11:23AM Feb 4, 2021
Hi, everybody, welcome to mediumship matters, Episode Four with me Hannah Macintyre. Hi, I'm back again, I've still got more to say apparently, who knew it apparently never ends. But I'm so glad that you're all enjoying these. And you know, the feedback just makes me so happy. So today I'm going to talk about a variety of different things that I want to talk about. But also, I've got a another email that's come in from Katrina that I wanted to talk to you all a little bit about as well. So Katrina, is enjoying the podcast, which is great. But she's explained to me, I'm just going to read aloud some of her email to you. So you can hear what she said. It's mostly loss and grief that have brought me to this point. I know my loved one spirits live on, but is the physical ache of not being able to see them and hear them, hug them when I'm sad, tell them my news and all of that. And also, there is just that element of I wish I knew they could hear me when I talk to them. I know you're going to say they can. But it's frustrating when you hear nothing back. I wanted to ask you, if you could do a podcast on connecting with loved ones in spirit without us having to go through a medium, and how we can connect ourselves and converse with them and fill them around us, I would really be able to love to try that and see if it helps. Okay, Katrina, thank you also for help with the pronunciation of your name, because you know, I would have messed it up. And I hear you. That's the first thing I want to say I get it. You know, when my Nana moved into the spirit world a couple of summers ago, you know, somebody said to me, Well, you can't be upset, believing what you believe. And, of course, I still was because although I know that she's around me, and I do feel her presence on quite a regular basis. And she is no longer physically here. You're right, you can't hug her. You can't laugh with her when she makes a rude joke at the dinner table. You can't have those interactions, which are so important. And so yes, I completely understand and I would never be high powered never be so patronising as to say, you know, that grief or missing people is invalid, because you can't, because you know that they're still around, because you might know that, but it's not the same as that it's just not the same. So I get it. Now, one of the things that's really difficult is, I think that mediumship connecting to spirit, everything like that is actually a natural state for us. It's just that in our evolution, so far, we've been told that it's wrong, we've been told that it's bad, we have loads of self doubt and anxiety, and we're holding ourselves back. So as this conch as the human race is raising its consciousness over millennia. Hopefully, in time, it will become more of a natural state. But that doesn't help you today does that Katrina. So I can't tell you that there's going to be some magical mystery way that you feel your loved ones with you. And that's it, and you know, that they're there. Because there isn't, and even sometimes when I feel my Nana with me, I then go, is that no, no? Is that my imagination? Did I just smell her? Did I not smell her? You know, is she present is she not present because I think that's the way it is to be human. You know, before I started working professionally as a medium, when I was doing my training, I kept thinking that there was some sort of level you would reach that you would attain, where you would know you were in the presence of spirit. And when you knew you were in the presence of spirit, then you'd be good to work, you'd achieve something, maybe someone would give you a badge, a badge, it would be nice. And actually, I asked a teacher about that. And they just said to me with a spirit of very, very subtle, they're not going to make you feel their presence really, really strongly all the time. Because we couldn't go around like that. I mean, the way that I view the spirit world is that they're not away unless they want to be so you know, your loved ones in spirit are with you around you all the time. Apparently, one of them was on a motorbike. And you know, they were with you and around you all the time and they are in your life all the time. They stood beside you, they were around you, your guides are two, but actually if you could feel them that strongly, it would be off putting it would prevent you from having your human experience. And of course, that's what we're here to have isn't a human experience, not a spiritual experience a human one. So, it is difficult, absolutely.
