the rest of the feedback, right. So if again, you're not in the habit of sandwich, a chest tribe, the positive little sandwich, positive, negative positive sandwich, and how you can start off first is by saying, Hey, man, I love when we're spending time together, You crack me up! That's you're positive, you're funny, I like being around you, I appreciate it. And then you know, the next phase is to give them a warning shot. But you know, I kind of want to talk to you about something that happened the other day. And you could preface it by saying like, I'm not trying to start an argument with you, I don't want you you know, to feel like a bad friend or whatever. And then you follow it up with the negative, we when you grab my belly and jiggled in front of everybody and say, Hey, you gain weight, are you pregnant in front of everybody at work. I've had that done to me when I was not pregnant. It hurt my feelings, period. And that, to me, came from a place of love and kindness, right? I didn't say see you always trying to embarrass me in front of people. You ain't being you know, I'm saying like you just said, Hey, I love you. You're funny. I know you love to light up a room. But I got something that's a little bit uncomfortable for me to tell you. And I don't want it to hurt your feelings. But it kind of hurt my feelings. When You embarrassed me the other day, right? If somebody said that, to me, my first reaction would be like, Oh my God, I didn't mean that I was just playing. I'm so sorry. Oh, my goodness. Now you if you got some folks in your life. That'd be like, where did nobody mean? Girl, girls and boys, it might be time to reevaluate that friendship because what the heck? You should be able to go up to your friends, your peers, your co workers or whoever, and have an adult conversation with you. If they don't get fired up and lit up. It might be time to just like reevaluate that and if they do get amped up, you just stay you're calm anchored self. Like listen-- Like I said, I'm not trying to do all of it. But there are my feeling is Hey, y'all been overworking me? I work. Can I get a vacation? Hey, you know what I mean? Like when you didn't show up to my baby shower. We've been best friends for years. I was just, you know, left feeling like, dang, did I do something wrong? Have the tough conversations. Go back and tell McDonald's Hey, y'all, like give me my hashbrowns this morning, say what needs to be said.