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Episode No. 135 But What If It Gets To Be Easy?

Jessica Lauren39min

Jessica Lauren

00:01

Hello and welcome to The Sunday jumpstart podcast! A weekly podcast helping goal getters, ditch the excuses, do the work and make ish happen. My name is Jessica Lauren, and you are listening to episode number 135.

Jessica Lauren

00:20

Hey, y'all. Hey! And welcome back to this week's episode of the #SJSpodcast. Happy Sunday baby. I hope all is well with you and yours. So what are we talking about today? Well, today we are talking about how everything in life and in business and in relationships does not have to be hard. Some of it gets to be easy. Now I know that might be a controversial way of thinking about things. I'm going to explain it as we get deeper into this week's episode. What if all things get to be easy? The things that you're complicating? What if you can simplify it and invite more ease into your life? So that's what we're gonna be talking about in today's episode, but first, I want to remind you to go ahead and sign up for-- The Morning Jumpstart Podcast. If you like what we're doing over here on Sundays and Wednesdays-- then you're going to love The Morning Jumpstart because it is every single Monday through Friday morning, while you brushing your teeth, driving were getting kids ready, this podcast is going live. That's right, I'm streaming on video. Encouraging all my #GoalGetters is to do the work, ditch the excuses and make ish happen every single morning. We'll be covering the same topics like self sabotage, imposter syndrome, how to work smarter not harder. Everything that pops off over here. We're just gonna do it every single day because we all deserve a little bit of encouragement every single morning. So if that sounds like something you'd be interested in, you have to become a member over on Patreon, right? This is exclusive on Patreon. This show the Sunday jumpstart will still come on every Wednesday and Sunday. It'll be here on Apple, Spotify the whole nine. But baby if you want the morning nuggets, they're quick. They're about 10 to 15 minutes long, you have to sign up on Patreon. And to do that, just go to thesundayjumpstart.com and click on Patreon and that's where you can get access to every single live show. And if you can't make the lab because it's too early, it is all good. The archives are there for you to go ahead and replay at your own leisure. But the cool thing about the Patreon in the morning Jumpstart is that it just doesn't stop there. We are doing monthly workshops and weekly co working sessions. There's also some group coaching going on so one on one coaching I could shout you out in the episodes you can actually have in the podcast chair Babay only me okay, you can ask questions, and I can bring you on to the show. There's also a private discord community where we get text each other every day you're going to be matched up with an accountability partner. So if that sounds like something you jive with-- honey Isound old as hell-- something you vibe with-- rather that's what I meant to say. Then check it out, go to thesunday jumpstart.com and just click on Patreon. I would love to see you there!

Jessica Lauren

03:14

Alright, now that we got official business all buttoned up, let's hop right on into this week's episode episode number 135 "But what if it gets to be easy?"

Jessica Lauren

03:36

Okay, so a couple of weeks ago, I was sitting down at my desk in my office working out some of the kinks of The Morning Jumpstart. The Morning Jumpstart is my Monday through Friday, early morning podcast where I live stream episodes and you guys come and we chit chat every single morning is just the opportunity to get some inspiration and encouragement before we start work right. And so everything was new to me back then right figuring out Patreon what tiers I wanted to offer. Figuring out the whole video stream. it's a lot of work that goes on in the backend trying to get royalty free music and you know just just trying to figure all the things out. Discord like child.... I know Discord is huge for video games, but still, I'm gonna to incorporate a way that we can all talk and text throughout the day. And Discord is a little wonky, but we figured it out. It's all good, right? So I was just doing the work sitting at my desk, and everything was flowing freely. I was getting ideas for new episodes and you know, just really building out my thing. But you know what happens when you're in flow? It feels good it's fun, but then maybe you might start to feel a little bit guilty. Because it's easy, right? You're like dang, all of this is coming together. I didn't have any hiccups. The tech is working. You know I got a few people that signed up and You know, I shared it with a couple friends and they said they really liked it and understood it. I did a few test runs, everything's feels good. You know, when things are kind of working out, and you're happy about it, but you're uncomfortable with it, because it wasn't necessarily hard.

