Episode No. 131 Speak It Series I trust That God Has My Back

6:45PM Oct 11, 2021

Speakers:

Jessica Lauren

Toni Ann

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Hello and welcome to the Sunday jumpstart podcast, a weekly podcast helping goal diggers ditch the excuses do the work and make -ish happen. My name is Jessica Lauren and you are listening to episode number 131 Hey, welcome back to this week's episode of The SJS podcast Happy Sunday. I hope that all is well with you and yours and thank you for spending just a few minutes with me as we just continue our speaker series today's affirmation is I trust that God has my back and y'all this episode is for those of us that are going through a season where it's kind of hard to trust that God has your back you know the season I'm talking about when you ain't getting those things, you ain't get no clients signing up, when it just feels hard to believe that your dreams are going to come true is hard to keep going. Well today's affirmation is going to get you back in line and get you back to trusting that every single thing whether it's good, bad or ugly is working out for your greatest food.

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Hey there, my name is Toni Ann from real happy mom. I have been working with Jessica and I absolutely love having her as my coach, my cheerleader, my mentor to help me with reaching my goals. So I started working with Jessica back in November. She asked if I wanted to wait until the new year but I was so ready to go because I knew that I could probably do things on my own but it was gonna take me 10 times longer so I wanted to work with Jessica because I knew that she could help me fast forward at least a year or two and not have to wait to make money from my business. So working with Jessica is a lot of fun as she pushes me, she encourages me but the most important thing that I found from this session is not just reaching my goals but seeing myself change into a better person because I know that I have been a bit of a pushover and been a little too nice. So it is fun to finally see that I'm standing up for myself and just putting together a really awesome business all thanks to Jessica. So I really really loved working with her and I think you should definitely do it to our promise you won't regret it.

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Alright, ch'all so I have a 10 month old golden doodle puppy His name is Gray. Gray is so full of life, he is a really fun dog. He is hyper. He's really loving and cuddly. And he's my first dog I never had a dog in my life. In fact I used to be terrified of dogs until I moved into Chicago and if you live in Chicago and you know move and shake up north of downtown, downtown and up north will make you unafraid to dogs because dog lovers downtown and up north they do not care if you're afraid or not. They bring them into the stores and they got water out and in at the hair salon like is just the whole to do so Chicago made me afraid of dogs and so we've had gray since March. And it is so funny what God will use who God will use to teach you so many life lessons. And I learned so much from Gray every single day. And one of the biggest lessons that I just see in my relationship with Gray is is how we need to trust that we will always be provided for trust that we are always supported. Thought of and care for and loved on right. So let me tell you what I'm talking about. So gray is an early riser and so am I. Its nothing for me to wake up at 5:36 or 4 like I just be up and so does gray. And so in the mornings, I'm pretty much Gray's primary caregiver because my boy when he wakes up, he does finance so he has to wake up and be ready to for the New York Stock Exchange to open and all that stuff he just be real focused in the morning. So in the mornings me and Gray got a routine its he and I against the world. You know first thing we go outside so you could take care of his business right? And then I might make me a boo some coffee. Come upstairs make the bed. I'm showering and brushin' my teeth but no makeup like I'm just doing my thing I might read for a little bit. Gray does not like to eat breakfast first thing in the morning so let's just say from six to eight he's just hanging out with me as I'm getting my mind right? Just getting prepared for the day. And so