel like, Here I am, here, I belong here. Here, I'm at ease, here's my piece, here, I meet you with, with a kind of profound sense of, of belonging, of freedom of peace, here, and now, without any anxiety, or without any needing things to be needing it to be different. Of course, with compassion, we are trying to make things different, the suffering different. But there's something different that happens if we don't need to make a difference. But it right the desire to do so arises not from need, but from aspiration, not from requirements and requirements, what we have to do, but rather from our something, it's more closer to generosity, closer to the hearts wish, of course, we do this. And so aspiration is a very important part of compassion. And, and it's much more than just a desire, and giving some care, some attention to our aspiration to our intention, so that we get the most benefit out of it. So for example, if we simply want to