But I do understand what you're saying, you know, you can't just speak to mediums all the time, because there does reach a point as well, where you know, your loved ones, I won't say stop coming, because of course, they'll come if you book a session with somebody, but if the need isn't as great, they're going to go to somebody where the need is greater. So for example, with me with my grandfather, you know, he came through to set me on this journey, but he hasn't been through since he comes through to help my students on occasion, but he doesn't come through, you know, I've watched hundreds of mediums demonstrate, and I never get a message. And I sit in development groups, and I never get a message. And I think that is, you know, because I don't need it. Because I know that they're around. I wish I could feel the more strongly I hear what you're saying with that. But I do, you know, I don't need it in the same way that somebody that is completely feeling completely alone and completely lost needs it. So they're not going to prioritise me in a demonstration setting. And so I always attend demonstrations, wanting to see other people get messages. Yes, sometimes I get a bit sulky sometimes I go, huh, no message from me again. And I can't deny it. But equally, I know, in my heart of hearts that I don't, I don't need it, it's not fulfilling a need for me. So that's that. I hope that makes a bit of sense. Now. One of the things I'll say to you is, I believe that everybody has the ability to connect to spirit to feel the presence of spirit. And I believe it's like working a muscle you've never worked before. So just a very similar actually to running, I took up running last February, I joined a little group in my village, and to do couch to five K, and I've carried on with it. But it's been really interesting to me, there's similarities between running and spiritual development. Because running, you have to practice you have to do it regularly. If you stop, it takes you back. And you have to start at a different point from where you left it. Running brings up loads of resistance, I don't think I can do this, I don't think it's right, I don't think I'll make it up that hill, I don't, I haven't been running that long. It's not possible. For me, my body's not built for running very much like the mediumship flip side, which is, I can't connect to spirit, I've never seen spirit, I'm not gifted, I'm sure I'd know by now that they were with me, if they were with me, I'll never be able to feel spirit and all of that dialogue. So it's about enduring. It's about continuing to keep going and keep trying and understanding that it's not a switch that you flick on that is then you know, it's then on and it's fine. But it's actually about building an energy and a connection with the spirit world on a regular basis. And there, there are many different ways you can do that. But the number one way, the absolute number one way is sitting with spirit. So sitting with spirit is literally sitting in a space and asking the spirit world to step forward and be with you. And it's not about getting messages. It's not about trying to feel them. It's just about sitting. And sometimes you will do that, possibly for months, like me months and months and months, I felt nothing. And you will think you're completely wasting your time. And you just have to keep doing it, keep trying it. And then eventually you'll feel something. And then you'll tell yourself, you made that up, and you'll disempower yourself some more. And so it continues. But ultimately, you know, we all hold ourselves back thinking we need to be better, brighter, shiny or more high vibrational to work with spirit, but we don't we have our own spirit inside of us. And the way I view it is, you know, the spirit world come in, and they're higher vibration, higher frequency than us, and they change their vibration and we re raise our vibration and together, we blend and in that togetherness, and that blending is where you start to feel the presence of spirit. But one of the things within that I will say is that you it's very, very hard to get messages and evidence from people you know. So you can never replace the medium for that. But you can work on expanding that
can connection so that you build that muscle so that it's strong and you get used to blending with spirit and you get used to feeling spirit and it becomes A more pronounced profound experience. But that could take you months that could take you years, it took me forever, I thought I was a dud. But I also think that that was an important part of my journey, that I now understand what it's like when people say to me, I can't do this, I can't do this. So there's lots of different ways you can connect to the spirit world, but actually, you know, the, the bones of it is sitting with the intention, sitting somewhere quietly, where you won't be disturbed with the intention of the Spirit well worth working with the spirit world of being with the spirit world, not making demands just being with them. And you know, sometimes you'll be able to do that for five minutes, if you're lucky. And sometimes you'll be able to sit in 45 minutes will have gone by, and you'll feel like you've been off somewhere, but you're not sure where and maybe you fell asleep, you're not sure anymore. And that's how it builds just doing that on a regular regular basis. And you know, it's like anything, the more dedicated you are with that practice without forcing it very much like running, if you try to run too fast, too far too quickly, You'll hurt yourself. You won't hurt yourself with your mediumship. But you'll tie yourself out. It's about doing gradual, small amounts, regular practice blending with the spirit world. And I hope that helps. I mean, in all honesty, it's just about feeling the love, isn't it, it's about feeling their presence and knowing that you're not on your own, and nothing beats that it's, you know, I always think good mediums, it's not so much about the evidence that they gave, it's about the love that they share, that, you know, being that conduit for your loved ones love to come through and be with you. That's to me is really good. mediumship obviously, you need evidence as well. But you know, it's the balance between the two, it's the showing you that they're still with you what they've seen how they believe in you and bringing that energy in. So I hope that helps Katrina. It, you know, it is a journey. And it's one way you probably fight yourself all the time of whether you can do it or not. And then whether it's happening quick enough for you or not. But there seems to be it's just one of the ways that it works. And just yeah, visualise that like stretching a mental muscle. And keep going, keep going, keep going, keep practising. And you might feel like a bit of a Wally sometimes, but it doesn't mean that they're not with you. Yeah, okay. So some things that I wanted to talk about. Today is just a bit a bit of it a little bit a bit about, you know, readings and what reading readings are and how I believe mediumship works. So when you decide to book a reading with a medium, there's lots of different readings, and they're all called readings, which makes it sometimes a little confusing. So I just want to give you sort of an overview of, you know, what you're getting and when you're getting it. So when somebody is working psychically, you see people called a psychic medium, what that means is they are reading energy, so they are reading your energy, or they are reading the energy of your loved one in the spirit world. But it doesn't mean that they're blending in the same way. They're not combining forces and a real Soul to Soul connection with that person in the spirit world. They are just feeling their energy, if that makes sense. So when you book a psychic reading, a psychic reading is about you know, what they can see in your energy confirmation. I mean, psychic readings are fascinating. I've had my aura photographed a few times, it's mind blowing stuff that's in your aura. You know, what colours are around you what energies are around you what you're seeing around, you know what that that medium is seeing in your energy, what's leaving what's coming in, opening you up to that potential. And then you have card readings. Now card readings are really interesting because they are they're a bit of a
