And this next section is called how to cultivate right attitudes. He says we can cultivate right attitudes through a fourfold process of exposing, embracing, transforming and letting go. When practitioners come across the familiar Buddhist teaching of non grasping, they think that they have to let go of everything, and that this is something they can do right away. And that once they've done, so everything will be fine. The truth is, we have to first see what it is that we have to let go off, we have to expose our subtle emotional afflictions and negative habits. And exposing them we may recognize that they have been part of us for a long time, that there is a history behind our behaviors, they may be part of our defense mechanisms, and survival skills. So we have to accept them. The times are things from childhood. Think of a child so powerless in relation to the adults, so dependent on their parents, even the best parents are going to make mistakes. child learns, finds ways of protecting itself, they're not always skillful. So the point that Joko Beck makes quite a bit that we carry them into our adult life. defense mechanisms that made sense, when we were a child, they don't serve us any longer. He says we have to accept them. They're there, they're part of us. So okay, only once we accept them will we be able to take responsibility for and work through them, then we will no longer be under their influence. This is letting go of them. This is a long process. And it's not linear but circular. The more we're able to see, see and see, the more we need to embrace. The more we embrace and let our feelings come through us. The more we're able to expose the deeper layers of our habits. The more we work through them, the more we are able to let go and accept ourselves in time, we become freer. This letting go is actually the easiest part of the process, because it happens naturally and suddenly. But we must first do our preparatory work. We cannot anticipate when those habitual tendencies will release themselves, and we cannot will it to happen. fact this is completely counterproductive. When those tendencies are tendencies to say, anxiety, Dread, we want it to go we want it to go and we're impatient. We have to expose it which means we have to accept it, we have to embrace it. Have to let the process work.