5 Tips for Staying Focused on Your Goals
3:23AM Sep 9, 2021
Hey, everyone. Good afternoon, and welcome to the Ready Set group show. Are you ready to focus? I'm Hilary. And this is Deb. And we are here for the Ready Set group growth show. And today we're talking about focus. And you're probably thinking, ah, still in relaxation mode, it's vacation for some people. I don't want to focus on anything, but that's what we're talking about. Because, you know, sometimes, the reason we think we don't hit our goals is because we're not focusing on them too much. And that's kind of true, because what you focus on gets accomplished, right? If I focus on making sure that I have healthy meals every morning, I'm focusing on that, because that's my goal, I'll achieve the goal, right? So it is true that if we're not focused on what we want to do in our business, then we're not going to achieve our goals. So today, we're bringing to you some five, five tips that are going to help you stay focused on achieving your goals. And we're going to be speaking about it specifically from the standpoint of your business goals. All right, um, this month of August, you know, a lot of people that are either traveling coming back from traveling now starting back school in the US, I know, a lot of kids are doing that, hey, in Trinidad, we still have another month or so. So we're still in vacation mode type of but you know, the thing is, we all need to focus on different things in our business at different times. And one of the things like, you know, I threw that example out there, you want to eat healthy meals everyday? Right? That's actually the first tip.
You got to be crystal clear on what it is that you're going to be focusing on. Right? It has to be very clear, and you have to know how you're going to achieve it. Right? Then you could focus on something, it's like, you know, I want to sleep, okay, you want to sleep when for how many hours? You know, on what type of bed, right? You know, a lot of moms, the early stages of their, their motherhood, they talk about I want to get more sleep, and they never seem to get more sleep, right.
But you know, part of the problem too, is when we don't focus is when we can get overwhelmed, overwhelmed, because it's just like, and that's when procrastination will set in always. Yeah. And, you know, I have done a few procrastinating moments in my life, in my business. But the overwhelm is, when I brought my business online, I got very overwhelmed, I was focused, I was focused on learning. But there was so much, it was like, Oh, my gosh, and I got overwhelmed instead of breaking it down. Okay, this is the lesson I'm going to learn today. And I'm going to stick with it today. And then move on. But no, I thought I had to have it all very quickly, and it just wasn't happening. So if you're not focused, you can become overwhelmed. And, you know, again, procrastination will creep in. If you're not on
it. Yeah. And you need to, you really need to. So it's interesting, because you need to be clear on what you want. So like you're crystal clear here, like my business is coming online. But I think one of the tips when it comes to staying focused, and it relates to the overwhelm, because you don't want to allow yourself to get over. And that is another tip, right? You don't want to allow yourself to get overwhelmed. But one of the things that you have to also recognize, which is tip number three, or four, where I don't know where we're at right now.
We're gonna give them more than five
years do we always give, give give. And so you need to recognize that sometimes the goal that you set the intention that you set is going to take a few steps, you're not going to get it done, you know, in one in one setting in one, one attempt, whatever the case may be. And a lot of people who are in weight loss for example, a lot of people feel a weight loss because of this one thing. They they have their intention. They have certain clear on what their goal is, but they don't realize that it has to come in different in small sizes in small bites in small bites. And what they do is they allow the big goal to overwhelm them. Alright. So where it was, some people say it's simple. And for other people, it's like it overwhelms them because they're like, I have to do this. And I have to do that. And I have to do all of these things that they have to do. And then they just get overwhelmed. And they're like, I'm confused, and I don't know what to do. And I'll go and eat cake feedback.
In my case, I
cried a lot.
And I'm not like I am speaking from total experience, because it's interesting that you know, an X track athlete will be struggling with weight loss, right? It's very funny, you know, I was on my way to the Olympics, and you know, Olympics was wrapped up, I was on my way to the Olympics. And now I am in that that thing, where, you know, it's like, he just got overwhelmed. There's just so many things that you have to do. But I'm clear on my goal, really clear on that goal. And I really know that it does take a few steps, but I'm still overwhelmed by all of the information, right?