bridge. See, when I read cards, I blend with my team of spirit guides to get messages for people. Some people read cards and work psychically they use the cards as a key to unlock what's in someone's energy. So there are two kinds of different ways because sometimes it's about what's going on with you, what you're feeling what your energy says the story or energy is telling. And sometimes it's about what your guides and helpers want to advise you what they are telling you is available to you. Now one of the things that I really want to address here is futures future, telling the future. I don't believe that mediums can tell the future and when I did a video about this on Facebook, and it To grab my god did I press some buttons, and I really didn't mean to. But I just think it's a really important thing to explain. So when you're working with a medium, you're working with somebody who's trying to see your energy to open you up to your potential of what's available to you. But they can't tell you exactly what's going to happen. And when, because there's too much free will and choice. So all humans have free will and choice, all of them. And we decide what we want to do. And when we want to do it, and the spirit world letters, they never, ever interfere with free will and choice never. So quite often, you will find people come for reading to me, and they know what they need to do. But they just need somebody else to tell them what they need to do. Because the spirit world, of course, are working with us all the time sending that energy and that information, so that you know, you know what you need to do. You're just kidding yourself, and hoping somebody else will tell you and motivate you. That's normally why people come for readings. But there's a dangerous, disempowerment that happens, especially with people's love lives, where people just want to be told that they're going to meet somebody. And when you work with spirit, and healing and reading cards, when you're working with spirit guides, the response to that is never, you're going to meet a tall, dark stranger in August, and he's the one and you know what, he's going to change everything for you. He's going to fix all the hardships you've been through, and he's going to make it all better. And I wish that I could give some people that because some people that is so what they desperately want. But my job here is to be the voice of truth. As I see it, the voice of truth is I hear it from spirit. And in 99.9% of those people, they need to work on themselves first, to be able to be open to receiving the right partner, the right love the right person for them. And this, you know, you'll probably hear me talk about this quite a lot on this podcast. But, you know, we do hold ourselves back terribly. in a room of disempowerment, where we were, it's like, we're asking the spirit well to bring us stuff, but we're not doing any of the work ourselves. And so when you come for a card reading with a good medium, that good medium will not say to you, this is going to happen here, this is going to happen here, this is going to happen here. Because 90% of the time, it will only happen if you get off your bum and make it happen. If you do the work, if you change your energy if you change your focus, if you believe that it's possible. So it's a really difficult thing, because there's a lot of people out there working. And you know, they're feeding into that disempowerment. Because, again, you know, you can get a lot of clients that way. But it's not the truth of how it works. When you work with spirit, spirit won't do it for you, they will guide you and open you up to your potential so that you do what you need to do. And so that's so you know, always an interesting path to tread. And just so you know, no spell will bring your ex back.
No spell, because free will. And choice is the overriding law of the universe. And if your ex doesn't want to come back, your ex doesn't want to come back. And I'm so sorry that your heart is broken. But casting a spell to force someone to come back is never going to be a good solution. So, you know, we're always dealing with with that kind of thing. And it, it's really difficult, because I understand that people are in need, but I also understand that they need to empower themselves to make the changes to change their life to change their energy, and that is so important. You know, a medium won't do it for you. And then you have a loved one in spirit connections, clairvoyant connections, where you're connecting to somebody energy in the spirit world, and you bring through evidence of that person stories, memories, feelings, emotions character of that person. Now, these are a headset, such a funny thing happened to me at Christmas this year, because I had my first December of doing mediumship readings, and I had loads of people book, and I was really excited about it, but then it had a real impact on me because even though you're bringing through these loved ones in spirit to people, it doesn't change the fact that they're not present anymore. So it's a real bittersweet, painful experience. I think having a reading if you're in real need, because it's comforting to know that your loved ones are with you. But it doesn't change the fact that they're not with you at the same time. And so it's one of those things you have to be really ready for, it's not something that you should force. And that's why I don't really like people buying readings for somebody else, unless they've discussed it with them first. Because you might think that it's going to help them to get to the stage that they need to, in their healing to hear from that person. But actually, it does bring comfort, it does help you know that life is eternal, but it doesn't take away the fact that they're not here anymore. So you have to be really ready to receive a reading. And as I have plastered all over my websites, you know, we can't guarantee who we can get in, because the spirit world are very intelligent, very all knowing, and they know the right person to bring through to you at this time. And it may not be who you want to hear from. And I have done many readings now at the beginning when I was you know, first starting out, you know, I'm such a people pleaser, I want to give people what they want. But you know, you would get somebody I had a reading for somebody, once where I got through the school friend, and gave it was really good evidence, you know, she died at this age, she ended up in a wheelchair, she had read her, she listened to one. But the sitter wasn't interested because they didn't want to hear from her. They wanted to hear from somebody else. And, you know, it's a big learning being a medium and having to learn that actually, you have to trust the spirit world. And sometimes being that Voice of Truth for the spirit world means that you can't give people what they exactly want. So it's, it's really interesting, I think it's an absolutely fascinating subject, obviously, I'm lucky I get to do for my living what I would do in my spare time for fun, but it is a really it, you know, it is a little bit of you. mediumship is random ability. And every time you do it, you you know, you want to do a good job, you want to do a good job for the spirit world, and you want to do a good job for the person who's in need sat with you. So it's always a difficult path. And so, you know, the spirit world respond to need, absolutely, but maybe not in the way that you would expect.
