But that's another place where we can really clear the air quite a bit. If we begin to see how unnecessary it is to measure up to anybody else's idea. I've often quoted what the great physicist Richard Feynman said he wrote a whole book and the title was, what do you care what other people think? So I'm gonna read a rant, by that guy, Anthony de Mello. I've read from before, probably read this rant before, but just puts a stake in it says, a small time businessman. 55 years old, is sipping a beer at a bar somewhere. And he's saying, well look at my classmates, they really made it the idiot. What does he mean they made it, they've got their names in the newspaper, you call that making it. One is president of the corporation, the other has become the Chief Justice, somebody else has become this or that monkeys, all of them. Who determines what it means to be a success? This stupid society, the main preoccupation of society is to keep society sick. And the sooner you realize that the better sick, every one of them, they're Loony, they're crazy. You become president of the lunatic asylum, and you're proud of it, even though it means nothing. Being president of a corporation has nothing to do with being a success in life. Having a lot of money has nothing to do with being a success in life. Your success in life when you wake up, then you don't have to apologize to anyone. You don't have to explain anything to anyone. You don't give a damn what anyone thinks about you, or what anybody says about you. You have no worries, you're happy. That's what I call being a success. Having a good job or being famous, or having a great reputation has absolutely nothing to do with happiness or success. Nothing is totally irrelevant. All he's really worried about is what his children will think about him what the neighbors will think about him what his wife will think about him, he should have become famous. Our society and culture, drill that into our heads day and night. People who made it made what made asses of themselves, because they drained all their energy getting something that was worthless. They're frightened and confused. They're puppets like the rest. Look at these. Look at them strutting across the stage. Look how upset they get if they get a stain on their shirt. You call that a success. Look at how frightened they are at the prospect. They might not get reelected. You call that success. They're controlled. They're so controlled and so manipulated, they're unhappy people. They are miserable people, they don't enjoy life. They are constantly tense and anxious. Do you call that human? And you know why that happens? for only one reason. They identified without some label. They identified the eye with their money or their job or their profession. That was their error. So poignant to talk with someone who's maybe in their 40s or 50s. And they're they're feeling bad because they've never had accomplish much. They don't have a job a high paying job or they're not a professional success. Inevitably comparing themselves to other people, but what what would be what would be great at the age of 40, or 50 would be to be at peace with yourself. The ability to be present with other people, to be able to offer genuine sympathy, to be able to do what needs to be done in spite of your anxiety, or reluctance to be able to live out of your values. Those things have nothing to do with career. There's nothing wrong with a career. I suppose there's probably nothing wrong with becoming president of the asylum. But if that's your goal, you're going at it the wrong way. It's not going to end well.