I'm hearing it everywhere. It's gotten real sexy. Everyone is using the term bring your whole selves to work. Because I am on a mission right now, to say we need to be much more cautious about that. It's being weaponized, especially for folks on the margins. And in particular, what we're hearing is that a lot of black women are receiving that invitation, and then are also receiving a write up, or a memo, or defer a formal conversation around professionalism and professionalism is already racialized in this country, and tends to have white supremacist undertones. To be clear, I don't wanna mince my words on that. And so, at the teaching, well, we have coined a term professional authenticity. And we spent quite a bit of time as a team articulating what that means at any given season in our organization. It means bringing your gifts, bringing authenticity, not feeling like you need to code switch, but also being mindful of team dynamics and professional expectations. So we actually talk about what does it mean and what is it not? Right, being able to come in and, and there is such a thing as that's your personal business and TMI, in a work meeting, there is such a thing. Yeah, right. And when it starts to create discomfort for others, and they don't know how to address that, you're going to create tensions within the organization. And also, when we say we don't want to code switch, that doesn't mean we get to, you know, come through and use racial slurs, because that's what you do in your home. Right. And so we need to actually tease out and this will look different for every organization, but I welcome you to consider actually have a series of conversations with your teams. What does professional authenticity mean? What does that mean and break it down? Really go into examples, case studies scenarios, we've spent quite a bit of time, as Selena May, one of our teammates would say, quantifying what it means to self manage to self Express, but also to consider collective care and impact on our teammates. Right? So I just want to invite that concept in and now to your pre HR interventions, huh? Here we go. Let me just tell you that. So the amount of times we hear clients say, well, it's okay, we're going to bring in HR. And that as if that is like a sign of relief. First of all, shout out to all the HR professionals. Yeah, because folks in HR are not well, they have not been well, their to do lists are far too long. They are not here. As fixers, the Olivia Pope's of your organization, HR is tired, sent HR on a vacation. And let's also be really clear. In the majority of cases that we're observing, when HR is brought in the relationship is ruptured far beyond what a standard repair process will heal. In other words, once you brought in HR, things are pretty bad. And if you're expecting that to be an intervention, where folks are now collaborating with ease with joy with trust, you're mistaken. And so increasingly, the teaching well is creating programming that we call pre HR interventions. We do restorative mediations, but we are a neutral third point that's bringing in somatic practices that's bringing in human centered communication protocols. We are doing healing circles, we're doing treaty work, because sometimes you're not going to heal and be friends. And you know, you don't have to be friends with everyone at work. But you do need to collaborate, and you do need to have an understanding of how you'll partner, it might be exploring boundaries individually, and then brokering those together. And so we really try and in support our clients withholding those difficult conversations before the HR department is brought in, because what ensues is often disciplinary action, and disempowerment and a reactivation of employment trauma, and there may be identity markers that come into play, whether it be positionality, whether it be age, gender race, that further muddies the water, and impacts our ability to see clearly and move forward as a united front, one of my former bosses would say we don't have to agree, but we do have to align. And that's been a mantra I've really held, as I've moved through my career. And so call us up, y'all don't just over rely on HR,