you feel it's like the way my kid used to negotiate for bedtime stories would be like, Okay, time for bed three stories, and they'd be like, No, six, and we'd be like, three, and they'd be like, No, two, and we'd be like, Okay. And they'd be like, Oh, hi, one. All right. Good job. You pulled one over on me. Now you have fewer stories. Like, and I'd like mentioned that to them the other day, and I like Yeah, but I won. I was like, okay, as a Pyrrhic victory, I think, all right. Oh, promising yourself a reward. I'm sorry, if the house is on fire, I'm not gonna leave it. If I'm doing something, you know, like, just the, the reward will be, you know, you'll get this ice cream. If you just fill out this one sheet of paper, your teacher says, Oh, no. Now we're going to fight for two hours about it. And I'm going to eat on screen. Right? While crying after the fact. Yeah, exactly. So and then the judgment there, right. Like, I don't know why you're resisting this. Like, you know, most people can do this without ice cream. And like, we're being very reasonable. And we're like offering you prizes for this. And you still won't do it, which is like, the story of me as a parent a little bit, but also me as a person just doesn't work. Right. Yeah. So two of the things that do work, I think of this. So they have four strategies, and like, this is how you beat this. And like, nope, some of them don't work. The one that does work, make it a game. Yeah. Like, how can I like I like to sort of set the timer and be like, how many things can I pick up in? 20 minutes, right. Or can I get this stuff done before my sister gets there? Right, like, Poppins, a spoonful of sugar? Yeah, yeah, exactly. Like you're, you're making it fun. While you're doing it, right. You're like, I wonder if I could do this before the end of the commercial break? Do you remember? Like, you'd have, I would always say to my mom, like she'd like wash the dishes. And I'm like, No, I'm watching. I'll do it on the commercials. And she's like, you're gonna write. But if you made me wash all the dishes before I was allowed to watch TV, then you would know Yeah, the dishes and I would watch TV, I would just maybe be sitting on the toilet reading the newspaper for like, two hours because I just didn't. But if it's like, well, you can if you can get it done during the commercials of the first show. Right. But like, how many commercials because I don't want to be getting up during commercials. Let's see how fast I can do this. Yeah, I needed a gate. Right? So that works. Are there things that you make games of? For you to make it work? Leave? Um,