In our relationships, right? That's another place where we think things have to be hard and I was, phew child, yall know my story. I was the chronic struggle lover. Okay. If my love wasn't struggly, I didn't think it was it was supposed to be good, right? Like it wasn't supposed to happen. I thought, I'm supposed to be arguing with somebody every day. I thought men cheat or you know, I It's okay. I don't want to be loved because I'm a strong independent one. I had all these stories. You know what I'm saying? And, and again, the more I lived and breathed and really got honest with myself about what I want, I realized it don't have to be hard. I don't have to argue with anybody every doggone day. People don't have to cheat me. I don't have to cheat on me rather, I don't have to suffer through abuse. I don't have to, you know, be berated and gaslit. I don't have to be trauma bonded with no, but I ain't got to do all of that. I don't, it gets to be easy. How about if I took all that complicated, struggling mess out of the equation. And I open myself to ease-- relationships gets to be fun. Relationships get to be easy. I get to get along with somebody I get to be in a relationship. We don't argue at all you know, I'm saying over no dumb stuff. I get them in relationship where monogamy is a value that we uphold. I get to be in a relationship that makes me laugh until I pee. What if I get to do that right? I have a client and a good friend Her name is Kate Doster. She is an incredible person I will leave her and her work in the shownotes she is an email marketing guru. So if you want to step your email marketing game go to thesundayjumpstart.com and click on the show notes baby so we can get you together with Kate. But Kate used to be obsessed and I think she still is now with a woman named Amanda Frances and Amanda is the self proclaimed money queen. She is this blonde white girl big boobs super cute girl from you know she lives in Beverly Hills and she got this huge mansion and she's got the cars and bops around with a Chanel and you know she'll say this herself so I'm not it's no shade to her Amanda knows how she looks and how she presents herself but she is super spiritual. The reason I love Amanda though is because she curses like a sailor like it's so jarring in the best way because she talks about God and manifesting and really owning your life but she might drop some F bombs at me cuz I cuss a little bit so am I okay Amanda girl, but Kate used to always talk about Amanda and Kate is a money making machine honey. She makes some good money in her business and she was saying I got unblocked thanks to Amanda and taken her courses and stuff. And she had been saying it to me for years like Amanda France, Amanda France, Amanda Francis, I never really checked in on her when Kate was really talking about her. But in November, when I was going to the gym hard, I would get on my bike, er, I'm one of them. People, I do not like to listen to music while I'm at the gym. I don't know what that is, I think because I know each song is like three to five minutes long. So as the song goes off, I'm like, it's only five minutes LORD!. So I listen to podcasts, sermons, you know, whatever. So one day, it just dawned on me, you know, I think that, you know, when people are like, You should read this book, like the alchemist, I finally read that. And people have been telling me to read that for years. I don't think you pick things up until you're ready until your spirit is ready to hear it. So, you know, Amanda, Amanda in November, for whatever reason, she just popped up in my head, I haven't even talked to Kate in a while. As I'm not going to go on YouTube, listen to some of her stuff. And she was doing this q&a With some of her clients, but she shared it on YouTube. And her client was like-- making money is so freaking hard. And my business. And Amanda was like-- You know what I hear you, I understand your reality. But she was like, the universe is always responding to whatever it is that you whatever rules you set up for yourself. So if you are constantly saying making money is hard, then that gets to be the truth, then it will be hard to make money, it will be hard to attract clients, it will be hard to get sales, it will be hard to open your store will be hard to get downloads will be hard to give views. But in the same token,