[Air Date: W 10/6/21] Quick Tip #45 Be Your Biggest Fan

7:27PM Oct 5, 2021

Speakers:

Jessica Lauren

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Hey y'all! Hey! It's your girl Jessica Lauren, and I am coming to you with this week's quick tip. All right, I want to tell y'all a quick story.

So for the past few weeks, I have been working on a big project. And this project is stretching me baby, it is getting me outside of my comfort zone. But that's okay, because I love it. I am super excited about this project. I've been rolling up my sleeves doing the work. And I've been really tuning in to what it is that I want to do with it tuning into you know, just how I feel about things. And that's been important to me, because I've spent a big chunk of my life just kind of looking to my left and my right to see what other people are doing. Right? Like it's only natural because whenever you start anything new or anything outside of your comfort zone, you kind of look at people that's a little bit further ahead of you like am I doing this right? Am I on track? I don't know. So I'm working on this project doing my own thing. And you know, I'm at a point in my business, where I'm kind of over just watching a ton of webinars and going to classes and doing the e-course thing. I've spent thousands on all of that coaching. I love it. I really do and next season I'm definitely investing in all that stuff, but where I am right now, I've just been like listen- "Lord, I just want to do me for once right? I've been doing this for five, six years. How does Jessica feel about x y and z right?" So I've been really exploring be my own boss right? So I'm working on this project doing my thing and I kind of hit a hiccup right? And I've been like let's just figure it out what feels good to you I journal about it pray about it and it's like huh then I came up with the answer.

So the next day I get back to work doing my own thing type of stuff and I'm good feeling great. How are you? And then his voice pops up in my head. "Hey, girl that's cute and all but do you think you're really doing this right? Do you think people will really gravitate towards you know what? Why don't you look on their page? You know the person has been in the game for fast six years longer than you? Why don't you look at how they market. Look at their copy. How do they say things? What's their brand and colors?" And I'm like-- "no, no, no, no baby. Remember I said we don't want this on our own right?"

And so I keep chugging away plugging away like-- I'm not doing that yall I just really want to do what's right for me and mines because after a while you can get information paralysis. This person say do something this way the next person say does work for them. Let me try that didn't work. I done read all that and like I'm just kind of information overloaded right? So it was just like nope, I'm just doing me and then the voice keeps coming up.

Well don't you think they've been doing it better.? They've been making more money they don't spoke on Ted x. They done got you know, all these accomplishments. Maybe you should look at it. And child, I like to think that I'm strong. But baby, that voice got to me. I'm like, dang, you know what, you're right. They have been in the game longer than me, let me go and check on what they're doing. And so I go to the websites of some of the people, I'm gonna women that are a little bit and you know, they're in my industries, but they're further along than me make more money, whatever the case may be. So I go start looking on our website. And you know how you're just like, I just want to see if I'm doing it right, this answer, you know, this question of, am I doing the right? Am I doing the right? Am I doing the right kept popping up! Because here's the thing in certain industries, there are ways to do it. Right, right? You're not even copying off nobody. There are just tried and true methods to getting more butts in the seats, more downloads, more eyes on your work more money, like there are systems that people put in place. But for me, it was just like, that's cool. And I know it, I just want to try my own spin on things. But I succumbed to the pressure of my inner critic. And I go on this one girl's website and I love her. She's She's beautiful, just a beautiful person. And I'm scrolling through and she has all of her accomplishments on there. What stages she spoke on. What conferences she's been on how she's helped the hundreds of women do X, Y and Z and her income report was on there. And all of a sudden I felt small, so small like girl bye! Who did you think you would was? Did you think you can even compete and not when I was competing? It was like why would you even think you can be in the same industry as THIS girl She's so legit And I remember thinking that like dang guys she just got her life together she is so legit! Like dang I might as well just sit down somewhere my stuff a little janky you know. I'm DIYIng it and all that stuff. And you know, just kind of throwing a pity party for myself. And then a thought dawned on me it was just like, Jessica, you're legit. And I'm like, Nah, ghee. You don't know know what I'm talking about? Like I am making moves like everybody else's. And God's like "No, go ahead." "I want you to go, your own l website, just real quick so i'm like Okay, which one? No Real Jewelry or the Sunday Jumpstart." What you want to do?