Jessica Lauren

05:18

You know, we're always waiting for the other shoe to drop, or we always feel like we have to EARN something, right? If something isn't hard, then we must have done something wrong. So I was starting to get into that mode. Like, you know what, let me distract myself and just go on Twitter for a couple minutes, right? I just need to stop because I'm starting to feel a little ichy. Because I feel okay, outside of my comfort zone. Right. I thought I'd be scared and confused. But I'm actually owning this. I feel like this is the right move. And sometimes that can feel uncomfortable. So I was like, You know what, let me distract myself. I'm about to get on Twitter. Go mind everybody else doggone business, right? So I get on Twitter, I'm scrolling, scrolling and laughing at the Tiktoks. And laughing at Black Twitter and sharing black tech Twitter with my sister. She's changing careers, you know, like, I'm just doing my thing. And then somebody tweets. "Oh, my God, notion is the best time management tool I've ever used in my life. It is a godsend. It's helped me with my content creation. This is the best I've ever felt in my life!"

Jessica Lauren

06:28

If you're not familiar with notion is just a really dope brainstorming tool. I'll be sure to link it in the show notes. Just go to thesunday jumpstart.com and click on episode number 135. Notion is dope. But here's the thing about knows. And I've used it before I've used it at work and for whatever reason, it just didn't sink his teeth into me right when I was using it for work. I for the past year have been really working well with Trello. Like I got my workflows over there. It keeps me the most organized and focus that I've been in a long time. That project management tool brainstorming tool has been working for me in my personal life and my business, right it's been helping me with my clients and helping me come up with the podcast and pitch it and all that jazz. Trello has been working! But because somebody was like-- "oh my god notion is the way the truth and the life"-- I was like, Oh my God, let me let me check on this. Now, mind you; I was already in the flow, I was already knocking ish out the park with my Patreon launch with the morning jumpstart launch, something I had been so excited about. For a solid year and a half. You know, God gave me the idea for the morning jumpstart, a year ago. And it took me a year to get over self doubt and to have enough energy to do it because I was working full time at the time. Like God created the space where it was like, okay, January 2022. So we gonna launch this thing, right? And I was doing a good job. But then I got distracted by this whole Notion thing because I am a productivity junkie. If anybody is like, I found this new app, this new tool, this new website that helped change the game helped me be more efficient helped me work smarter, not harder, baby. I'm like a moth to that doggone flame, sign me up. So notion is a whole new platform, right? So of course, when I sign up for notion, rather, I have to get on YouTube to try to figure out how to make it work for me. So of course, I go on YouTube, and I look up you know how to make a master task list in notion. And, you know, I'm thinking like, oh, there's gonna be a quick little three, five minutes, you know, I can figure things out. I'm a little techie, I got this. But BayBay-- notion doesn't have to be complicated, but the more complex you make it, the sexier it becomes. And so I have found this lady on YouTube who is like a notion master like she charges people for $3,000 to set up their notion and companies swear by her she does tutorials. Girl, I'm watching this lady, five minutes,ten, twenty, 25 minutes done passed. 30 An hour and a half to three girls, three hours on pass. And I'm just sitting here working on notion. Mind you I had already had something to do for the day. And it's something that I had to do was an opportunity the morning Jumpstart is an opportunity for me to make a bigger impact on my audience. It is a way for me to deepen the relationship I have with my audience. It is a way for me to continue to solidify myself and my voice as an expert in my field. It is another opportunity to create another stream of income right? Those are all things that will propel me further in my dream chase in my goals, it feels very aligned with my purpose. And instead of focusing on one that what am I doing I'm playing over here in notion trying to learn a whole new platform right? That ain't got nothing to do with nothing. Meanwhile I had a system that works! Trello works for me it is simple to the point I know like the back of my hand. Already got reminders set up, workflows automation is going on. But I wanted something a little bit better because someone else said that is saved and revolutionize their lives. And baby I want to get saved too. So I'm distracted. I'm led astray. And in the back of my hand on like, Jessica, what are you doing? This was supposed to be a quick little three to five minute distraction. You were supposed to get back to work. But here we are three hours later trying to build something that you've already built in a more simpler way over here, what are you doing?

