You know, to have that struggle. So to have that being bothered, it means that we're somehow in conflict with reality. And, and so to have our receptivity, the way we receive in our present and take in and register what's happening, that does not, that's not in conflict with anything that is willing to receive even terrible things. I mean, certainly not violence against us. But, but that's, that's willing to receive news and information and even what people say, you know, spaciously. And then, and then, hopefully, we respond wisely. We respond from that peaceful place. And my hope is that, that's a powerful place, we can respond from a place of strength. And non reactivity is a powerful vantage point from which to talk to people respond to people, because sometimes people can feel that they have lost their influence on us by being angry, or by being solicitation, or being all kinds of ways in which people maybe unconsciously, are trying to manipulate us or want us to, they want us to be reactive. They want to make us afraid, or they want to make us desirous or something, but to hold our ground peacefully, calmly, maybe with lots of care and love friendliness, but not playing the games not being caught into the game people are playing or they're the usual, you know, way conflicts go or the usual way in which we activity bounces, we bounce off each other. And it's a very powerful place to stand. Because the people have less influence on us. And, and we become kind of we take our own power back that way. And then from that place, we can say no, from that place, we can say yes, from that place, we can say I'll think about it, some some from that place, we can say, you know, I think we need to talk about what's going on, we can kind of come back in a way. But because we're not reactive, people tend to also hear us better. It's a little bit harder for them to be reactive if we're not reactive, in our strong response to the situation. So this is all a way of saying that. That it's possible to trust, peace, it's possible to trust calm, if that calm and peace and connects us to some deeper place of non reactivity teaches us how to have a receptive awareness. So our awareness is not in conflict with anything, our receptivity to do recognize to be present for is not reactive. And so this non conflict, because we trust, the peaceful place we trust will respond wisely and caringly for ourselves from this peaceful place. So one of the signs of someone or one of the kind of milestones of someone who practices maturing in Buddhism, is they begin trusting, being peaceful, they trust being nonreactive they trust this place of a kind of a warm, vital, meaningful, calm calmness. more than they trust, reactivity more than they trust, agitation more than they trust, being distressed or being anxious or being angry or all these things that, you know, pull us into the world of non calm. We begin trusting that place of peace. And we learned to try find that that is a wellspring, of vitality of goodness of responsivity of creativity of of goodness, it's not a place of being shut down. It's not a place of being somehow couch potato adult couch potato calm. The the one of the metaphors for this kind of deep calm is that of candle flame that is out of the wind. So the candle flame is completely from the distance looks like it's completely still. But we know inside it's very dynamic. So the flame is calm, with a dynamic kind of,