So I go to my websites and I'm just starting from like my first episodes, my first blog posts. And I'm just incredibly humble just like Dang, I done made it a long way! I've been doing this since 2015. And just to see the growth, and to see just the improvements and how much I've learned and how blessed I've been through all of this, it was just humbling, right? Like, how dare I compare what God has done for me to someone else, right?

And yeah, it's easy to get caught up in the hype of filters, and wonderfully packaged programs and snazzy jazzy websites and all of that jazz, right? But for me, I just come to a point where it's just like, I want to be my own fangirl, right? I love cheering my people on, I really do. I'm always inspired by other people. But I think sometimes we spend so much of our energy, focusing on what other people are doing in their lane that we forget to check back on us. And to see how far we've come. And to really honor the fact that no matter where we are in the stage of the game, that we've actually took an idea and started the work to build that, right? Whether it's your art, your side hustle your craft, your business, whatever the case may be, you've been investing in that you've been learning about it, you've been implementing it hitting publish, pitching yourself, asking agents to sign you like you've been doing that work, and that deserves some celebration. And it's also proof that you are legit, too, right? Like, it's like, well look at your stuff. You're just as legit as them. Yeah, you might not have, you know, massive followers and all that. And to be honest, that's not even my end goal. You know, I'm saying like, that was another aha moment, too. I just want to impact the people that God has placed in my path, right?

So all that to say, My challenge for this week, is to become your own fan, a fan of your own work, right. And when you start to get discouraged, I want you to go back and look at the first bag you ever made. Or the first pair of earrings. Think about that first little crispy cookie, look at your first podcast episode, go back and look at that first check. I have my first check that I ever made from a partnership hanging up on my wall. It was for $400. And how proud I was in that moment, right? That $400 was like 400 million to me, because I was like, Yo, I'm just talking, I'm just talking about the things that I love, and someone decided to pay me right? Don't forget about that stuff, and how far you've come. And just remember, before you go out and start checking for external validation, or what you should be doing next right? Check within yourself, you have the answer, right. And of course, it's easy to get a book about Oprah and see how Oprah did it right? But you and Oprah ain't the same person, each of us have been given a tailor made journey that is specific to ourselves. And yes, it'd be easy if you can copy and paste someone else's success. But life does not work like that, right? So you have to get used to one, keeping your eyes on your own paper, right? Focusing on the things and the goals and the people and the places and things that you are sent here to impact Keep your eyes on that it is okay to get knowledge and to get training and to get coaching. I'm a firm believer in that. But sometimes you got to be still and hear the directions that are there for you. Right? Don't get so stuck looking on whatever looking at whatever everybody else is doing right? Focus on you and become a fan of your own work right? You are legit you got the juice, you that girl you would have boy, you'd have person, you are anointed, you are skilled, you are talented. You got this, everything that you need is within you. We're just so used to drowning out our own voices and seeking some external, somebody at somebody else. Tell me what you did. What did you do to get where you are okay, you did that. I'm gonna do that too. But I don't work like that because we all have our own journeys. So why you fan personing and over other people. Make sure that you're given that same amount of energy and passion to yourself and your own work.

All right so y'all so that's it for this week's quick tip. I don't know if that was more of a story or quick tip But hey, you got it this week. That is it for today. Thank you so much for tuning in. Be sure to hang out with me over on Instagram. The handle is at the @thesundayjumpstart. I will be back here this Sunday with the full length episode we will be on part three of our Speak Itseries. Love the series I've been getting a ton of great messages from you guys about it. I'm so happy that it has resonated with you until then finish the rest of this this week strong. I'm praying for you. I love you and I'll see you soon. Bye.