right. And then with both of my parents being gone now and trying to keep them not just in my mind, but like to give pieces of them to my kids, because I see them and my kids all the time to choosing which stories, right which anecdotes you tell about those who loved who passed on which ones become part of like the lexicon of what my kids know about their dead grandparents, right? So and trying to make them not always like, I don't want to put my parents on a pedestal and say, like, oh, they were so wonderful, you know, we can turn the dead into saints sometimes, right? But to be a little bit more realistic about it. So one thing my kids will always say, if they're crunching really loudly or eating loudly at the table, they'll stop and say, Wow, grandma, Barbara really, really would have hated that because she did not like mouth sounds. So you know, like I'm trying to keep parts of it in their, in their memories in the forefront of their mind. Well, I