Gray has learned you know dogs are so smart. When he's in the bathroom with me and I'm getting because first of all, you know there are so many tic tocs and jokes about how kids don't leave parents alone to go to the bathroom and do nothing. Puppies are the same way. And he's really like that with me especially because we got Gray as a surprise for Will's daughter. And when we went to pick him up he was only like 6,7,8 weeks old and will you know it was driving and I had gray in my lap like a little baby for like a couple hours you know like I was just his first point of contact so Gray don't let me walk breathe sneeze nothing without being right beside you. Right so in the mornings as I'm getting dressed he starts to get super anxious like as soon as he see that Nivea bottle coming out baby that I might have lotion that wit and I started grabbing my clothes and putting on makeup he's kind of starts getting panicky like he that's been the universal sign Mom about to go Don't let everybody begin dress he really just be going through like you're about to leave me I've got time for this I don't want to go back in that crate like it just be a whole production right and so as I'm getting dressed I have to remind him Gray relax as I'm you know putting on lotion on my feet great relax and he'll wine and jump and cry because he thinks I'm about to leave him for all of eternity. He thinks his needs aren't getting met, he thinks I'm going to abandon to him and leave him off to the walls like gray is going crazy. But in my mind, I'm getting dressed because I got some I have a fantastic day plan for you Grey so I'm getting dressed because in a minute I'm going to fix you your breakfast and get you some water and then after that we're going on a 15 minute walk around the block so that you can see you know your friends and bark at people and chase after rabbits like we're about to go do that. And then after that we've got to come in the house so you can take a nice little nap but then I got some other good stuff planned for you. Your packages from chewy done came in I don't got your bones and toys and chew things and after that, look, doggy daycare is having a party today we're going to that party. He doesn't know the plans that I have for him plans that are all good. Plans that will give him pleasure plans that will help him rest plans that will help him stay attentive and cared for and plans that will stimulate his brain. He doesn't know that because all he sees is that I'm getting dressed. And that is his cue that hey, she's moving and shaking. And half the time I don't even be going away. It's like I'm literally just getting dressed to go to my office, but sometimes I am going somewhere right? Sometimes I am about to go and get some coffee or go grocery shopping or do whatever the case I may do but he's panicking and afraid and anxious because he doesn't know the plans that I have for him. My only goal in life with my relationship with Gray is to make sure that he is cared for that's it. I don't have plans to hurt that dog. I don't have plans to embarrass him or leave him ashamed-- none of that every day that I wake up he's a part of my plans like what what good Can I bring to this dog I want him to feel loved and cuddled and cared for and fed and Oh, let me take them to the vet. Y'all Gray is more groomed than I am okay, the baby is getting these luxury bags that these little suburban little dog spots he want a doggy daycare so he could make some friends like my intentions for him is nothing but good right? But Gray throughout the day, as long as I'm not getting dressed, showery he doesn't trust that right unless he if I'm not like in His sight he just freaks out and thinks like the worst I'm gonna leave him and all of that and I keep watching him and I I'm trying to reassure him like Gray you know you don't understand what's about to happen because you're a puppy and we have a different language and all of that stuff. But I want you to relax. I got everything that's good in store for you its coming but Mama just got to get dressed first right and as I'm talking to him, I'm like just great relax. I got you all as well and you're like I promise you in just a few minutes I'm gonna get to you but I have to take care of me first right like in order for me to take you on a walk you girl got to put on some pants right?

