Now I did a whole episode on quitting and I'll be sure to link it in the show notes just go to the Sundayjumpstart.com and click on episode number 129 I'm going to link the episode about quitting because there are times when you need to quit and in that episode, I tell you like the telltale signs it's time to legit quit and quitting isn't always like a bad thing it is it even always like throwing in the literal top towel. Sometimes it's pivoting is redirecting and tried a different avenue right so quitting isn't always bad. I don't want you to think about that. What I talked about with this quitting is the quitting that like you did let your craft get seasoned a little bit or weathered right you didn't break it in right you know what you got like a pair of shoes. That's cute, and they love it and you spent a few a lot of money on it more than you normally would. You wouldn't just after to wear them him just through them out. You know what I mean? Like you'd be like dang I got to spend some time breaking these in, and if you truly love them, right? Some people are like, Chile I'm gonna sell them I'm giving them away. I'm not like that. It'd be like nobody's gonna work. I'm gonna work these out until I can't anymore. And sometimes we get like that when you see the potential. Like you're like, you know, today wasn't that bad, right? Today the cake turned out okay, I can see room for my for improvement, right? So that's more so what I'm talking about, like, you don't want to quit before you got into break yourself in before you've been the student for a little while, right? But anyway, so in this cycle, you get inspired, you get curious, you research, you're equipped with new knowledge, you got your equipment and resources, you're trying it out is hard, then you get stuck in the trenches, and then it just gets too hard. And you quit. You're just like, I can't get out of debt. I'm always going to be here. I can't ever become a baker because it's just too hard. Or I'll never get to go back to school because this exam is too hard. Or I'll never be able to, you know, really skill my side hustle because things are just too hard. Now, why do we give up when things get hard? There are a few reasons right? Number one, we give up because we're used to winning. And being the smartest, the brightest, the fastest. The quick learning-ness this person in the room, we're used to winning, right? You're facing something hard, you're not always guaranteed a win, right? When you've been at your job, three, five, 10 years, you know how to maneuver how to move and shake the politics you need to play who to ask who not to talk to who to block when to get on slack and all that jazz, right? But when you're like, you know what, this job, don't pay enough, this job got toxic. This job, I'm not growing, I want to get another job to grow to increase my earning potential to challenge myself, right? And you go after that job and you get it and you're sitting there. And it's a little hard because you don't know the politics. You ain't the smartest in the room. It's not an instant win! You're used to winning because you had the cards in your hand. You already knew what to expect, right? That's how it is for me. Like what the blog I know exactly how to blog. All I do is x, y and z with the podcast. I know how to do X, Y and Z with you know, when I decided to launch out into coaching, it was hard because I wasn't seasoned I was a novice. I didn't know what I was doing. You know I'm saying and that's why we give up because we are conditioned to always be the winner. And when things get hard. It is asking you Hey, why don't you be the loser for a little bit. Why don't you be the student for a little bit so that I can teach you how to eventually become the winner. But we don't like that eventually we want to win now and if I win and now that I'm about to throw in this doggone towel because I'm not no loser, but there are so many gifts that you get when you are the loser when you fail. Yes, it's uncomfortable. Yes, it's embarrassing. But after you get past all that ego stuff, you actually get to learn how to grow and to use that failure. Losing season hard time for your greater good, but when it gets hard because it's uncomfortable, tell me has there ever been a time in your life when you signed up for something uncomfortable just for it to be uncomfortable? Right? Never right? A lot of times when we put ourselves in uncomfortable situations, it's because we desire the outcome way more than the discomfort right? So what's uncomfortable getting your eyebrows arched? Getting certain parts of your body waxed having a child with us is uncomfortable but just basically anything that deals with beauty for women right but we go through it because we're like you know what, after this discomfort I get to become a mother after this discomfort. You know I'm feeling sexy and ready to go right but the thing with when you're launching or starting something new or revamping anything, you're not always necessarily guaranteed a weird right? entrepreneurship is hard. Acting is hard being a creative is hard because there is no guarantee those are careers where two plus two don't equal four right in my acting career you know, you can try as much as you like practice as much as you can, you know, go to classes, get mentors, get an agent go to auditions, five times a week. But that don't mean you go in when we're in much more traditional jobs. It is like go to school, get your degrees start off as an intern and work your way up as entry level then work your way up. Like some things are very much step by step you know you do this then you get that into that. But entrepreneurship