Jessica Lauren

10:34

And it dawned on me, the reason I got caught up in that notion rapture, is because I wanted something a little bit more complicated. I want it there to be some difficulty some complex system that I use, that helps me to be the mastermind businesswoman that I am. But it wasn't necessary. In fact--it took away from me it was a disservice. Because what I had was already working, but I wanted it to be a little bit complicated. Why? Well, because I don't know about you. But I reward myself when I make it out of something that's been hard. When I come out of a season of darkness when when something is complicated that I made it out if I got it out the mud or if I struggled a little bit, I feel more like entrepreneur I feel more like a better girlfriend. I'm more like a good Christian if I had a battle or a story to tell. You know, we love a good underdog story. And so sometimes we go out of our way to make things complicated because then we feel like we get that imaginary badge of "hard" honor. Look at her. She did it with $0 in the in her account. Look at her, she became a superstar and she drove her car that was on a quarter tank of gas from Chicago to LA and once it auditioned and now she's a multimillionaire. We love a struggle story. Look at them. Oh my goodness, they so happy as they one year anniversary. You know, I'm so proud of them. They made it out of 15 years he was popping her upside her head. She was cheating. They got three babies outside each other but look at them now. We love a rags to riches story. We love a before and after. But recently, I've just been in this space. And I think it's because I'm pregnant where I want to be working from a space of ease. Everything ain't got to be hard. Everything ain't got to be earned.

Jessica Lauren

12:44

I am realizing that I am deserving of good things I am deserving of love and I am deserving of new opportunities just because I am. That is my natural birthright and I don't have to work for it. exhaust myself for it. I don't have to burn out I don't have to sacrifice every blood sweat and tears. Not a lot of time. Now here's what I'm trying to say. Life is gonna be hard there are gonna be some challenges life be thrown curveballs I ain't saying life gotta be easy, breezy, beautiful, CoverGirl, until the end of days. No that's not what I'm saying. What I am saying is that if you've been in the habit of inviting hard in or wearing difficultly difficulty, like it's a Gucci bag that you pay top dollar for that go with every outfit, you know, that's the we pay a pretty penny for we like I'm wearing the hell outta this, right?

Jessica Lauren

13:40

If you've been over complicating things because it makes you feel like a better mom a better Christian, a better worker. I'm here to challenge you to reframe that and try to see it from a different perspective. What if it gets to be easy? If you've had the belief, making money is hard. You know, I definitely have some money stories that swim in my mind rent free, right? Because I grew up with a single mom and I watched her struggle. My mama was 26 years old with three children newly divorced, right. And my father was the breadwinner. So when he left my mom had to scramble to find work and she hadn't worked since she was 20. So six years and being thrown back into the workforce with three kids and you know, no shame. I'm not trying to shame my father because you know, we are growing evolved, but he wasn't helping back then. It was just us. Right? So times were hard. Money was hard to come by. It was difficult. Money was not our friend money betrayed us. Okay, the lights was out. Roaches was running around, you know, bay bay. So I married the idea that making money is hard. I watched my mother, my mother worked, worked her day job. Then she turned around and worked at, you know, Detroit opera house at night. My mama had like two three jobs all the time. And then she was baking on the weekends making money from cookies, right. So in my mind, I was like, oh, in order for me to be like my mom, who I love and respect and admire, I have to work hard, and I have to fight to get money. And money is always you know, elusive. It's always running away from me, right? And that was true. In my life, that was a reality. But then it dawned on me, you know, as I go through, and I learned things, and I've, you know, been reading books like, goodness, "you are a badass at making money". It's a bunch of books that I'll list them in the show notes. "We should all be millionaires" by Rachael Rogers is another one. I list on my little money, books and manifestation books and all that stuff in the show notes. "Manifest now" by Idil Ahmed, has helped me to learn it. I just realized, but what if money doesn't have to be hard? What if it gets to flow to you easily and effortlessly? What if, you know anytime I spend money, it comes back to me tenfold? What if I just decided to believe that everything is working out for my greatest good because here's the gag.

Jessica Lauren

16:24

Fear and faith, wind up kind of being the same thing, right? Because in order to have faith or fear, you have to believe in something that hasn't happened yet, right? So if I'm spending all my time believing that money is hard, money is not real money, don't have my back, Couldn't I just be using that energy, that same energy, right that I'm toiling about. And believing with all of my heart cannot just reverse it and just be like, Nah, money is my friend. Money loves me. Money is all around me. God has given me gifts that I can utilize and talents that that can create opportunities for me, right? I'm using the same muscle, but I'm not one muscle is saying it's hard and one is saying it gets to be easy.