And then that's kind of like when you talk about the steps to
That's kind of like on the sessions that I needed to learn. Yes, my goal was to bring my business online. But I also had to realize
that my husband, my
husband, he's over there doing
my gosh, anyway, if I would have just taken a deep breath, and realize that yes, here's my big goal to get my business on this contraption right here that we're looking at and talking to you on the computer. But I had small goals, learn this lesson, Deb learned this lesson, get it down, and then move on. So we have to keep everything into perspective. Or we lose our focus, we get overwhelmed, we cry, we eat, what are you.
And then you do it to achieve your goals, right. And we want to make sure that you're achieving your goals. So staying focus, first of all, set the goal set the intention, that yes, you're going to do this, recognize that the intention may have different steps to achieve that goal, you may have to go through a few steps. Yeah. And then the third thing that I think both Deb and I have experienced in many different forms is getting don't allow yourself to get overwhelmed. Alright, don't Don't, don't let all the information that's coming at you confuse you and overwhelm you to the point where you stop doing something. Right, right. Yep, the next thing that I think is a great tip in terms of staying focused, but it can also get you a little sidetracked in terms of what we talked about last week, shiny objects is using your resources. Okay? You have to know how to use resources towards your end goal, alright, because we don't want you to go out there and try to find resources, what you see is instead of just using any or resource ox for what you need,
you might need.
Exactly, so ask those questions. Don't just go out there and start searching because then you may fall into the trap that we talked about last week, which is the shiny object syndrome. All right, you guys go and check that out that replay. Okay. But definitely, you want to use your resources, seek out resources, arcs, people for what, what, what will help you reach your goal? All right.
A nice thing about asking people is, first of all, it, it honors them that you ask them. And second of all, it lets them know that, hey, she needs a cheering block, I can be a cheerleader for her. So it's a two fold session, you, you make them feel good, because you've asked a question of them. But they also you in that fact you have let them know that you are working on something, you are focused on something and so therefore they can cheer you on, um, and just reach out say, Okay, do you need any help today or whatever, something like that. So, yeah, we've got to use our resources and people are
part of our resources. Exactly. Yes, they are. They definitely uh, you know, so and the thing too, is that you know, sometimes not all the time, but sometimes when you ask for a resource or you ask for help that person now in essence holds you accountable. And there's nothing like staying focused than accountability.
That's exactly right.
accountability. It's like, you know, and this is something that anything that you're doing if, and especially when you ask for help, so I've also helped many times in my journey of weight loss, I, one of the things that they say is tell your family, or they'll keep you accountable. Because if you tell your family, for example, I'm now sometimes family and not the nicest people when it comes to this, okay? But you tell your family, you're going to lose five pounds in a month, right? You can't believe that every minute, they're gonna watch what you're putting onto that fridge. Every minute, I'm gonna be like, is that adding to your five pounds or taking away from you? I
have, like my husband, it took him a while to learn this. When I was going to lose or wanted to lose some weight. He would always come home and oh, Deb, I bought a candy bar. Or I'm going to have some ice cream with can I fix you some? No. And finally, he learned that my focus was on my goal, and I was not going to be pulled away from it.
But it took a
while. But I just kind of looked at him. And I'm like,
you're supposed to be helping me. You know what accountability is important. And family? Yes, our families keep us accountable in very different ways loving, but very different ways. They're keeping us accountable. But by tempting us, but that's okay. You definitely need to stay focused on your goals, the only way you're gonna achieve your goals is to tell somebody. And sometimes if you don't have that person to tell just yet, you need to start small. And even if you just write it down in a journal, write it down in a diary in a planner, just haven't having written it down. You've made yourself accountable to yourself.
