So if you're unsure about the health aspect of things, please educate yourself on that. Don't listen to some old episodes of this podcast, even the most recent ones already fucking Joe. So you can get some good retort to when people say, my Atlanta mount now? Yes, yes. Yes, God, yes. Okay. All righty. tighty, pagan, Pokey, let's go through. So the big thing is educate yourself. Now I'm going to go through different categories and tell you how practical things that you can try in if you want to be an ally, so. So the first category that I want to talk about is, how not to be a dick to fat friends. So in the category of your personal relationships with fat people and what you can do around that. So first off, if you don't have any fat friends, what is up with that? Look around your friend circle? Do you have fat friends? If you don't? That's kind of weird. Why don't you have that friends? It could just be that you're like, I don't have any friends Victoria. And then I Okay, go guys go. You're, you're off the. But if you have a big circle of people, and they're all tend to be you know, thin white people then question about like, Why? Why is that? Okay? So, first off, don't expect us to educate you around a fat issues, or relive our trauma to convince you that the world is fat phobic. A lot of times, straight sides, people want to see the evidence, right? They kind of want to be like, Well, what's been your experience? Tell me about a time that you've been fat shamed? And tell me about a time like, what's it like for you, and sometimes, you know, if that person doesn't want to talk about that shit, because it's fucking traumatic. And it's kind of like you want to hear that it's kind of like trauma porn or something being like, Oh, tell me about the time that you were discriminated against. So it's kind of like that, right? Just, you can just presume that any fat person out there has experienced stigma, trauma around their bodies, and all that type of stuff. And just walking with that knowledge and not expecting a fat person to relay their experience of living in a fat body to educate you or to entertain you. Now, if you invite us somewhere, say, Oh, hey, let's go and grab some lunch. Make sure that the place if you're choosing the place is accessible. So if you're going for it to a restaurant, make sure that you are choosing a restaurant that doesn't have any boobs, or chairs without arms, or is not at the top of a hill when you have to park at the bottom of the hill. Doesn't have loads of stairs. It's not really cramped, is not some type of weird diet place. Like this is just on the street here in front of me on Davie Street in Vancouver, some new shop was opened and it's like, what is that? What it paleo is a paleo restaurant. And I'm just like, oh, I rolly you know, it's like it's like a diet restaurant. You know, don't don't invite a fat friend somewhere like that, you know, they might be fine with it, but why? Why risk it? And in regards to Is it somewhere that they can actually sit down and be comfortable that you would not believe the amount of places that are like, oh, sorry, we only have tiny little stools, you know, those like high stools, or, or boobs, where the, you can't move the table. I mean, if there's a booth and there's loads of room and you can move the table out, that's great, because then it doesn't have any arms, right. But if it's like fixed in and your, your fat friend is going to have to squeeze in, and depending where they are on their, you know, how they feel about their body, they might not want to say anything, they might be really embarrassed. And they would be like, you know, they don't want to say oh, by the way, this chair is really small for me, they will just sit in discomfort depending on how they are feeling or, or what's going on with them in regards to their communication style, or whatever, well, they might not feel safe with you talking about it. But if you can just take that away and make sure that you're going somewhere that they can actually be comfortable, that's amazing. Another thing you can do is actually ask them where they want to go, they might have places that you like, where they know, okay, this place definitely has places that I can sit. And so an idea might just be to say, hey, where do you want to go. And they can tell you, you know, this is where it was good for me.