Just give me a second and I watch him and I'm like oh my goodness that that has to be how God feels about us right when we're anxious about Well God I don't know if I'm getting my first client when is my customer coming? Oh let me pray one more time let me fast again hold on God did you forget about me Remember I told you I want a good man and oh my goodness God The money is actually funny, the bills coming up What about my business? I hope I get this grant I hope that this audition goes well Father God don't forget about me and he like yo just relax-- just trust that all of my thoughts about you are good and for you just trust that I will move heaven and earth and hell to make sure that you are at ease and are resting and have pleasure and and just give me a second right? God is thinking the same thing about us and and it doesn't feel like that because we get like Gray in those seasons where it's like God did you forget about me I had no sale in like a few days Hello is you there God Do you hear me I'm I'm creating this art and I'm not getting enough likes what were you were you telling me that you had my back but here I am you know I didn't i didn't win the pitch competition you know my book I don't send it out to seven agents and they all sent it back to me in my editor and cussed me out because this this this this essay I submitted to the magazine that was a good like God Where are you? And he's like babe I got you I have the best of the best of the best planned out for you. Just give me a second just just relax just trust right.

And that's how I am as I'm watching Grey I'm like if this dog just relax his morning doesn't have to have any anxiety any panic if he could just trust and relax like boy listen just say here just everything is good you got to be a bowl of water you got you got some little snacks out and put a bone out for you toys are right there. Just give me one second out promise you today is going to be a good day for you because that's all I care about is making you comfortable making sure you're taken care of I go out of my way to let you know that you are loved by let you sit up on my lap and kiss and-- just give me one second and y'all if I can do that for my dog. Why don't we believe that God can do that same thing for us? Why don't we trust that that the business you prayed over like Lord I just want to be my own boss and I want to help other people and I want to make good money from it and I want to thrive and shine he heard your prayer, babe. He got he like I gotcha just just just just let me work things out. And you know we want things to be so instinct, right? Gray is like come on let's let's get the day started. But it's like no, this is a process okay. So what God could be working out on the other end. You know what? I just want to see if she'll show up. Are you committed to your business like you say you are? Just Show me. Show me what it looks like. For you to work for just six months straight focus not worried about anybody else's door right love I just want to just make sure you committed okay then after you prove to me that you're committed I'm gonna bring some people into your life that can help elevate you right some supporters some investors right but first I just hey let me let me see what you're doing right because just like any parent, God is not going to give us something that we're not prepared for right you don't hand over the keys to your car to your seven year old right you will when he are 16 1718 but right now ways that you like to listen to all your little jobs do a semi rezone is when I say it's time to go put on your shoes Put on your coat head to the car I will do the driving. God is that same way with us right but we like well God you know i don't i don't focus for two weeks where are my customers Where are my clients where's all my millions of followers he like dude I mean just just the press I'm here I'm going to make all of your wildest dreams come true but but just just just do what you got to do right and trust I am working everything out for your greatest good my first you got to take some inspired action you like okay cool God I'm dedicated six months and God is bringing in supporters okay things are going well Well God now I'm ready to scale what was good okay cool we can scale but but first of all Show me how you treat your customers when they when they send you emails and say hey, I didn't get x y and z are you cursing them out for filth on Instagram and a screenshot and they text a message like can you handle that first?

I promise you I got you but first you got to show up and do do your part right and while you're doing your part you have to remember to trust and believe that God only want was best for you that in the background he is connecting every single day that in the background you are already provided for that the money is already in the account that the customers are already there you have to trust and have faith that God is just like me with Gray that from the moment you even open your eyes God has already loving on you and providing for you and working things out in your favor. He's already connecting you to the people places and things that will get you to the next level. God is not mad at you He is mad about you. He is crazy for you his eyes light up when you when your eyes light up he's delighted to you he loves the way you were he loves seeing you happy he is moving everything all the mountains out of the way he's moving heaven aand earth he's conspiring with the angels and with everything to make sure you are happy and care for and fulfilled.

Now with that being said okay, there are some times where I said tell Grey hey go over there and be quiet going you can't go sit down right there are some times where I have to withhold from Gray right especially when we're training like hey, you ain't gonna treat until up You ain't getting a tree until you stop barking you ain't doing it and like I am his parent and yes there are times where I have to discipline and put my foot down and redirect and all of that but at the end of the day even that is for his greater good so that he is safe so that he ain't poisoned if you know what I mean. All of that is so to make sure that Gray is well taken care of. So you might be like yeah that's good as Q and og I got my bag but I've been working on this past 6,7,8,9,10 years past 6,7,8,9,10 months. Cool story bro God still got your back God still loves you. God is still providing for you. You might just be in a season where Hey, hey, I'm pivoting Jessica I'm moving her I'm making her a little uncomfortable so that she moves even that is for your greatest good you just have to trust because when you don't trust then you spend your at your days anxious. When am I gonna get a customer? What am I gonna get? Oh my god, okay, when am I gonna? When is this gonna happen where you got to get to the point where you trust your dreams, and you trust God, and you trust yourself? Right? You got to get to the point where you're like, You know what? I know how I feel about this. I know what's in my heart. I know what God told me. He was going to do I can see the vision clear as day when I'm not going to do is worry about how any of that stuff will happen. What I'm going to do is relax and live my best life every single day as best I can. And I'm going to put my best foot forward Am I going to keep on taking inspired action? Yes, there will be some times where I'm frustrated. Yes, there will be some times when I'm gonna cry about it but after I cry, I'm gonna get back in line and do what I know to do. That is right that I know that Got a purpose in my heart that I know is not there by coincidence I'm not gonna worry i'm not gonna spend my days whining and crying it's easier said than done I'm not gonna lie it really is right but but when I see Gray do it he just be whining and crying and acting up and I'm just sending like dog literally in three minutes Everything will be okay and you could have spent that 30 minutes while he was winding grand jumping at peace and at rest because you trust that girl right there she's gonna provide for me I don't have a want in the world because that girl Jessica my doggy mama she got my back right and and and that's what I want to leave you with today its like yes things look weird. Things get crazy and you are allowed to be frustrated and cry and and question God. Gray be like you should be having fun because right now don't feel like that's allowed right but after you done first and cursed and whined and moaned you still have to get back in line with trust. I trust that God has my back and that everything every big thing every little thing every embarrassing thing every good thing every shameful thing every sad thing every happy moment-- all of that in some way form or fashion is working out for my greatest good I just trust it I don't I just trust it I have blind faith that it is all working out for my greatest good.

