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All right, welcome back, everybody to another great episode. This is going to be a short quick episode on my understanding about the path to success and how I believe it's often a very lonely road for a few reasons. One is the necessity for solitude in order to foster your creativity and deep thinking and personal reflections. Right. So creativity is and if you haven't checked out the episode with rich Kirkpatrick, which is? Which episode is it at 79, episode 79. With rich Kirkpatrick, he is a creativity expert who's been studying in this field and awesome, awesome guest, awesome information. But one thing is irrefutable is you need the space for creativity to grow. Right. So you know, in previous episodes, I've talked about how, in order to have the pure circle that you want, sometimes you have to let the peer circle that you have, right in order for that space to be filled up again, in a way, you need a void of space in order to gain that space back, if that makes sense. If you have, because then you're left in your comfort zone, right, if you have a group of peers, that is not resonating with your new set goals, beliefs, or identity, then you will always be sucked back to that level, or that vibe of the group, that frequency of the group. And you will never be able to expand to that next horizon that your soul is urging you to go towards. So that's why you need to sometimes you don't have to burn the bridge. But sometimes you do have to let go of people in order to grow. And that void of space will then allow the universe or whatever you believe in the destiny of life, to fill that space with people that now do support that vision of yours or frequency of yours. Another reason that I believe it's often a lonely road is a misunderstood vision. If you look at the history of the victors, often they're the most misunderstood individuals and often look crazy until it happens, right until the success happens. So Trailblazers is what they would call them. And they're often the visionaries, the innovators, and the people that don't lose sight of what they want. And that conviction is what helps them get there, however, to everybody else around you, it will be a misunderstood dilemma in their eyes, until you actually make it, which is why it's often very lonely. People don't understand the purpose of what you do and why you're doing it at the extent that you're doing it. Right. For example, I might edit at 10pm at night and a podcast episode when I could be hanging out with friends. And that misunderstanding might make my friends believe that I don't want to hang out with them at all. But I have a purpose that I'm driven towards. And that's where they call the misunderstood vision, right. And that leads me to the next point beings personal sacrifice, you do have to give up certain things, so that the universe can fill that void with the things that you actually want. Because I was talking to a friend here in India the other day, and I was telling him, you know, either way, 10 years is gonna go by might as well be doing the 10 Might as well be doing the things you want, because in 10 years, you'll be the master of it. And I was telling him about the book Outliers. And now they're Malcolm Gladwell talks about the 10,000 hour rule. And if you were doing something 40 hours a week, right, like a nine to five job level of dedication to something. So 40 hours a week, minimum, it would take you a bout five years to reach mastery level and whatever you're doing. Now, if this is part time, doing the math, it'd be about 10 years. So that's what I was telling him 10 years is gonna go by Anyways, if you have a job and you're trying to do something on the side, you might as well do it, because in 10 years, at least, you'll be the master of it and your life will change astronomically for the better, rather than 10 years later looking at what if and what if I had right but that requires you to prioritize your work and that is a personal sacrifice on everybody will do want to do or can do. And that's why I believe it's an often a lonely road. I actually episode 90 which will be coming out after this in a couple more episodes. I'll go A little bit deeper. Let me pull up on exactly what, right okay, yeah, Episode 90, I'll be talking about Jim Roans steps to Life Mastery. And you know, a little bit of a spoiler here, he talks about the idea of reflecting. And I believe, you know, we all need to reflect in order to grow. And reflection is hard, because it makes you take a good look at yourself, and where you are versus where you want to be. And that discrepancy can often be very painful. So all these reasons, I believe, can create a very lonely road to success. But I don't want to leave this episode on a dark or sad note, because there are benefits. And there are ways to grow from this, right. So one is redefining what success looks like. And for me, coming this far already has been an immense amount of success in my books in my eyes. And I feel nothing but gratitude for coming this far, the podcast has grown, at least, my production quality, my content, quality, everything, the audio quality has grown significantly. And I'm grateful for that. And I consider that very, I consider that success. And I'm very happy every time I look at the stuff that I'm doing that I'm still going strong after three years of doing this. So redefining success can keep you strong, keep your conviction going. And one is the benefits will only erode his character building I've grown so much in the last three years than I have in the last 20. The previous 20 and authenticity, right, you walk with purpose, you walk with what you're doing, you are who you say you are. And that is the most powerful thing you can be, right? There's so many people that say, oh, I want to start this, I want to do that, but they never get to it. And they're not reaching their authentic self. And that creates a discrepancy within themselves, which is then reflected out to the outer world. Right? As humans, we pick up on nonverbals. And something about authenticity is it exudes happiness, confidence, genuine desires. That's why it's so attractive to see somebody be authentic. We want to hang out with people that are authentic. I mean, think about it. Who wants to hang out someone that's fake? Nobody? I've heard the exact opposite. Yeah, I'm sure you have to. Oh, that person. So fake, that person's two faced. Just saying it makes you think, yeah, you're right. I don't want to hang out someone like that. So what's the exact opposite of that authenticity. And the lonely road will build your character, it will build your authenticity, and will build deeper connections with everything you have. There is actually this amazing post that I saw on social media. And this guy was saying, if you want more from life, first, you need to take less, less time on social media, you need to spend less money. And that will help you value the more and life will give you more when you take less, because the universe appreciates, and gives back to people that give first there's this book called The Go Giver, absolutely life changing one of my favorite books. And one of the one of the first personal growth books I read I think was Rich Dad, Poor Dad, go giver. Outliers, these are some of the first ever books that I read that changed my life. So go givers a good one. You know, I'm gonna wrap this up. 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