stepping outside of that comfort zone, you know, doing something you never did before living abroad is not guaranteed success right? And so we're we think things get uncomfortable when you get hard. You're like, I don't know if it's worth it because I don't have a guarantee right? And and we give up because we're just like, I don't want to be uncomfortable and I don't blame nobody for that. Because when do you sign up to be uncomfortable? You don't our job as humans is to protect ourselves from any perceived danger and being uncomfortable. That's dangerous, you know, I mean, like, if it's cold in the house better, I'm not just gonna sit there and be cold for some moral bonus points. Nah I'm getting my house shoes. I'm putting on a sweater. I'm getting up under the covers. I'm putting on my space heater because I don't like to be uncomfortable, right? Number three, why do we give up when things get hard? It's in embarrasing to not instantly be good at something right when we try it right? Like when I was doing my swimming lessons in the winter, you know, I get in the pool, they swim teachers pretty much teach you how to swim that first day they really do I know and next week we'll learn how to have that know every like day when you're swimming, right? And so in my swimming lessons, I'd be like, okay, I should get the breaststroke down right now or the backstroke and butterfly. Why aren't I that good and its like girl My son teacher had told me one time he was like Jessica, it took me a year and a half to get down his breathing technique right? I was really struggling with how to breathe while you're swimming you know, to face now face out all of that stuff. I just couldn't get it. And I get frustrated because I want to be the best thought like, I'd be in my swimming lessons. Like you have to got to join the swim team because the swim team would practice next to us, or whatever. At this rec center. They have like a grown adult swim team. I'd be like yeah I could join the swim team in like a month. Girl what that meant was like, it took me a year and a half. He was an older gentleman. He was like it took me a year and a half to learn how to breathe properly. And that was just such a like, aha moment for me, right? But before he said that, I'd be embarrassed like I want to leave because it was like, Hey, I'm naturally good at most things. Why isn't this working for me? Right? And so we give up because we don't like being you know, the person with only 10 likes the person with only 50 followers. The person with only 1000 downloads right? in his day and age when we get to see everybody's wins. Your little win always look little like you'd be like oh my goodness, I you know launch my online store. Pay $400 today isn't that awesome? chair you could be jumping for joy Papa champagne you get on Esteban somebody's like, Hey ladies in quarter one, I made $2.5 million. Like, girl. So y'all know $400 don't look nothing, you get him like nothing, you get embarrassed. So it's like, let me just throw in the towel now because I don't want to be embarrassed. Why else do we give up so easily? Um, because hard things trigger known insecurities, right? Like it triggers the insecurities that we've had all along, when you mess up, or you don't get things instantly or you don't become an A plus plus student on day one. It triggers that story that you've always told yourself. See, I told you, you were dumb. See, I told you nobody likes you See, I told you nobody will listen to you See, I told you your voice doesn't matter. See, there you go. It becomes proof. It triggers that part of you. That's like, I'm not good enough. Nobody's my friend. Nobody likes me only good things happen to her. You know, like, I'm not pretty enough. I'm not cool. I will give up too. If If every time I try something, every insecurity known to man goes off. We also quit because we can't control the outcome. Right? I mean, launch it, me me saying, hey, I want to be a full time in my business, hey, I want to go to hair school. that'll mean that after you get the trainer after you launch, that things will automatically work out for you. Right? We can't control that. And not to say that it won't work out for you. Maybe you don't work out in the timeframe that you wanted it to. Right, like, Okay, I need this to happen in a month. And it takes a year. You know, I'm saying we don't like that we can't control things, right? Why else do we quit? Well, because it doesn't fit the fantasy, right? Let's say things are working out for you. Right? But it's not working out how you thought, right? You're like, Oh my goodness, maybe if I finally get in a relationship, and fall in love, I won't be so lonely anymore. And then you get in a relationship with a pretty good partner and they're a good person. But every day you ain't Cinderella. Every day, you ain't get swept off your feet every day. You're not getting tennis bracelets, like Saweetie, whoever else on Instagram, right? It just is very mundane, regular relationship. We quit because we're not winning. It's uncomfortable. It's embarrassing. It triggers your insecurities. You can't control the outcome, and it doesn't fit your picture. Perfect fantasy. And I get it. This is a no judgement zone. So I have quit before for all of those reasons and that's why affirmations like I am capable and can do hard things are so important, right? It's important because that affirmation reminds you hard times are a part of the deal, right? It doesn't say I am capable. Because everything in my life is easy. And everything always works out. And I'll never have a hard time and I'm always the number one son of what what what what what?