I need all the help I can get with relationships. I'm not talking just about partners, I'm talking about period. Because it's such an interesting juxtaposition of the spiritual and the psychological. And perhaps I'm thinking out loud here, perhaps one of the reasons spiritual practitioners sometimes questioning the whole notion of the validity of doing spiritual work in relationship is because they don't acknowledge the the legitimacy of working with psychological principles on the spiritual path. Another form of spiritual bypassing thinking that yes, all my work on the spiritual path, my understanding of emptiness can theoretically can handle all my problems. But you know, again, test that theoretical understanding slash experience with real life experiences and so I think one reason people on the spiritual path sometimes challenge or want to run away from relationships, is perhaps because they're not so interested in working with the psychological dimensions. of their being. And so for me I look at the whole thing is the psycho spiritual now would even throw in physical, physical, psycho spiritual growth pattern. It's not just spiritual. If it is, then boy, you're you're setting yourself up for a lot of really subtle traps, escapism spiritual materialism. Spiritual bypassing, Advaita speakers, all kinds of division, new complex, there's all these problems that people can step into. So the books I recommend, my my dear old late friend, John Wellwood, died a couple of years ago. He wrote, in my estimation, some of the best books on relationships and have devoured them all his classic book is journey of the heart. I highly recommend it. It's an amazing like a little manifesto for relationships, highly recommend that book. I read it several times. And then the book that came after that just as good and much shorter, perfect love imperfect relationship. Brilliant book. And then the third one again, there's so many but not to overwhelm you. The third one I always recommend is also by my friend Bruce Tift. Already free, but doesn't mean psychotherapy on the path of liberation. These are really skillful books written by practitioners, psychologists, PhDs at least in John's case, who were also deep, deep practitioners and so they bring that they merge this psychological spiritual joint venture in very very skillful ways. So, that's my, my personal role on relationships, but again, it's gonna depend on who you talk to you right? But from my perspective, the only thing that exists is relationships on any level. If you work with relationships properly, they're not going to interrupt your path. They're going to accelerate your path. They're going to accelerate your path, so you don't need to get rid of that stuff. The only thing you have to do interestingly enough, if you're having a problem with relationships, the only thing you have to do and this is where the onus is on you is work on how you relate to it. How do you relate to that relationships? Literally? Take the responsibility, see what's going on from your own side. Last part of the question I also wanted to ask you what your thoughts are on life after death. It makes sense to me. And whether or not the beautiful relationships we share and create within you create with each other in this life. transcend death. Yeah, that's another really nice question. They do to what extent is difficult to say, but my line here, AJ is a death as the animal body. It's not the end of a relationship. And so therefore, you know, one of the reasons we think it's the end of everything, is again, because we unwittingly, many of us, subscribe to this ridiculous fallacious notion of materialism, that somehow, my my, my mind, my persona, is encased in this skull are somehow limited to this body mind to this body matrix. Not at all, not at all. And in fact, in the Tibetan world, many of you have heard this and when a great teacher dies, they're actually more available to you after death than they were in life because they're mixing their mind with space. And so, death is the handle of body it's not the end of a relationship. Now, to what extent can you actually help them or have relationships? That's a very open question, is it not? You can cultivate if you're very sensitive relationship to the dream world, and I'm sure many people listening here have had experiences with deceased loved ones after they've died. Does that mean that they've they're somehow infiltrating your MindScape? Maybe, I don't know. I don't see why not. Or could it be just unconscious aspects arising from that could be that as well I don't really know. But even then, what really matters is what the relationship to that arising.