is a good question. Yeah, it's kind of a both, and in a way, you know, and because of that, that's even more of a gap, because I think right now, with the way our culture has been steered, we are to look at each other's differences and focus on that rather than our similarities. But I think humanity is overcoming its own culture, or the culture that it's growing up in, where we're looking more at the similarities and going from there in our relationships. And that's why, I think, is another pillar, why non monogamy is starting to become accepted as an option in the dating realms. Because not only is it a little check box you can tick, but it's now more representative of freedom and the the liberation of your sexuality. I can choose whatever I want, and I think that's why we're seeing such a swing with all these types of genders and sexualities and sexual relationships and so forth, because it's kind of like a pendulum swinging. It's been pushed so far hard the other way that like, almost like a rubber band that snapped. It's now swinging that hard into the other direction, and it's just going to explode. So it's going to create a culture of non monogamy, just as a de facto state now, where it's just a recognized option, especially with incomes and having a third or a fourth person can really help raise a kid, or give yourself more time to be alone and do your own thing and not worry that, oh, my partner's going to be home alone and board. No, they're out dating. They're out having a good time. You get to be home and do your thing, and maybe you get to go out on a date, and then they get and so I think it's just bringing more options into it. So while at the same time, yes, I see it being portrayed certain ways, and people have formed those opinions, and there's always going to be jealousy, and there's always going to be, you know, feeling left out, or things of that nature. But what we're learning, not only with CNM or conscious non monogamy, is not just to free your relationship, but open up the lines of communication. Because one thing I have learned in a non monogamous relationship, you, you're kind of like it's, it's boot camp for a relationship. You're forced to talk about your feelings. You're forced to talk forced him guys, you're forced to really express yourself and make your needs known, because if you don't, you're really going to be left behind. So it causes, at least it caused, in me, more like, Buck up, just deal with it and overcome the issues that you've you're having in a relationship, and a lot of men nowadays are being trained or told to just be quiet, do what she asks, don't say anything. You know, Happy wife, happy life. And we're realizing that, no, that's just shutting you down, which makes you less attractive to her, which is why she might want to go out and find another person. Mm. So when, when we're in a non monogamous relationship, we really have to it's even more imperative that we stand up for what we believe, what we say, what we think, what we feel and what we want. And I think that when we want to love openly, like, why, if I have a connection with you, and we're dating, and I develop just as an intense connection, but in a totally different way with someone else. Why I'm not allowed you were first, and that's it. No, let's open our mind and expand and when I can express that because I want that, like, Oh, why? Because I'm not enough, no, because you don't like going out and rock climbing rocks and being physical and challenging me, you know, with running and all that, you're like, No, I don't, not you. But, you know, the partner you're with would be like, Well, yeah, I'm not into that, but, but they are. It's like, oh, and you want to do that. Okay?