So let me give you an example of this so you guys know that my mom is a baker. She bakes cookies y'all she makes some beautiful cookies freehand she does design so if you like your mom Sesame Street cookie she got you I will Sonic the Hedgehog I got you I'm on a black panther my mama is really really talented with that and so my mom she gets frustrated because like most of us she wants to be really really present on Instagram because we've all seen the miracle that is social media and sometimes she'll get frustrated just because like maybe she'll post a picture and maybe not get no clients from it or you know a few weeks ago by and she hasn't heard anything that hasn't gotten any orders or something like that right and so her and I go through this like mama I know it feels crazy I know you're tired I know it's hard it's having faith is so hard because it because faith is literally believing with 100% your whole heart that something is going to happen that you can not see not only can you not see it your family can't see it, your friends can't see it, your husband can't see it, your boo thang can't see it-- nobody can see it but you and God. That is hard it is maddening because especially because when you keep getting proof that maybe this ain't that when stuff flop and fail and you ain't got a sale and your art and getting commissioned faith is hard and so me and my mom all the time just talk about this like I know my my I know you're not getting clients right now, but get up every day and bake try a new recipe go ahead and try some new free hand art take a new class get your new art airbrush my mama then moved on up and air brushes her cookies like she just experimenting and she was feeling really down and just doing that whole did God hear me Did I hear God wrong? I thought you know like it's just rough. And sure enough one day one of her cookie friends was like yo I got a call from Amazon yeah that Amazon I got a call from Amazon and they want to order like 600 cookies like her friend does cupcakes and my mom does cookies in girl was like yo I'm doing the 600 cupcakes Can you do the cookies I'm I'm gonna reference you and my mom was like what? But it's funny my mom was like but I don't have a website I don't have this I don't have that I don't have you know like another room in my kitchen you know like she was just going through I don't have enough help I don't have this is sure enough. Her friend passed the Amazon contact information along and my mom got her first corporate client, without a website, without a manager, without Facebook ads without a cooking degree without a therapy you know like you know we always think we got to have these things lined up well I mean my this-- I need I need a lawyer I need an LLC I don't have a graphic designer will know how to computer engineer. I don't have none. She didn't either and got her first corporate order with Amazon. Not only does she get that order, she got order after order after order after order from that she has now a corporate relationship with Amazon its so big. It's to the point that she has to take off of work to do her cookies and that was her goal. God get me to the point where I can bake and do what I love and leave my job. She ain't left the job. He But what I'm saying is, is that she didn't see any of that comment when she was crying and toiling and and whining, and rightfully so. It is hard to get up every day and make content to bake your cookies to make your purses to do the earrings to whatever it is, it is hard to do that and not see anything in return. Or even if you're seeing returns, not seeing it on the level that you've dreamt of right. But that don't mean it ain't coming that don't mean that that's not in the works for you. That does not mean that that's not in God's plans for you. But I love what my mother did is that she kept doing the work. My mama was still waking up every day baking and perfecting her craft, as if she had clients and customers banging on her door. She was still working and by you know, investing in her KitchenAid mixer and investing it, maybe was going to Western store, Williams and Sonoma upgrading things and her season of waiting and intrusting and in the process, right? While she was journeying, she was still preparing, she didn't give up. And baby Amazon came knocking on her door, a corporate order for at home chef. And if it can happen for my mother, it can happen for you, in your business, in your love life in your home, and God can do it. But you've just got to trust and relax, right? So the affirmation for this week is twofold: I trust that God has my back. And if you don't like saying God, you can say source universe you whoever fill it in. But just know that there is a higher power. I say guy because that's who he is in my life. Who is always in the background working things out. Right. So that's the first part. I trust that God has my back. And the second part is I trust that everything is working out for my greatest good. All of it the good, the bad, the ugly, the scary, all of it somehow.