Jessica Lauren

17:10

In our relationships, right? That's another place where we think things have to be hard and I was, phew child, yall know my story. I was the chronic struggle lover. Okay. If my love wasn't struggly, I didn't think it was it was supposed to be good, right? Like it wasn't supposed to happen. I thought, I'm supposed to be arguing with somebody every day. I thought men cheat or you know, I It's okay. I don't want to be loved because I'm a strong independent one. I had all these stories. You know what I'm saying? And, and again, the more I lived and breathed and really got honest with myself about what I want, I realized it don't have to be hard. I don't have to argue with anybody every doggone day. People don't have to cheat me. I don't have to cheat on me rather, I don't have to suffer through abuse. I don't have to, you know, be berated and gaslit. I don't have to be trauma bonded with no, but I ain't got to do all of that. I don't, it gets to be easy. How about if I took all that complicated, struggling mess out of the equation. And I open myself to ease-- relationships gets to be fun. Relationships get to be easy. I get to get along with somebody I get to be in a relationship. We don't argue at all you know, I'm saying over no dumb stuff. I get them in relationship where monogamy is a value that we uphold. I get to be in a relationship that makes me laugh until I pee. What if I get to do that right? I have a client and a good friend Her name is Kate Doster. She is an incredible person I will leave her and her work in the shownotes she is an email marketing guru. So if you want to step your email marketing game go to thesundayjumpstart.com and click on the show notes baby so we can get you together with Kate. But Kate used to be obsessed and I think she still is now with a woman named Amanda Frances and Amanda is the self proclaimed money queen. She is this blonde white girl big boobs super cute girl from you know she lives in Beverly Hills and she got this huge mansion and she's got the cars and bops around with a Chanel and you know she'll say this herself so I'm not it's no shade to her Amanda knows how she looks and how she presents herself but she is super spiritual. The reason I love Amanda though is because she curses like a sailor like it's so jarring in the best way because she talks about God and manifesting and really owning your life but she might drop some F bombs at me cuz I cuss a little bit so am I okay Amanda girl, but Kate used to always talk about Amanda and Kate is a money making machine honey. She makes some good money in her business and she was saying I got unblocked thanks to Amanda and taken her courses and stuff. And she had been saying it to me for years like Amanda France, Amanda France, Amanda Francis, I never really checked in on her when Kate was really talking about her. But in November, when I was going to the gym hard, I would get on my bike, er, I'm one of them. People, I do not like to listen to music while I'm at the gym. I don't know what that is, I think because I know each song is like three to five minutes long. So as the song goes off, I'm like, it's only five minutes LORD!. So I listen to podcasts, sermons, you know, whatever. So one day, it just dawned on me, you know, I think that, you know, when people are like, You should read this book, like the alchemist, I finally read that. And people have been telling me to read that for years. I don't think you pick things up until you're ready until your spirit is ready to hear it. So, you know, Amanda, Amanda in November, for whatever reason, she just popped up in my head, I haven't even talked to Kate in a while. As I'm not going to go on YouTube, listen to some of her stuff. And she was doing this q&a With some of her clients, but she shared it on YouTube. And her client was like-- making money is so freaking hard. And my business. And Amanda was like-- You know what I hear you, I understand your reality. But she was like, the universe is always responding to whatever it is that you whatever rules you set up for yourself. So if you are constantly saying making money is hard, then that gets to be the truth, then it will be hard to make money, it will be hard to attract clients, it will be hard to get sales, it will be hard to open your store will be hard to get downloads will be hard to give views. But in the same token,

Jessica Lauren

21:40

things get to be easy. If you if you started saying and believing. Well, making money can be easy, too. It can be fun, it can be lucrative I can get excited about it. Oh, Money comes to me. You know, people love to pay me people get excited to pay me, it's easy to pay me I get paid the big bucks corporations are looking for looking at me now to fulfill a corporate contract. And it's so easy. Both of those statements get to be true. So which one are you going to decide? Right? Things can be hard. But things can also be easy in our lives. Our relationships can be hard, but they also can be easy. You know, I'm saying work can be hard. But work also can be easy. Being an entrepreneur can be hard is hard. There are some challenges. But what if it gets to be easy as well? And and and that just hit a light bulb off for me when I was on that bike!