And one of the things that I always find really interesting is whether you're conscious of it or not, whether you mean to or not, you know, you've probably got a list of things that you would expect your loved ones in spirit to say, if they came through a medium, and nine times out of 10, those things don't come through. And it's always very interesting. And it's because you know, we are only able to share in a mediumship reading that which we're able to understand comprehend work with, you know, as a medium, you are constantly trying to expand your own limitations, expand your knowing open up to new evidence. And so your loved ones know they've got a finite amount of time to come through and share things. And you know, they know what's what's going to be the easiest stuff to get through that mediums, mind. So I've got lists of things to my grandfather, milky bar, orange jelly, Frank Sinatra, Brown County had with checks on cups of tea with lots of sugar in. And I would expect any of those things to come up all whites lemonade, but they never do. I've had loads of great evidence that he's been there. But not the things that I would write down in a list. So it's always very fascinating. And one of the activities that I set for one of my groups the other day is quite an interesting thing to do, I made my children do and my husband did with me over Christmas, is if you ask your loved ones to write down a list of 10 things that they would say to a medium if they came through, and then write your own list about what you would expect them. You know what you would say? They're not they don't always line up. And it's quite interesting. And you know, in my daughter's case, it was fascinating because my husband and I had completely different lists, and she had a completely different list. So what she thinks identifies her is very different to what my husband thinks identifies her. It's very different to what I think identifies her, you know, and that's what the spirit world are dealing with here. Because everybody sees people different. Everybody remembers things differently. Got the motorbikes out tonight. Don't know if you can hear that on the podcast or not. So it's always really, really fascinating, fascinating the evidence they bring and the information they bring. And it's always interesting being somebody sitting in an audience because He didn't Well, I could take that. But I'd expect him to say this. And I could take that. But I'd expect him to say that. And sometimes there's that little bit where you don't want to raise your hand, you don't want to say that it's with you, in case you're wrong. So we're all learning how to work with spirit, I think all of us. And these are important conversations that we need to have. Because I know, before I started working with spirit, I thought that it was very much like a conversation that they could see and hear them like I can see and hear you. And it's not like that at all. And in fact, if you've watched surviving death on Netflix, you will know that the mediums on there refer to it as playing shrouds. And I think that's a great analogy for how it is. So I will go into a bit more detail about different types of readings, different types of energies, different frequencies over this course of this podcast. But I just wanted to give you a bit of an idea because I think sometimes people are really uncertain about what they want and what they need. So in a nutshell, if you're booking an Oracle card reading, that's because you want guidance and advice, you want to know what you need to do the decisions you need to make. You know, what, what potential there is for you what energy needs to shift and, you know, again, expect work, the spirit world won't do it for you, you don't come for a card reading and they go, that's okay. You don't need to do anything. It's all sorted. Of course, they explain to you what you need to do. Whereas a loved one in spirit connection, a clairvoyant connection is about feeling that presence of that loved one, reliving those memories, just having a moment in time when you're connected with them. And you can feel that love and excitement and joy of the spirit world. Very different energies for different things, but very, very important. You know, and I still go for card readings. Because you know, you get in your own way, don't you? You can't help the fact that you're human. So, yeah, well, I've talked for nearly 27 minutes. I feel like that's probably enough for you for one day. I've got so much I want to say. But I hope this makes sense. And of course, as always, please do drop me an email with any questions, anything, it doesn't make sense. I'm happy to re address things and try and say it a different way. It's podcast at Hana medium.co.uk. That's podcast at Hana medium.co.uk. And I will catch up with you all again soon. Thanks.