Now what I can't promise is that the story right, the ending will happen this year in 2021. Some processes are a day, sometimes a week. Sometimes up here, right? I always bring up my financial Firestorm season because it was terrible. It lasted for a couple years. Right? But here I am standing with some money in my account. I am healthy, I'm whole I am well provided for right? some storms they be stormy and they get nasty. And it's okay if you cry and it's okay if sometimes you doubt when it's okay sometimes you got to question God, it's okay. But you got to get back to the trust. And how do you do that? Look back over your life, right? I'm sure there are instances where you just as I will do that's it. I'm a goner the student loan people they don't get me Well, that's it. I ain't got what I was told people I was going I don't got enough money. I don't got this. I don't got the car, My car broke down. We have all been in situations where we just thought, Well, that's it and God came at the perfect time and got us out of that mess, right? It might have took took a battle my little war might have been crying late in the midnight hour I had been there. And I think that's what sustains me is that I'm not afraid to cry. I'm not afraid to be mad at God sometimes I'm not afraid to just sit there sometimes and be like what, that I'm not afraid to stop what I'm doing and go get my coffee. I'm not I'm just not afraid to be a mess. But what I do is I just keep going I get back up Lord. I'm sorry. I was acting crazy the other day I'm back I'm back with you.

And you know I've talked about it before about having some type of a faith toolkit right and I got that from my therapist. She was just like, when things get tough. You gotta gotta prepare for that right? So what does that look like when I'm going through a storm? What helps me get out of it? Well, I got my little toolbox in my toolbox is my journal. I will journal I write letters to God like, Dear God, this sounds crazy. This feels crazy. Can you help me out? I journal I get on my camera and I just talk whatever spill it I cry. I'm a cry baby I will get a shower and just like slide down the shower wall quiet tears. I get that stuff out. I talked to my best friend Tequila. I've talked to my sister. I talked to my mama I have wise counsel that I'm surrounded with I've talked to D'Char, you know that I surround myself with people that get it and that Have faith in our faith feel? I watch what I consume, right? Yeah, I have lot order SBU. I love American Greed. I just love terrible lifetime movies and all that stuff. But when I'm in the season and I need my faith up, I turn all that stuff out right? Because a lot of that is dark and bleak. And I've just got to lift it up, I'll start you know, really delving into my affirmations speaking things into existence. What's in your faith toolkit as you are journeying as you are learning to trust God and trust yourself and trust that everything is working out when things don't look like they're working out? What can you draw from that'll help you get back aligned in locked into the trust right? I'll start doing guided meditations I'll go for walk reconnect with nature's what can you do what can you put in your faith toolbox? That I hope you when things don't feel a little trustworthy right well that's your assignment for this week I want you to start focusing on your faith toolkit what are the things that you can start leaning on what activities can you start doing that will help in faith increase your faith? Is it doing guided meditations journaling getting some affirmation cards one tool you can use is the affirmation from today I trust that God has my back and that everything is working for my greatest good. Say that everyday this week in the mirror say it while you're driving say oh why are you you know at the gym working out remind yourself that you're not in this alone that you are supported by God and that He really is connecting those dots in the background and that you don't have to waste all of your days in agony anxious waiting for you know your dreams come true right and I'm not guaranteeing instant success right? I don't want you to think hey I'm gonna blow up overnight if you do let me know that'd be awesome right? But just know those small wins the one customer the ones that counts right? And you just put it in that faith toolkit is proof it's all working out for my greatest good right? So y'all that is it for today's episode. Thank you so much for tuning in. I talked about a lot in today's episode and if you didn't get a chance to jot it down Do not worry I got you back just go to the sundayjumpstart.com and click on episode number 131 also do not forget to sign up for them goal getter sessions, honey do not do quarter for a loan if you have been stuck in your goal Chase and you just need some help you need someone to help you break down your goals and hold you accountable and check in on you every week. Be sure to check out the go getter sessions that's on the website as well the sundayjumpstart.com go get a sessions all right yeah if you want to hang out with me outside of just the podcast Be sure to follow along over on Instagram. The handle is a @Sundayjumpstart. And finally, if you could do me a huge favor leave a rate and review in Apple podcasts that really does help get our make -ish happen message out there. Alright, y'all I will be back here this Wednesday with a quick tip. Until then, I love you and I'm praying deeply for you. I hope that you have an incredible week and I will see you soon alright, bye!