Jessica Lauren

22:44

What if it gets to be easy? What if another shoe shoe doesn't have to drop? You know, that happens to us too. When we finally you know, after struggling for so long. We're finally like, you know what, I'm not doing that no more. Let me go get a new job and you get the new job. And it comes with a signing bonus. And your boss seems to be really, really nice. And your co workers all get along and they're inviting you and stuff and you guys going to work retreat and everything feels good. But in the back of your mind, you're like when is the jig gonna be up, I can fill it. The other shoe is gonna drop when they're gonna fire me or let's say you have some some success. Like, let's say you have a membership site that you've been, you know, working really hard on it. People are signing up and they're like, Oh, my goodness, your coaching is so good. Oh my gosh, I wouldn't be where I am without your membership site and you sit in the back room? Oh my god, what if they find out I'm a fraud? What if they find out I don't know what I'm talking about? What if it gets to be good? It gets to be easy. Another shoe doesn't have to drop. You don't get more cool points. For things being hard. You just don't? Will some things be hard? Yeah. Well, you have to stay up late sometimes? Absolutely. Well, you have to learn a new platform a new thing? Yes. Right. I'm not negating what is natural. But what I'm asking of all of us is to come at it from a space of openness and ease, right? When you have a tough project instead of saying, oh my god, I gotta write this 30 page paper. Oh my god. This is Oh my god, this study. Oh, Jesus, Lord have mercy. I'm gonna write this 30 page paper. You're just like, dang, I gotta write a 30 page paper. That's easy. I got 30 days to do it. That's a page a day, the end. Right? Same work, same amount of work. But in my mind, just just reframing a little bit, takes a little bit of that stress off that pressure. You get to breathe a little bit more when you discover Oh, that literally is a page a day. That's all I gotta do. Okay, I can do that.

Jessica Lauren

24:44

You know, I'm reminded of a story that was floating around on Twitter a couple years ago. It was this little girl talking to her auntie. She was like auntie you know what, I really want to be an astronaut. When I grow up and auntie was like-- Oh my God, that's good girl. You could do it. Put your back into it, you know, like, Oh, that's so good. But then it was like, Hold on, let me keep it real with her. And she said, you know, little neice. Being an astronaut is phenomenal. You can do it. I'm proud of you. But it's hard. You don't have to learn, like physics and math, math, you know that deep, deep math, you're gonna have to learn a lot, a lot of science that deep, deep science.

Jessica Lauren

25:22

and you're gonna have to be physically fit. And the little girl just looked at her and was like, Okay, that's cool. That's only three things. And it was like, Dang out of the mouth of babes. She just taught me a whole lesson. Now the auntie was right, you're gonna have to do a lot of stuff. It's a lot of work. It's a lot of blood, sweat and tears that goes into, you know, becoming an astronaut. But the little girl was right to she was like, that's like three things auntie? What are your three things in your life? Right? Again, I'm not negating that there won't be learning curves or curve balls, or just some types of seasons that are challenging baby. I just got out of one. But I started to get to the point where it's just like, it's just three things. I just got to fill out that application. I just got to apply to that grant. I just got to get more clients. I just got out. It's just easy, right? And things begin to shift once you start to adopt that belief, right? How can things get easier in your life? Because the truth of the matter is, is that you don't have to be burned out. You don't have to be exhausted all the time. You can be a successful entrepreneur, and have a full robust life. You can be a successful creative, that that is immersed in their art and still make good money. You can be a wonderful mom, but still have a flourishing relationship with yourself and your community and your girls and go out and go tribe. I got a friend Laurie bet she got two girls under the age of three. And that lady being in Jamaica, Bahamas kickin it with her husband, because she was like, I have a full life. I love my babies, and I'm a good mama. But Mama gotta live too Jody! I'm out in the streets, right? We don't have to be so black and white, there gets to be some grand near right? What if it gets to be easy? Where can we make an invite ease into our life into our friendships, right?