Yeah, you've put your brain
Yes, by taking pen to paper and writing it down. And we're not talking typing because it's very interesting. And I'll just share a quick on to do here about accountability and writing things down. I did an exercise two years back to back, right, I had my goals set out and everything and we're learning we're always learning and growing, how to go. And I wrote out my goals very specifically, you know how they tell you to do the SMART goal thing. And I wrote them out on a piece of paper. And every day, I would write them out. And then it became every week, they would write them out. And then it became every month because a year is a very long period. Anybody says a year flies by they've never been through one. Right. But as I would be writing those goals, and that year, I achieved six out of my seven goals. The following year, I said I'm tired of writing, I'm going to type it up, print it out and stick it up on my wall. That year, I think it was two out of maybe 10. Because I thought to myself, Oh, I achieved six out of my seven goals. This is great, I could achieve even more. The following year, I achieved two out of 10 goals. Because I typed it up on the computer, printed it out and stuck it up on my wall. There's something about just writing that makes you accountable even to yourself. Now, you can take it a step further to be accountable to another person.
I was going to say that when we write it, we can say it. But when we write it, our brain actually sees it. We've told our brain Oh, this is what she wants to do. I have to tell you, I used to write I used to write my stuff on a what I'll call a powerless and I would write it in this notebook. But then I found myself with my day planner sitting right here like Hillary just showed you. I'd show you mine that mines full of papers. But yes, I kind of was writing the same in a in a big sense, the same things. And I'm like, Okay, I'm doing double duty here. What do you look at war, your power list in a notebook? Or the things that you have to get done in a day's time and actually, I learned several things from friends. Let me get it I learned how to time block. Yeah. When you're on the camera, it's like, backwards.
Yeah. But we saw, we saw the colors.
Yes. And so every color that was on there means something different. Like I've got green means doing something for my business, something to make money. And yes, it's okay to make money we have to live. So we have to make money. And that's what our businesses are about. My blue is my personal things, like my workouts and my prayers, and my, whatever else is going on that particular day. It is like, well, maybe it's laundry day or, you know, doing chores around the house, things like that. And so that has helped me tremendously. Other than my notebook, which helped me out, and then I got this awesome planner. And I'm like, okay, and I learned how to time block. And that made so much more sense, because then I was focused. And sometimes I'll even set my my phone to, let's say, if I'm writing a blog, and I can sit for hours, oh, we lost tillery. Maybe I hope you didn't lose me. Anyway. So sometimes I'll set my my phone, my timer for like, 15 minutes, so I can totally concentrate on what I'm doing. And when it dings, or does whatever it does, I can get up and I can move around get the blood circulation again, circulating again. There she Yes. Yes.
My computer just went black. I was like, Okay, I'll just turn it back on. And come back. Well,
I was hoping it since I was still here. I was hoping that I wasn't lost all snow. You will?
I was gonna say I could still see me. So I just kept talking. See how we roll with the punches here?
Yeah, so we were wrapping up accountability when I just went to a block on my blackout. And I looked around to see if we lost electricity. And we did. Okay. All right. So where did we reach where what were you chatting about then?
I was just kind of explaining how the time blocking helped me. But it also keeps me accountable. Yes, that's that was the overall goal that for this tip that we wanted to give you was the accountability part.
Yes, definitely. I think the self accountability sometimes it almost feels like you're feeling yourself. Although a lot of people they look to someone on the outside to make them accountable. But I honestly believe that if you set up a system, like the time blocking and you, you making yourself accountable to you. Right, right. And if you can't be accountable to yourself, who can you be accountable to? Exactly, exactly. So typical seeing focus. Alright, so we blazed through them in the last 20 minutes. 18 to 20 minutes. Um, definitely get clear. Get clear on your intention on your goal. And recognize that? Yeah, it made me to take a few steps. Alright. Many to take a few steps of three was overwhelmed. Yes.
Don't let in and overwhelm, confusion own don't get confused and overwhelmed and don't fall into and then resources. Seek your resources, look for your resources. Don't get lost in shiny objects, catch the replay from last week. And then obviously fibers we spend the most time on with accountability. And working that into your lifestyle into your business into everything that you do ready is going to help you stay focused on achieving your goals. Yeah. So that's it for today. And we will catch you next week. Brand new time. 330. Eastern. Yes. On Wednesdays. Alright. So have a great evening, afternoon into evening, everybody. I will see you next week. Have a great week. All right. Bye bye.