Jessica Lauren

27:27

I had a conversation with a friend recently. And she's one of my history, friends, history friends, to me are those friends that you've known for a very, very long time. And you guys might have been best friends when you were younger. But right now, you know, you're still friends. But it shifted a little bit like, maybe you bonded when you're 16. Or, you know, maybe you bind to you at 21 and going to the clubs all the time. And now, you know, five years, 10 years later, you're like, I don't go to clubs. I'm always still cool, but whatever. And my friend was kind of rehashing some stuff that we went through in the past and kind of picking out some wounds that you know, we have both forgiven each other for and move forward in. And, you know, she brought some stuff up and it which was fine. And we had you know, our heart to heart and I explained myself and she was like, Oh, that makes sense. And I'm sorry, I even thought that about you. You know, we just had one of those moments, but then in a conversation and what came over me but I was just like, You know what, girl, I love you. And I've always loved you and you are like a sister to me. But where I am in my big age of 37 I have a new relationship with my friendships, I just show up differently than who you you know, saw at 16,21 25 Even 30 I'm not that Jessica anymore, that you can run all over and talk to any old kind of way. You know, trauma dump on me all day. This is how I'm moving forward in my friendships. I say my friendships. My friendships require some reciprocity is a two way street. You're not gonna be the only one dumping and hanging up and even asked me how my day is. I said we're always talking about people and problems and struggles and gossiping. I don't want to be a part of that baby. My friendships are fun and light. If we're not talking about you know, growth in and I'm not saying it got to be heavy and deep and we are learning all the time. But we wasn't even to ask their baby. We don't even laugh No more gray matter come to me with some meaningful tiktoks or something. Let's be silly. I just can't I'm not available to all that strife and difficulty. I'm not going back and forth. I'm not rehashing what we done buried years ago when we were 16-- I'm not doing that. And if that doesn't work for you anymore, I'm not I'm not being an armchair therapist. I'm not depleting myself. I'm not being a fixer. You know, if you ask me for advice I'm giving you 100% Honestly, and if you don't like me, you won't get mad at me. You won't give me the silent treatment for five days. I'm not available for that sweetheart. This is what I want. Fun, light, reciprocal, honest, truthful, authentic relationships. And if we can't do that, I'm willing to let this friendship go. I love you with all my heart, but I don't want no doggone body. And she just got a laugh because she never heard me talk like that. But I was dead ass serious. I'm not doing that when not. My friendships don't have to be hard. My work does not have to be hard. My how I show up and work even with Instagram, sometimes overthinking it like okay, do I make a reel today to get on stories? Like what time to should I post? Post when I want and when I feel creative, let's go, the end. You know, I'm saying I just don't have space for it anymore. Right.

Jessica Lauren

30:47

I was going through my tweets the other day, and I found one that I had read purpose or whatever that I tweeted on August 21 2019. "I said I am no longer available to the struggle." And when I tell you that tweet went fake viral on my page viral for me is like 100 likes, okay? I mean, it people was feeling it. And I I mean, it's I'm not struggling no more. And not to say that I'm perfect. And God, you know, like life won't happen. But I'm saying I'm not. I'm not allowing myself to struggle no more. I'm not sitting up under no more abuse, confusion. If things feel weird, I'm not doing it. I'm not over complicating my workflows. I'm not doing you know, I was talking to you guys about this a little bit ago about how in 2021 I was really trying to do business, right. So I bought a bunch of courses. And as I was launching the Morning jumpstart, I was going over some email marketing things and you know, email marketing, this one class I was taking, they were like, you need to do a 10 step funnel, so that you can get sales and I was starting to work on those emails and you know, it's like, email them on day one announcing your thing, email them on day three, telling them you know, disproving an industry myth will email them one day for and I was just like I ain't doing all that. I'm just what feels right for me? I'm gonna go on there, write an email, say, Hey, I heard this thing I'm gonna talk about on the podcast. Hey, y'all here yall go. Keep talking about again, all in square. Hey, y'all here go this thing. The end. And that's not to say that funnels don't work. And it's not helpful in email marketing isn't tried, true and tested. But there are just some things that are just too hard. I knew that if I went down that route, that will add another obstacle another week to my launch and I just wasn't willing to sacrifice that right. It becomes a thing of self sabotage. Sometimes when we overcomplicate it, I want to leave you with this as you know, we're thinking about inviting ease. I used to be a huge madman fana, right? I don't know why I stopped in like season four, I need to finish it but but when I was in it, I was in it Don Draper toxic butt but one thing that always stood out to me is that he will always tell Peggy Olson you know-- "keep it simple, but significant."

Jessica Lauren

33:19

Simple doesn't mean less impact, less money, less influence less prominence. Right? You can keep it simple and it still have impact is still be fun, is still you know, Spark passion and you will still make you money still grows your community and your brand. It does not have to be complicated, right? So this week, as you're starting a new week, a new clean slate. I want you to figure out and just observe yourself. How am I making this more complicated? Right? I was talking to my girlfriend tequila she like girl gonna drop the boys off the football. I play my nails done. I gotta go grocery shopping. As I grow, where can you simplify that? We're I can't because I got to do boo boo. I said grow up. Yo, why are you at a football game, sit down and do Instacart and have people delivery or you go pick it up? Just that one thing. One simple thing can save you so much time and heartache and strife and pain, you know, like, you don't have to be constantly moving all the time to feel like you're doing something doing something big right? And I get it I truly do. Sometimes finances don't let you just Instacart or you know, whatever. We all have our circumstances. But where can you simplify things, right? Instead of saying, I'm going to write my life changing manuscript tonight? Can you simplify and say hey, I'm gonna give myself six months, right? How can you simplify things, which are workflows and systems? If you're like me, you're like, I'm looking for a Trello Asana notion. What's the most simplest thing? You know what was simple for me is writing it down and notebook every day do that. How can you make things simple chat? Is getting braised keeping it simple for you. It'd

Jessica Lauren

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be tired of doing your hair every dog. Morning, can you get braids and keep them in for eight weeks, and you got to be bothered? How can you make it simple? You know what, instead of trying to figure out dinner every single night, I'm just gonna meal prep on Sundays, at least to a Wednesday. How can you simplify things in your life? Instead of having this 12 Day launch campaign? How can I simplify it? Where can I keep things simple? friendships, relationships, right? It gets to be easy. Even if it's your God given talent. I think a lot of times, we really try to overcomplicate things when things come easy to us, right? Me talking on a podcast comes easy. And when I was starting to book clients through that, and coaching I was just like, oh my god, like, I shouldn't be making money doing this. I'm doing this cheering them on. But that's okay. You know, it gets to be that easy. Oh, my goodness, I just draw, you know, like, I'm just painting. That's something I love to do. It's not even that hard. I just put music on in the background. I'm just painting this person just by me. $700 I feel guilty. You don't have to. It gets to be easy. Oh, my goodness, kids just gravitate towards me. I don't know what it is. I'm everybody favorite auntie? Yeah, you are because it gets to be easy. It doesn't have to be hard. You don't get a badge of metal or honor for it being hard. Figure out how to simplify it. And it is okay. If baking cookies, coaching, you know, being creative. Being a good listener all comes natural for you. And you get some praise or some money or some spotlight for it, right? That's okay, too. It gets to be easy. Another shoe doesn't have to drop. You don't have to be exhausted. Making things complicated. It's just busy work. It's called positive procrastination is when you should be focusing on something that will really propel you forward. But instead you're like, Oh, am I gonna do I gotta do laundry? Am I gonna get the dishes up dishwasher? Oh, my God, I forgot to send that email scratch on it that could come later do the work. That that'll push you forward.

Jessica Lauren

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You don't have to be in a struggly love relationship. There is someone out there that'll laugh at your corny jokes. That loves your dirty draws. That'll help you out that listen, that cares for you and respect you you don't have to fight for nobody doggone love. You ain't gotta be cheated on. You ain't got to be dismissed. You ain't got to be told to wait on the back burner while I get my life together. You ain't gotta play that. I don't want a relationship. But I love you. You ain't got to audit. It don't have to be hard. Just remember that you get to open yourself up to ease and according to the dictionary, ease just means anything without difficulty, right? It does not have to be super hard.

Jessica Lauren

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Well, y'all that is it for this week's episode of the Sunday jumpstart podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Now, if you'd liked what you heard over here on the podcast, be sure to check out the morning jumpstart, is we basically do this every Monday through Friday together on a live stream where we can see each other kick it over on Patreon to get access to the morning jumpstart just go to the Sunday jumpstart.com and click on Patreon so that you can become a member again that is your way to get access to every single episode and even if you can't make it to the Live episodes, there will be replays and that's not where it stops you know there are different tiers where you can be a part of our monthly workshops are co working sessions group coaching the whole nine so check it out. Just click on Patreon when you get to the website. Also if I've mentioned anything and you didn't get a chance to jot it down, just check out episode number 135 on the Sunday jumpstart.com and all of the show notes and transcripts will be there now if you could do me a favor and leave a five star rating and review on Apple podcasts and Spotify now has a rating system as well. That really does help get our make ish happen message out there. Alright you guys. I love you so much. I am rooting for you. I will be back here this Wednesday with the quick tip and remember to follow me along over on Instagram at the Sunday Jumpstart. Until then y'all stay encouraged, be blessed. And I will see you right here on Wednesday. All right, bye!

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